dasher121 37M
3656 posts
12/7/2005 7:18 am

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My personal hero is my older sister. She was doubted at many times in her life. She was labeled "The problem child" by my entire family. When she didnt graduate high school they all said "There's a surprise." And then something happened. It was like she just opened up her eyes one day. She went back and aced her equivalency test, got into college, and not only that but was on the deans list for good grades every semester. Ill say that again, every semester.
She's lived on her own since she was 18rs old, payed her bills, worked, and went to school. And slowly but surely, she got it done. She graduated high honors and got a great job helping children with problems. She has been my partner in crime, my confidant, my advisor in life and love(though sometimes her advice can be harsh, but I am her little bro). And she is the ass kickingest toughest little skinny girl I have ever met. Men fall all over themselves for her.
She endured a bad marriage and a terrible divorce. Then she found her childhood sweethart. The Clyde half to her Bonnie. But he changed too, got his shit together. They are very happy and wonderful people now. And now, I find that my hero has cervical cancer. Her world is crushed and her chance of one day having children is in jeapordy. Im in shock, and though my faith has slipped over the years, I pray that things will work out. She is a wonderful woman who could pour so much great knowledge into her child. I feel crushed, and I share in her pain. But Ill never know how it feels. To possibly lose such a thing. I couldnt even imagine.
I dont admire celebrities, at all. They are there for entertainment purposes. For instance, Im a big Jackie Chan fan lol. I have a shit load of his movies and some posters at home. Ive read his auto-biography and his life is truely amazing. But he's not my hero. Hero's are real people, they are mortal, not god-like. They are the regular people in our lives who do unregular things. They are the single moms, the abused, the shunned, the terminally ill, the firefighters and medical people who save lives every day, the school teachers who turn kids lives around just by introducing them to creativity and knowledge,the people who fight up hill battles every day of their lives. Those qualify as hero's to me, not some sports player who makes 20 million a game. Their life is set, in motion, and made for them no matter how hard it was to get to where they are at.
It's all about the people who fight just to stay in the regular flow of things. Those who when they go to bed at night tired, worn out, but happy to do the work. Because they dont do it just for them. I admire those with true feelings, real trials and tribulations. Those are the people who make me feel silly for worrying about my trivial problems in life. And they deserve all that we can show and give, and more.

Efilnikufecin69 48M

12/7/2005 8:10 am

Respect and big kisses and hugs to your sis dude! My sister also went through that as well as my mother, but they fortunately had no problems and everything went well. My sis was lucky enough to have been able to have children, before they found out. I too am no religeous man, and I would more than likely catch fire if I stepped into a Church right now, but I will also pray for her. You just make sure she stays strong and doesn't start getting depressed, otherwise it could get dangerous. She is a true hero, and one to look up to. She is obviously a fighter, and I am sure, though I do not know her, she will make it through this too, in top form!

Brotherly Hugs

TheLilFondler 34F
2576 posts
12/7/2005 8:52 pm

i hope all works out hun and she has my respect and best wishes as do you hun *hugz

i lost my virginity years ago.....
but i still have the box.....

tillerbabe 57F

12/7/2005 9:23 pm

I've said it before Dasher....YOU are so very beautiful!!!! {=}

rm_corezon 54F
3376 posts
12/7/2005 11:25 pm

I can see how you might be a bit preoccupied...will be thinking about you and your sister...seeing the best outcome...

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
12/8/2005 2:19 am

If she is anything like her brother, then she is a beautiful person worthy of all the best. She has already shown that she dosen't let life beat her down and that she is a fighter. With her determination and strength and with her family rallied behind her in support and love, all will work out.

"You have to find a silver lining to every situation...." remember?

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
12/8/2005 2:20 am

If she is anything like her brother, then she is a beautiful person who is truly worthy of all the best. She has already shown that she doesn’t let life beat her down and that she is a fighter. With her determination and strength and with her family rallied behind her in support and love, all will work out.

"You have to find a silver lining to every situation...." remember?

dasher121 37M

12/8/2005 5:41 am

Hey all, Im doing one big comment here. Thank you very much for the support. She got really freaked out but it is fine. Just found out that after her surgery she will not lose the ability to have children, just lose the ability to have them naturally.
I cheered her up by telling her that she does not do well with pain anyway and she would be yelling "Bring on the drugs mother fuckers!!" haha. So all is better. Stress is still there cause her doctor is a fucking moron. But other than that:

Efiln- thanks alot man, really. and for sharing the personal experience as well. and the fact that you would offer prayers but are not religious says something great about your soul.

Divinity- yes, a whole lot of ass kicking will be done, thank you also.

Till- coming from a beautiful person like yourself, im honored thank you.

Curious- speechless. thank you also, and yes there is a silver lining. there always is and always will be.

femme872 30F

12/8/2005 6:13 am

Wow thats alot for anyone to go through... but i have no doubts that she will never have any regrets and thats alot to smile about.

dasher121 37M

12/8/2005 8:29 am

femme- yes and i cant even imagine how she feels. im not a woman so i dont know what it would be like to lose the gift of giving life. im just glad that that wont happen to her. and i feel for anyone that would have to endure that.

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
12/8/2005 8:45 am

Im sorry Axl. For you, her, your whole family. I know this may sound dumb now but there are beautiful babies in Romania, Russia, China ect. that NEED parents. A baby does not need to be DNA related to love it, they become your own flesh and blood anyway.

dasher121 37M

12/8/2005 9:34 am

Corezon- thank you for your thoughts and best wishes

SisterSaint- That does not sound dumb at all, believe me. There are many children out there who need good homes and good people. But, I know that if she couldnt have her own, that would not solve her helpless or heartache. I thank you for the great suggestion though. It shows alot about where your mind and heart is. And that is a very comforting thing.

(Princess Lips)

12/8/2005 10:57 am

*pray for her...* hugs!

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dasher121 37M

12/14/2005 4:44 am

redlips- thank you very much for the prayers and for leaving that link. very beautiful and touching.

MrNuttz05 50M

12/15/2005 9:39 pm

Bro', I know that to hear it from someone who doesn't know, or isn't there doesn't weigh a lot, but with all that I have been through, there is definitely a higher being than us. And just like you, Efilnikufecin69, & others I am NOT the most religious person, but EVERYTHING happens for a reason.... When she does have birth, expect big those Uncle Dahser... Big things! Give Sis a hug from us all...

MrNuttz05 50M

12/15/2005 9:41 pm

BIG THINGS.... Yeah, that's what I meant to type... Big things... Not big those(That's what happens when you work a 24 hour shift)..... AAAAAHHH MY KEYBOARD IS ATTACKING ME! We Love SIS...

dasher121 37M

12/16/2005 1:13 pm

greatly appreciate your words as always my friend. dude, if im ever in the area im def buying you a beer!

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