Have you ever not replied to a genuine hello?  

dmrwa 37M
29 posts
5/19/2006 4:45 pm

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Have you ever not replied to a genuine hello?

It's funny
- the other day I wrote to someone who had turned down both a network invitation and who had failed to respond to a letter that I had spent time and effort writing.

Normally I never write back. Why bother? They probably haven't read a word you have said - or in fairness - if they have and don't consider it polite to even write a quick note - saying thanks, but no thanks - well maybe they aren't the type of person who'd appeal to me.

This time, however, I was genuinely disappointed. The person seemed quite nice and had so many features highlighted that would suggest a friendly and caring personality. Leaving one of two options - either I'm an arsehole and not good enough for someone that good - or I misjudged or offended. Bugged me.

So to all out there that I have written too and caught a tack without tact or struck a note of disharmony - if I have offended - I apologise to you. If I have failed to captivate, mesmorize and musify - I apologise to myself. If it is apathy on your part - I apologise for those who have taken when they should have given. I'm a realist, however, and truly believe that it's a case of not good enough. May you find your poetry answered and your heart's song echoed by a soul with equal passion and with fire of desire to match and allow you to together eclipse the blinding flares of life's trials and disappointments. I am most sorry, however, if I have misrepresented myself, because herein lies a soul that deserves more and that could shine most brightly were it not for the shades that my fears and insecurities have drawn across the eyes.


ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
5/19/2006 5:32 pm

For myself I try to write back as soon as possible. being a standard member I am only allowed so many emails per day so it can take awhile , with writing back to a few others who have become friends. You are right in that at the very least a comment or message back is in order. I am sorry this has happened to you.

honeypot7473 44F

5/19/2006 5:42 pm

How did you misrepresent yourself? Did you write back after not receiving an answer? Sometimes people don't answer because they don't want to take the time to say no. It's rude and it sucks to be that way to another human being, but you have to get pass it and not let the people with no sense of just being descent, make you lose interest. Some of us answer even we the other person is not what we're looking for.

dmrwa 37M

5/20/2006 3:45 pm

Shy and Honeypot - thank you for taking the time out to comment - much appreciated.

Lips - thanks for the support and advice. It's funny though - on this occasion my message definitely wasn't overwhelming although I take the point. I tend not to get so carried away with people I have never met or chatted with. I just find it hard to create a false bond - even if the signs are promising. With those I know longer, however, yes - I can find a soul that lets the imagination expand.

The pic - the bloody pic! Should it stay or should it go? Lips - you more than any knows that it wasn't placed on a whim. For the moment I think I should probably withdraw it, (no puns intended), although - I think this may spell the end of my - "Oh My God - someone has actually checked out my profile" days! Seriously - since a picture went up I get about 5 times the correspondence I previously received. Ah well - it's not as if I haven't met someone who more than captivates!

So - last question - What am I going to find to put up instead of it? - Answers on a postcard to - Lob the Knob? Truncheon Road, Co. Dong,

naughty5171 47F

5/22/2006 6:05 pm

dmrwa, I don't know you very well,hun, but you seem like a genuinely sweet and sincere man. I only wish I lived closer so, if nothing else we could have a chat over a beverage of your liking and enjoy a nice friendship. Don't bother with people who don't respond, the ones who reply are the ones worth knowing.
chin up, sweetie

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