menopause and hysterectomy bull shit  

druidrocker 63F
890 posts
8/16/2006 4:07 pm
menopause and hysterectomy bull shit

"Those who have had a hysterectomy or an oophorectomy have more severe hot flashes. Other symptoms include night sweats, or the vagina may become dry and thin, causing sex to be painful."

I was looking for information for a friend on hot flashes and herbal remedies and I found once again the comment about dry vagina's and painful sex in regard to menopausal women. I only have one comment about that - FUCK YOU - you stupid shit - stop spreading that Bull Shit propaganda.

I had a total/complete (everything gone - nothing left) hysterectomy about 10 years ago - and guess what - the world did not end. The only problem w/my sex life was my stupid X-hubby who had no imagination and fewer skills. I replaced him w/a younger more imaginative man w/great hands and OMG - all systems were go and there was not a single issue - imagine that - and I continue to enjoy sex on a regular basis 10 years later - no dryness and no pain. >>!

Thousands of women have this surgery every year and are fed this BS and come away w/preconceived ideas that feed the myth until becomes fact.

Read and work with your doctor to find out what drug or supplement works for you - everybody is different - that is why there are so many to choose from - keep trying until you find one that works well for you. Then get a grip and decide that you are still sexy. Once you get all of that worked out - you will be fine.

Here is a fact - the more sex you have - the healthier your vaginal tissue will be - it's like any other mussel in your body - the more exercise it gets the stronger it becomes. Yes - exercise can be fun.

As for the hot flashes - ya - I get them - every time I see a hot guy !

vrec_dawn 41M

8/17/2006 6:08 pm

"That is why I highlighted the word "you".
The shitheads are the "experts" that keep shouting gloom and doom - how about a positive article - how about looking into alternative ideas - how about giving these women some hope instead of telling them it is always their fault and that they just have to live with it.

I hate to say it, but that's pretty much Standard Operating Procedure for the medical community these days. (At least in America.) They're so worried about being sued that they make sure to tell you all of the bad news. Somehow the good news gets forgotten. Like after taking antibiotics how you should rebuild your immune system. They always seem to forget that part. It's why I'm looking more and more into homeopathic medicine. More nature. More hope.

druidrocker replies on 8/17/2006 7:17 pm:
I actually have a PDR of Herbal Medicine - I do my homework and determine for myself what "drugs" I will and will not take. I have some "prescription" drugs that I have to take and I also have argued w/my doctor and even win now and then - and take supplements for other things - it's a balance and you just have to work to find out what is going to be best for you.

Always keep your options open and never settle for the first thing - unless it's really helping and there are no problems - then count your blessings and have a happy life.

MissAnnThrope 57F
11488 posts
8/17/2006 9:22 am

What they don't tell you about vaginal dryness is, once you're past the change, that clears up in most women. However, I've known women who complain about the dryness, but they've never complained about the walls thinning or painful sex. They just used a lubricant until that cleared up and got back to normal.

Hot flashes however, oh yeah, I've known a few going through that and to date, as I seem to be in perimenopause, I've had one. During a blizzard. I wanted to put on my bathing suit and go roll in the snow. However, that was the only one, I haven't had any other symptoms and if it wasn't for the fact the breasts are no longer perky, I'd be screaming at my body to hurry the hell up and get it over with!

druidrocker replies on 8/17/2006 4:54 pm:
Great approach - face it square on and don't let all the negative talk get to you - once you get past the learning curve - it's great - there are a lot fewer issues to deal with every month.

freetime648 53F

8/17/2006 12:20 am

It is like you said...EVERYONE is different! I went through the dryness and was never told of this by a doc! I am now at the stage of getting wetter than a soaked try to refrain calling people stupid shits for reading this stuff. It is a scary situation to be in and all information one can get can be helpful to them personally! I hope I did not misunderstand this post...but it seems a tad bit judgemental on your part!

Everyone has different symptoms and different recovery reactions!

xx FREETIME648 xx

druidrocker replies on 8/17/2006 4:52 pm:
Yes - you did misunderstand - the people reading need to know as much as they can - but the most talked about problem is how dry and painful sex is and it scares those women who are too shy or afraid to talk about it so much - they just stop living - it a problem that can be overcome but you have to know it can be resolved and you have to look for the answer that best works for you. That is why I highlighted the word "you".
The shitheads are the "experts" that keep shouting gloom and doom - how about a positive article - how about looking into alternative ideas - how about giving these women some hope instead of telling them it is always their fault and that they just have to live with it. A huge part of working through this is a positive attitude - something hard to develop when you are not given much hope and the first thing you are told is that you will have this problem or that problem and you just need to deal with it.

JazzDlight 61F

8/16/2006 5:52 pm

I saw you a couple of times in the watch blog list as a matter of fact saw you this morning...yes I get my exercise but not very often...sigh*

druidrocker replies on 8/16/2006 6:21 pm:
Thanks for letting me know that I am up at least sometime - and honey - you don't get enough exercise only because you are sooooooo choosy - not that that is a bad thing - I respect your self control.

JazzDlight 61F

8/16/2006 5:38 pm

A what oophorectomy? Never heard of that to dry vagina dont know that one can you hum a few bars? lol the hot flashes I have and they suck but the freaking way baby...when I am with you know who you know that guy I told you about and he starts sucking my nipples the river starts to flow man I hate to admit it but that man can make me cum by just being in the same zip code as me....that the damn can't hold it and it bursts. Funny though really have not had too many hot flashes the past few days. I hope it stays that way. Hugs, Jazz

druidrocker replies on 8/16/2006 5:46 pm:
EXACTLY - I hope people get to see this because my blogs never get "featured" and this is one that I hope gets read - the truth must be known.
I bet this whole thing was started by some F'ed -up man who blamed his wife for his lack of skills. /8 ;!;

Oh - and I am glad to hear your still getting your share of "exercise" !

vrec_dawn 41M

8/16/2006 4:35 pm

Good rant. Hope you're working that muscle. He he he.

But yeah. Even if it does 'dry out' there's plenty of ways to get around that. No reason to stop enjoying sex.

druidrocker replies on 8/17/2006 4:56 pm:
no need indeed !

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