Keeping relationships casual 2  

drnick20054 29M
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9/6/2006 5:26 am
Keeping relationships casual 2


Don’t get into any patterns-As time goes on, it’s very easy to slip into a pattern; a formulaic habit that is destined to land you directly in the middle of a dedicated relationship. Apartment key duplicates and engagement rings follow dating patterns like a dutiful dog.
By keeping your communication inconsistent and making future plans via spur-of-the-moment ideas, you eliminate the possibility of the dreaded routine. Keep your call intervals spaced and even erratic, and make a point of setting dates on different days and times each week.

Keep all discussion topics light-You must be interesting while focusing almost entirely on light and simple subjects, but remember not to confuse casual conversation with indifference and vagueness. You don’t have to change the subject everytime she talks about something, but you don’t want to start waxing about your childhood or get into your political and religious beliefs, because both could lead to that nasty little thing called “closeness.”
Instead, keep things neutral while remaining that same great guy she adored on your first date. If you really think about it, there are a million easy-going topics to chat about: there's an endless slew of “favorite” subjects or you can bring up travel, entertainment, whether you prefer cats or dogs, and so on.

Refer to the casual nature of the relationship-Make constant reference to the casual nature of your relationship in subtle, consistent ways. Say things like
.“I really have no idea where I’ll be next week.”
.“I love summer; it gives me such a sense of freedom.”
.“I think I’m gonna take it easy for the next couple of days.”
The intent of such statements is to invoke pleasant conversation that has no monogamous hindrances.

Keep your friends out of the picture-Welcoming her into your home is one thing, but welcoming her into every aspect of your life is quite another. You’re shooting for a casual foundation to your coupling and if you start inviting her to ball games with your closest friends, you could be in for a world of attachment. After you introduce her to your friends go ahead and have her meet that brother. Heck, introduce her to your parents on the second date.
She'll be less clingy if you keep your friends and family out of the relationship. Your crazy college buddies are always an appealing topic of conversation, but having her meet them is risky. If she gets to know your best friend well enough, she might start picturing him wearing a best man tux.

Keep her friends out of the picture-And you're best to stay away from her friends, too. The very last thing you want to do is endear yourself to a gaggle of approving female friends, many of whom may be pushing her to take the plunge when the right guy comes along. Subconciously, a girl thinks that if you’re taking the time to meet her friends it’s because you’re in it for the long haul. So keep out of her personal life, and keep your relationship with her as private as possible

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