Too many e-mails? Use your instant messenger!  

englishlover65 48M
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2/23/2006 8:36 am

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3/13/2006 1:38 am

Too many e-mails? Use your instant messenger!

In various magazine articles on this site, I've read that most women receive so many e-mails that they don't know what to do with them all. Well all I can say is: "Lucky you!"

Having upgraded to a silver membership a few days ago, I decide to do a search of the Stockholm area. What I discovered was far from encouraging: the male/female ratio was 25-1, or if you're into statistics, 96% of those online in Stockholm two nights ago were male. Given these terrible odds, I did what most other men have probably done at some time in the past and sent out a mass mail to all the women in the area who were online. In retrospect, I must admit that the mail was rather corny, but as I'm new to this, I'm not particularly sure of the kind of thing that would appeal (especially to twenty different women). I got one reply: "Hm, if you had written something 'original' to me, something may have come about... but your message seems a bit, how should I put it; standard.". Which said it all really. I replied back that if she had put a bit more information in her profile, then I might have had the chance to be a bit more original.
But as it is, the majority of women posting on this site (in Stockholm at least) simply don't need to write anything at all about themselves - they're going to get contacted anyway.

So what is a man meant to do? The only thing I can think of is to offer some advice to all you Stockholm women out there: TURN ON YOUR INSTANT MESSENGERS! For one, this means that guys can contact you directly online, so that you don't have to spend hours sifting through corny e-mails. However, more importantly (in my opinion at least) we can actually chat online! For me, this is a much more natural way of getting to know someone than being forced to send anonymous e-mails in the vague hope of a getting a reply.

Waitingfory68 50F

3/11/2006 11:26 pm

Hi Englishlover65.

You are right. We women get a lot of emails but the quantity is not the important, I am looking for quality.

I can only speak for myself but I try to answer most of the mails I get. If you send me a picture or two of your big dick in your first mail, I will probably not send you any answer because that's too much info for me on the first contact

I have my messenger on most of the evenings and I have chatted with several men and even met one irl. We started seeing each other and I thought that everything was OK until I discovered that he was still on AdultFriendFinder for several hours per day and was taking contact with other women?!

My experience is that many men are only here in order to have sex with as many women as possible at the shortest time possible. If I can give you want you want, why do you have the need to continue searching?

It seems as if many people are getting addicted to chatting and mailing and it takes all their time so they don't have time to have sex irl.

This is only my point of view and hopefully there are women who have had different experiences. My advice to you men "be honest and remeber: the grass is not always greener on the other side".

I know that this was not a direct answer to your question but I think that we should all gain if we could be more open and honest with each other.

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