Chemistry: Does it matter in AFF-land?  

dfw_femme_fatale 47F
412 posts
9/29/2005 6:44 pm

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Chemistry: Does it matter in AFF-land?

(guys - this would be considered a "chick-blog". Most girls will get it immediately. Guys read at your own risk.)

I met a very nice AdultFriendFinder member for lunch today. It was a fun, nice encounter. He wanted "dessert," I thought it best we remain "friends."

I didn't feel the "thing" aka chemistry. Do you think that is such an odd thing to be looking for on a sex/swingers site? Afterall, the majority of guys here are just looking for casual encounters and most could care less if chemistry is present. I don't judge them at all.

But don't you think that the "indescribable something" adds so much to an encounter? Doesn't it get yor blood flowing, your skin tingling? Am I crazy for requiring such feelings from anyone I become intimate with even if its not a "forever" kind of thing?

I sometimes wonder if this is the site for me. I'm not looking for casual encounters, but what I am looking for is too "sexually adventerous" for most traditional men.

rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
9/29/2005 8:12 pm

Maybe I'm wierd but I absolutely get it! There is no question in my mind that having that good feeling about someone makes you want to have sex with them more. There is no passion without it. Hell you might as well masturbate, you'll probably enjoy that more!

Jobe00 43M
211 posts
10/1/2005 2:19 pm

Don't think you're crazy for wanting a little spark to kick things off.
I think I need the same thing myself, because just sex isn't doing it for me.

WNYCalienteCpl 42M/36F

10/1/2005 7:19 pm

Sure this is a sex/swinger site, we know that, but for us if there is no connection, there will be no sex. We generally do not play around on the first meeting and are quite up front about this. There has been times tho that the chemistry was just so strong from the very first instant that we have played the first night, but that is the exception not the rule.....for us the sex is much better when you take the time to know what the other(s) desire, want, need to make the experience wonderful for all involved.

ProtonicMan 49M

10/1/2005 7:26 pm

I totally agree with you. I wouldn't enjoy sex without chemistry. I can buy a doll or a whore for that.

Although, having gone without for so long, I don't think it would take much chemistry to get me over that threshhold.


slidein2meplz 63F
1994 posts
10/5/2005 9:10 pm

Yes...there must be some sort of chemistry...some spark to take it to the next level.

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