The Lady or the Tiger  

eastend79 39M
10 posts
11/8/2005 3:22 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

The Lady or the Tiger

Wow, what a brain fart. I had a really cool idea for a post, and here I sit, slack-jawed, drooling, empty headed with no clue what I was going to type.

And those who know me know only the last part of that description is new.

Anyway...Oh yeah, now I remember..

I've been getting alot of pressure to leave my job and move south, permamently lately. They say the work is better, and their desperate for anyone, meaning someone with my background and experience in a much more restrictive enviornment can make a killing.

The problem here is that I'm in a group that I've become extremely loyal too. My Boss has treated me better and more honestly then my own father would (and has) in the workplace, and has made it clear he intends to teach me really high level stuff needed to create, and start new projects. And if I get the hang of that, that means nearly double my pay and responsibility. But that means possibly giving up a recent new relationship I just got into, which has all the indications of me actually, well, settling down (*gasp*, yeah, I can't believe it either). Work, or Private life?

If anyone out there is actually reading this, have you ever had similar experiences in this, and was your reactions?

And P.S. Of you don't see me commenting/posting blogs, is due to a rather surprise freelance writing deadline that was just dumped on me the other night.

Random Song Lyrics:

"I keep a close watch on this heart of mine
I keep my eyes wide open all the time
I keep the ends out for the tie that binds
Because you're mine, I walk the line

I find it very, very easy to be true
I find myself alone when each day is through
Yes, I'll admit that I'm a fool for you
Because you're mine, I walk the line"

- I Walk the Line

rm_LilBlondeNZ 42F
1028 posts
11/9/2005 10:57 pm


It's always a difficult choice, work or life. It really depends on what your priorities are... sometimes yo ucan have both- sometimes one at the expense of the other temporarily.

As far as working here vs. going south: From my experience, it's very difficult to find someone to mentor you, and that experience can be invaluable- truly more valuable than any college degree in your case. Although areas such as Atlanta and Tampa are in a construction boom now, it's not like that's going to end aburptly anytime soon. You have to look at the opportunity cost of missing out of learning from your boss, and also then project into the future what you may to gain by holding off on moving and staying put. I imagine that you may be better off in the long run staying a few years to develop yourself here.

As far as work vs. love: I'm definitely biased as far as this goes, but I feel that investing yourself is more important. Although you love this girl now and may want to settle down, you need to be smart. Women can always leave you, but nobody can take your education and experience away. You're young and you're at a critical point where you can really do something for yourself that will have you set for the rest of your life. She should understand that and be willing to work around it, and in fact should encourage you to do what's good for you, not just what's easy for the relationship. I don't know how "recent" your involvement is, but I find it takes a good 2 years to know someone well enough to make any kind of long term commitment with eyes wide open. It's very easy to be near-sighted when you're in love. Don't do something that you may regret down the line... Plus how you both weather the stress of this difficult situation will give you some insight on how ou will handle hardship later in life. After all, marriage isnt about love. It's about compromise.

Just my cautionary 2 cents...

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