dontdateyou 45F
140 posts
2/9/2006 9:58 am

Last Read:
3/5/2006 9:27 pm


To wake, to die
to be alive through your eyes.

To see the pain, the tears.

Rivers of invisible blood drain from a once full heart.

Now shrivled, empty, trash.


I Loved the wrong one.

rm_DarknStar 55F
2823 posts
2/9/2006 10:40 am

(I loved the wrong one)...damn that shoe fits, on my foot, toooo!

MillsShipsGayly 53M

2/9/2006 12:32 pm

Do you still love yourself?
Self-esteem intact?

rm_TheMelobro 60M

2/9/2006 2:40 pm

I'm still not over making a similar mistake..lovin the WRONG one. I do feel for you( I just can't reach you from here!) I did however read up on some facinating information about people that are..shall we say "Messed up". It's about personality disorders and narcisism.The type of people that drive other people NUTS!!!. The best advice(And naturally the most difficult and painful after caring so much) is No Contact with them. You can't help or change them and you end up setting your self up for the same hurtful YO YO ride all over again. Just type Narcisism in your search dealie and become vindicated,educated.exonerated and most importantlt ..Liberated...Good Luck!

dontdateyou 45F
42 posts
2/9/2006 4:25 pm

Thank you, that had never occured to me...He does fit that profile in many ways!!!

rm_emerald6912 50M
545 posts
2/9/2006 5:50 pm

Loved the wrong one, dont if i could say loving is wrong, more as case for me of the wrong time.

nice words to read, tnx.

Grow2big 54M
75 posts
2/9/2006 6:40 pm

Ah pain. It reminds us that we are alive. I am sorry for your hurt. Neither I or anyone else can fix it. YOU. Grieve, get angry, seclude yourself, do whatever you need. Reach within YOU and go on. I know easy for me to say. I will pray for you. Odd thing to say on this site I guess but I have faith it will help. Looking at your posts I see a sensitive and creative person. Point her toward the light.

Cowboy_Deluxe 39M

2/9/2006 6:46 pm

Well at least you got the wrong part down.
Now you have to search for what is right, and that will take awhile..


toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
2/9/2006 7:15 pm

but that 's only till you love the right one... ...

dontdateyou 45F
42 posts
2/9/2006 7:44 pm

GROW:Thank you grow, You sure did bring a smile to my face!

rm_Lookin4the12 50M
3 posts
2/9/2006 8:17 pm

I can't say I loved the wrong one. I can say that while I was in love with her, I also had a stalker that worked hard to break us up. Hacked into my email and hers, sent emails from my account, created false identities on a free email server claiming to be me. It was all I could do to find out who this person was, unfortunately it all came too late. The damage was done, and was irreversible. I still hurt from it and it's 18 months later. All I have to show is broken dreams and a mile of hurt. In the end, although I won the war, I still lost and it still cuts very deep.

Sorceror07 55M

2/9/2006 9:37 pm

    Quoting rm_DarknStar:
    (I loved the wrong one)...damn that shoe fits, on my foot, toooo!
as the lady says, that shoe fits... one size fits all though. i think we've all done that at least once in our lives... i've done it more than once, i guess just to make sure i learned that lesson well or maybe because i was looking too hard, or maybe i was "settling", or impatient with the process. who knows? i sure don't, i've stopped telling myself that i do know at least

when comes the time that we can admit our own fallability to ourselves then we are truely prepared for growth. keep what MichaelIG65 says in mind... and don't treat yourself like a punching bag because you loved the wrong man... love is NEVER wrong, no matter how right it is... or how wrong it turns out to be in the end.

...That which does not kill me merely pisses me off!...

L00kin4Passion 57M
61 posts
2/10/2006 2:01 am

"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection."

Look around hun. It took what? 48 hours? for these folks to notice how special and sweet you are? Maybe not what you'd expect from a sex site but hopefully you'll find some of the real peeps here in blogland helpful in your quest wherever it takes you.

I quote stuff I find out in the world and much of it's anonymous but often strikes a cord that causes me to keep and or share it. I happen to know the author of this one personally:

"You are far better than you think and more important than you know for reasons you likely will never understand."

The steps you take are yours but know there are many who will help if they can, maybe have been there before, maybe feel your pain, maybe ...???

Michael4u06 63M
22 posts
2/10/2006 3:34 am

So many fish in the sea. So hard to find the right one to swim with. - I just want to find someone who has a nice tail; won't trade me in for hot bait; won't turn out to be a shark or a sea snake; knows how I like my worm cooked and enjoys cooking it that way.

Life in this ocean is a fishy school, where we are teased with bloody chum and kicked in the gills until we'd rather stop swimming than go to school again. We start out oblivious to the predators and nets around us. Somewhere along the way we decide there must be some lesson to be learned.... It's all speculation from there.

Sounds morbid, doesn't it. Well, the sea is a dangerous place. Its depths are dark and cold; and its beautiful reefs can cut to the quick; but its waters are teaming with life, vibrant colors and wondrous surprises beyond imagination.

Though it may be scary at times, and though some here may disappoint; it is nice sharing this pond with you. Drop by my reef, when you get the urge to go for a swim.

fantasylover_05 63M

2/10/2006 5:34 am

I think pretty much everyone has at one time or another loved the wrong one.......

I am sorry you are in such pain.....

As tragic and difficult as this may be.... it is also an opportunity for you to go find the right one that will love you back!!!

I do wish you the absolute very best.....

oldman1776 79M
3164 posts
2/10/2006 9:13 am

There is a right one some where keep looking.

SpaceRangerNJ 56M
4687 posts
2/10/2006 10:53 am

Well, I'm not sure I loved the wrong person it just is no longer right. I learned a lot from her. I grew in many ways. And in the process of ending the relationship I am growing yet again. What will be on the other side of the process I am just beginning will be a different me.
Since the comment by TheMelobro seemed to fit you might want to see the thoughts of TennisMaiden in the post The waking of tennismaiden.

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