Why I prefere coffee shops..  

dublos 52M  
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2/23/2005 5:04 pm

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Why I prefere coffee shops..

When it comes to first meetings, I hope it doesn't need to be said that getting together in a nice public place is required.

Practice Safe online dating people.

I prefer coffee shops over bars for a few reasons.

First, it's quieter. I have some problems discriminating voices in noisey situations and so it's a good thing if we're meeting someplace I can feel assured I'll hear what you have to say.

Second, Bondaries aren't altered. Ok, so sometimes it's a little easier to get things started with a little liquid courage under your belt, but for me, not the first time. Not the first time we meet and not the first time things get intimate. The first time I don't want boundaries weakened by strong drink or anything else. I want a real, sober and happy to be there partner.

If ya gotta have a drink or two to go forward, maybe you shouldn't be going forward yet?

And last of all.. it's low pressure. I don't know of any coffee shops that push folks out the door when their cup empties. There's no waitress wandering over "Are you all done now?". If we want to get out of there and go someplace less public for some serious smooching in the first 15 minutes, cool! But if we actually get wrapped up in conversation it's nice to be doing that someplace that won't break the mood.

papyrina 52F
21133 posts
2/24/2005 4:49 am

i agree totally and do the same when i'm meeting for the first time,plus safe,public and gives both people time to run if things don't go as planned

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