Miss manners.  

dancewithme29 47F
207 posts
6/20/2005 12:12 pm

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Miss manners.

Is it polite to fuck on the first date? I suppose it's not really impolite but probably a bad idea. I know it happens all the time kiddies...myself included but..oh crap, sis is here. More later.

Okay, so the way I view it if I really like the guy and could see myself actually dating him I typically don't screw the first night (this isn't always true). It's unwritten that you probably won't see the guy again if you give it up the first night. I guess that's fine in a lot of cases...I'm usually the one to leave right after or ask him to leave. I don't "sleep" with a man until I'm dating him exclusively and developing a relationship. To me it's as intimate as sex.

Then there's the notion of waiting to build anticipation. Now I disagree with that because it suggests the sex will be good the first time and probably not so good thereafter...like when you get married....That's a whole other blog.

Anyway, it's nap time....sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Kisses my pretties...{=}

true21cu 48M

6/20/2005 4:50 pm

Just a simple man's point of view. I've never held it against a woman for fucking on the first date. Most I've dated have. It is refreshing to meet a woman that doesn't. Somehow gives the suggestion that she might be interested in more than just sex. Which in all reallity isn't the case. It's just as you say, the woman's decision could just be based on how she wants the man to feel about her, and not a true reflection on her character. I find honesty to be a much better way to judge a woman, rather than if she wants to have sex on the first date. Women have needs too, sexuall and emotional. Let's face it, men don't care if you are using them for sex or if you want more, so just be honest about it. I for one, do believe in true love. I don't think it matters whether or not you have sex on the first date, but rather whether or not you are willing to work on a relationship. Men and women see things so differently, they have completely different points of view. Relationships that last take alot of communication, honesty, patience, understanding just alot of work. Notice I didn't mention sex. So if you feel the physical attraction, have sex. No man is going to hold that against you. If you're looking for true love. True love is what's left when the butterflies are gone. There's no such thing as love at first sight, sorry but it's a myth that's just lust your feeling. True love takes alot of time to build, when the butterflies are gone and you care more about someone else than yourself, congrats you love them. If they feel the same way about you, wow you've just accomplished what 70% of the population couldn't. So, since the reality of the situation is that you will probably fail alot before you succeed, why spend so much time worrying about the first date. Loosen up and have fun. When you are old and have nothing but memories left, make sure they are good ones. Live your life to the fullest. Don't be affraid to take a chance. But don't be foolish and set yourself up. Hope you are feeling better.

MillsShipsGayly 53M

6/21/2005 4:50 am

It is always polite to say "please" and "thank you" at the appropriate moment, miss manners

rm_morewithin2 66M
18 posts
6/21/2005 3:35 pm

I think you make sense, Miss!



6/21/2005 9:08 pm

Something to think about.

rm_4nik8_4u 62M
2501 posts
6/22/2005 11:02 am

It would not matter to me whether or not I had sex on the first night. What would matter is the way we felt about it going in to it. And where it went from there I would think would be how we felt about it afterwards. It really has to do with the thoughts and feelings outside of sex.

rm_tellguy2 48M
1 post
6/27/2005 8:13 pm

Is it too late to respond to this? I've just recently joined. Since this seems mainly like a "no strings attached" sex site, you seem like a philosopher among truck drivers. Another way to put it is, if you have to ask then it matters. For some people, (myself included) impersonal sex is less satisfying then sex with more an emotional connection. I guess, being on this site, some people want something that's somewhere in the middle: a friend with benefits. What level of friendship or connection, however, has to be decided between the concerned parties.

Needzit2 57M

6/29/2005 12:15 pm

My Dear Dance,
You certainly raise important issues. In one context, fucking on the first date does not have to be followed by remorse, judgement, regrets or any such negative feelings. That context would definitely involve the proper attitudes....as in "You make me hot and I've spent a good deal of time studying you from afar....I feel I know you...I want to laugh with you, pleasure you and feel your pleasuring me, to feel one another even if only for a mere flash in time." To compliment this attitude, there should be a good measure of willingness as in wanting, needing..."I want some of that and I'm going to have it" in a manner of speaking, whilst not coercing or intimidating. Me thinks that Jean-Paul Sartre would have said it thusly, "Fuck it! Let's get it on if we want to...as this defines our being, our existance..." ......sorry for drifting into the imagination...I do believe that imagination is vital in defining experience as well as dispelling boredom! Want me to show you what I mean? Yes, D, I would love to....I'll be the guy at the end of the bar licking his eyebrows while sipping a pint.

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