Marriage  

duststormdiva 52F
7253 posts
6/28/2006 9:30 am

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7/6/2006 9:28 pm

Marriage

I have been thinking a lot about marriage lately and probably because my boyfriends divorce will be final next week. YAY!

He and I have talked about marriage, and we are in no rush. I don't need a piece of paper that says I love him. I show him that I love him each and every day of our lives. He shows me the same in return.

We are committed and dedicated to each other more than I ever thought possible. We are hopelessly in love with each other. He tells me he is gun shy on marriage, I don't have a problem with that. I understand, he just ended a marriage of 16 years. Hell, it's been nearly 10 years since my divorce was final, and I am not ready for marriage either.

We are going to be living together. I mean, we eat our meals together, we share the same bed, we have already made a couple big purchases together. We are planning our future. We share our dreams and our desires. We fulfill each others fantasies. We do what everything possible to make each other happy.

He loves me unconditionally. He trusts me. He massages me. He touches me gingerly. He kisses me tenderly and passionately. He always has to be touching me. He helps in the kitchen. He helps me fold laundry. He takes out the trash. He does repairs on the house. He gets me anything I need. He makes me breakfast on the weekends. He does side jobs so we have what we need.

I love him unconditionally. I trust him. I massage him. I touch him gingerly, but then get a big rowdy when my nails sink in his back when he is driving me insane with desire. I kiss him softly and wild with passion. I NEED him to touch me and I NEED to touch him. I cook for him, every day. I pack his lunch. I wash his laundry.

We love, care, desire, and trust each other. We eat dinner together every night. We talk on the phone every day on his lunch break. We talk on the phone when he gets off work. We talk on the phone when he is working at his side jobs. We take walks around the lake. We karaoke every Friday. We make love every day, at least twice. We freely give our love, desires, bodies and trust to each other.

I love him with every breath I take. I know we will be together forever, why get married? I have always agreed with the saying, "If it's not broke, don't fix it."

It's not broke, it's works perfectly. He is the love of my life.


DustStormDiva



digdug41 50M

6/29/2006 2:49 am

hey just enjoy it thats all dont sweat all that other stuff its of no consequence just be happy

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duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
6/29/2006 8:16 am

    Quoting fun1968xxx:
    I agree with what you say, and it has to be something that you both feel comfortable with. One nice thing about marriage is being able to get all of your friends and family together and say "this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, to grow old with", then have a party and celebrate the occassion. Marriage doesn't have to be more than that.

    But don't listen too much to me, I'm married, and I'm here, at the moment...

    If you ever do it, it has to be because you both really want to do it, no other reason...
We don't need to get married to throw a party to gather family and friends to say, "this is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, to grow old with." We can do it anyway.

A man asked me once when I was engaged to my ex husband after seeing my engagement ring on my finger, "I see you are engaged."

"Yes." I said smiling.

"Before you get married, I want you to think about something."

"Okay."

"Can you imagine your life with him in 30 years?"

"I can't imagine my life without him."

But I was young and naive. My ex prefers men, I was unaware of it. Even though the love I had for him was unconditional and deep and I thought a forever kind of love, his love for me was temperary. The day after we got married, he told me he didn't know that he loved me. We held it together for five weeks, then I left him. I'd rather be alone than with someone who didn't love me.

I think of that question always. I have imagined my life with my current boyfriend 30 years from now. He and I have discussed are long-term plans. He is the one. I know this, I am wiser, and approached it with caution.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
6/29/2006 8:18 am

    Quoting rm_mzhunyhole:
    My sis has lived with the same guy for 27 years..they are crazy in love..still...he left his wife for her too.
That just disproves the theory, "If they do it with you, they'll do it to ya."

I am happy for her and her guy. I love hearing success stories like that. Thanks MzHuny.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
6/29/2006 8:21 am

    Quoting digdug41:
    hey just enjoy it thats all dont sweat all that other stuff its of no consequence just be happy
Oh, dig, believe me we are enjoying. What you said, reminded me of that song, Don't Worry, Be Happy.

muwahahahahahahhaha now it will be stuck in YOUR head all day as well! hahahahahahaha

DustStormDiva


what_the_hell_az 45M

6/29/2006 12:27 pm

It is great that you feel that you are in love with each other and none of us could ever claim to know what you are actually feeling inside. If it ain't broke don't fix it, true how true. If you want the middle ground of this situation here it is. Become engaged set a date for a wedding you could even have the wedding. Just do not sign the marrage license. Quite frankly, the government has no place in the love and commitment that you want to make to each other. Not to mention the fact that you will face possible higher taxes just for getting married. The irs will combine your incomes and if you are then in a higher tax bracket, too bad, you still have to pay up.

So have the cerimony invite all the family and write your vows if you want. Go ahead and make the commitment between the two of you. After all, it is the two of you that matter in this isn't it?

A very sincere good luck to the both of you. There are many more happy endings that we need on this planet.

tommy


duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
6/29/2006 2:42 pm

    Quoting what_the_hell_az:
    It is great that you feel that you are in love with each other and none of us could ever claim to know what you are actually feeling inside. If it ain't broke don't fix it, true how true. If you want the middle ground of this situation here it is. Become engaged set a date for a wedding you could even have the wedding. Just do not sign the marrage license. Quite frankly, the government has no place in the love and commitment that you want to make to each other. Not to mention the fact that you will face possible higher taxes just for getting married. The irs will combine your incomes and if you are then in a higher tax bracket, too bad, you still have to pay up.

    So have the cerimony invite all the family and write your vows if you want. Go ahead and make the commitment between the two of you. After all, it is the two of you that matter in this isn't it?

    A very sincere good luck to the both of you. There are many more happy endings that we need on this planet.

    tommy
Why have a ceremony and NOT get married? We have already committed to each other. We know we will spend the rest of our lives together. Our families know that we are in love with each other. Why pretend? That's just dishonest. Our relationship is not built on dishonesty.

If we feel the need to have a get together, we'll do it in our home. Invite family and friends over for a "New Beginnings" party.

I don't care if he ever proposes to me and I don't even care if he puts a rock on my finger. That's all irrelevant to the love we have for each other. We don't need the material things or the certificate to say we love each other. We just need each other.

This relationship started out controversial with him being married and leaving his wife after he started seeing me. We were not dishonest with anyone about how it started, we will not be dishonest with anyone about living together. We answer to only one person, and that is our Higher Power. We don't answer to society. We don't have to prove anything to anyone. The only thing we have to continue doing is showing each other that we love each other unconditionally, totally and completely.

DustStormDiva


duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
7/1/2006 4:21 pm

    Quoting fun1968xxx:
    It sounds like you have thought about it a fair bit. You sound really happy and comfortable with your choice, esp in the light of past experiences. Well done!!

    And wiser is good! Be happy, have fun!
I have had 40 years to think about relationships and what I want in mine. I am just lucky to have the man to go with the dreams.

DustStormDiva


crazygurl2xx 58F

7/5/2006 5:22 pm

a relationship like that .. cherish.


duststormdiva 52F
6854 posts
7/6/2006 9:28 pm

With every breath we take, we both cherish every second of our relationship. Our love is amazing. Words will never be good enough to describe the intensity of it all. * sighs a content and very happy sigh *

DustStormDiva


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