demonicsexkitten 42F
7239 posts
2/25/2006 2:05 am

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Do you think it's better to meet soon after beginning correspondence with somebody, or do you feel it's better to wait a while first? And how long is "too much waiting"? There are a few people here on AdultFriendFinder that I'm in correspondence with that I used to want to meet. I still do, really, but it seems the longer we keep from meeting "in real" the less eager/urgent i feel for meeting. It's like the novelty wore off or something. Though it's not just how long we've been corresponding--my life is never so simple. The particular guy I'm thinking of right now... he lives a city over (Well: it depends if you consider "spokane/city of spokane valley" as 2 cities or if it's still "spokane/spokane valley" as one area). We've discussed meeting a dozen times, but still haven't done so. I can understand and accept not meeting ppl who live far away for months or years after beginning correspondence, but the SAME city? Come, now... even I can find time to meet for coffee. Usually.

Letters are starting to blurr together. Better step away from the screen for a while.

But first: Just to share...

A new co-worker asked me how old I am today. When I told her she was shocked and said she thought I was about 21 (her own age). Gotta love her. hahah.

Song stuck in my head: "Whiskey for my men, Beer for my horses"

I tried finding the lyrics to share, but ended up finding a site that tried installing spyware. On the bright side: my spyware/adware blocker works.

oldemt47 70M

2/25/2006 11:57 am

Interesting question. Unlike the Visual where you only have so long to take that step, in BLOG Land, virtual world, you can “talk” for a long time before taking that step. One would think that is a good thing, learn as much as you can before taking the leap and reduce the chance it will turn out bad. But is that what happens? Not often. The longer you write each other the more complete the virtual image you build, filling in little pieces with each note. Soon you have a complete picture, now you are afraid the real person will not match the picture you built. Trouble…. Wait too long and one or both will become afraid to find out the picture is wrong. But do not just right into the meet, a little caution is a good thing.
As for the rest of us. We wait for each installment to reach BLOG land and wonder, wish, are thankful, and applaud the real life stores these Meets can invoke. Waiting for you next installment here is an Old EMT HUG <>

Another song for you "It's Going To Be A Good Day." ,<>

demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
2/25/2006 2:26 pm

oldemt: *hugs* back thanks for replying.

Ummm.. i actually hadn't even thought about blogland when writing this. The person that I was frustrated with this morning has never read my blog. lol.

as for your song... it's a very good thing i can't remember the lyrics, or even the tune haha.

KMA5 41M
771 posts
2/25/2006 3:28 pm

Might as well meet for some drinks or something, Tips. A coffee meeting couldn't hurt unless the java is really that bad
I suppose the initial urge of meeting someone new can seem strong and then wear off but it doesn't mean the meeting would be less significant. I think that this, a times, shows how comfortable you will be with the other person when meeting later.

ProtonicMan 49M

2/25/2006 6:20 pm

I'm afraid I can't really help you with this one, DSK.

I haven't found many people from the DEE-troit area who are into blogging, and I'm still trying to figure out how to get the local ladies to WRITE back when I send an initial e-mail. Any suggestions?

Personally, I would want to meet within a couple weeks of first contact, though, because I'm impatient (and horny). I think KMA5 is right on about meeting for coffee. It's public, it's safe, it's short, inexpensive, and affords you both an opportunity to size one another up.

Here's another tip. Schedule a tentative meeting with friends for after. That way, if the meet falls apart you have an excuse to break it off. "Oh, look at the time! I have to be somewhere." If things are going well, and you want to talk longer, you can just call and cancel.

Good luck.


rm_coathanger1 49M
859 posts
2/25/2006 8:26 pm

Personally I would tend to want to meet sooner than later. My reasoning is you pretty much know with a first meeting what you would want from a relationship with a person.


demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
2/25/2006 11:31 pm

I almost always meet for coffee. I do'nt drink alcohol. i have met for dinner, and went to lunch before. Thankfully i've never had a bad meeting But then i always meet for "just friends". Start at step one. and in a bookstore so if things go bad... well: very public, as mentioned. plus i've always got books to fall back on

KMA5 and coathanger1: thank you for your input covered both ends of the spectrum.

Um... TJ: you could always tell me their handles, and i'll threaten to go beat them up for being morons heh. Seriously though... would a testimonial help any? I'm not sure if anybody really looks at those. But i'll leave one if you think it might

oldman1776 79M
3164 posts
2/25/2006 11:35 pm

I think that you should talk for awhile but if you wait to long one or the other will start to get the Idea that the other dosn't want to meet.

Servicer4all 38M

2/26/2006 12:07 pm

Apparently I'm the jackass that hasn't met up with Deomnicsexkitten (and yes I do occasionally read your blog ). The reason we haven't met? Not sure. I guess its just cause I'm a dork sometimes. She and I both have a lot going on in our lives and time is at a premium. Sorry if you feel I've been a jerk, that has not been my intent.

demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
2/26/2006 1:13 pm

i never said u were a jackass.... just it's frustrating. I hope you're not mad at me.

Hmm... i thought you were in my network. Re-adding you.

Thank you for reading my blog.... umm... and responding. though i feel guilty now.

IM me.

volcanoinu23 54M

3/7/2006 5:56 am

I say meet as soon as you are phsyically able and comfortable. Life's expereiences are about meeting new people. Afterward, call them friends, call them strangers, call the aquaintences but at least call them someone you have met.

Personally, I am at my best in these fresh one on one meetings. It is getting there that seems to be the problem!

markisinspok469 60M/70F
28 posts
7/19/2006 12:08 pm

id like to meet u some time for coffee demonicsexkitten.

i wish u had more pic's of ur whole body to see. i dont mean naked pictures.

so you take it easy aand i hope you find some people soon to have fun with.

bye sweetheart.!!

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