Is experience a factor?  

daisy_lincoln 47F
3002 posts
3/27/2006 9:22 am

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Is experience a factor?

Would you say there's much of a correlation between the number of people someone's been with or how sexually active they are and how good they are in bed? Or do you think some people are just a natural at it?

10 posts
3/27/2006 2:18 pm

Good question daisy

I really think that the number of women I have been with DEFFINATELY accounts for me being the type of lover I have become. Also the number of women I have been with has definately given me a well "rounded" view of a womans needs,wants and desires. Thus they all want something diffrent

I do not think someone is Natural at it, you can have a natural desire to have sex more than most but the actual act of having sex must me learned from practice and mastered over time.

It is like anything else the more you practice at something the better you get

Hope this helps Daisy
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kekamakani 51M

3/27/2006 4:28 pm

Daisy - I am definitely a better lover because of the lovers I have had. Not solely by the numbers, as they do not indicate good, bad or indifferent. Although, the lovers with whom I spent any length of time improved all things erotic - listening, tempo/rhythm, breathing, touch, smell. I don't believe anyone is innately a great lover, because there are skills you have to learn, experiences from which you gauge performance, and finding a lover who can give/take with the same level of enthusiasm is a rare find.
Great topic, Daisy.

venicemenace67 50M

3/27/2006 6:22 pm

To answer the question - I don't think there is a correlation. Players are not necessarily great in bed. That's partly what makes them players in the first place. They enjoy the hunt. Other guys enjoy the feast that comes after, so to speak. We tend to be best at what we enjoy most.

I have been told I am a great lover, but I haven't been with that many partners, relatively speaking. Conversely, I have had very inexperienced partners who were very good lovers, and experienced partners who were just about getting off.

I think also that there are natural talents and / or attributes that some people have that might make them a better fuck, at least for some partners.

rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
3/27/2006 6:58 pm

I've found sex to be a very subjective thing...everyone likes it slightly differently. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another. What makes a good lover is the ability to learn and adapt to a particular person. So experience with a lot of people won't necessarily help you with one particular person, unless what you've learned from the others is flexibility and adaptability. And the more experienced you get with one person, the better you should be with them, or you're not learning properly.....

mrgoose69 58M

3/27/2006 8:26 pm

Hello Daisy,

If you are a lover who pays attention to your partner, then perhaps you are learning from each experience and have developed some skills to more quickly determine your latest partners needs, desires, and hot buttons.

ByteChaser2 54M

3/28/2006 8:48 am

I expect there's no real correlation one could draw from the "quality is proportional to quantity" question. Lets face it. some people learn lessons quick, others never do - and the full spectrum between... I've known some truely gawd-aweful (sexually) performers who'd had more than a fair share of partners and a few relaive neophytes who'd rock the very foundations. I don't think it's quantity that counts as much as learning the lessons - and applying them.


sillyperv 55M

3/28/2006 2:54 pm

It just depends on what it is that the person is about. If you love sex AND love being with a woman then you're going to be good at sex, or a least willing to learn - quantity won't matter. If you're just about conquest then pleasure probably isn't part of the equation.

rm_69sensualman 71M
11 posts
3/29/2006 6:47 am

I think some things have been natural.But have been inproved by exspearance.As well the quality of of lovers.The abilaty to give pleasure as well get is asential for a good lover.

GuyWhoListens2u 57M
325 posts
3/29/2006 7:23 am


Shared love, passion and deep desire make it the very best.

rm_redsands5 60M

3/29/2006 7:37 pm

hey pal, either you are born with it or you're not. practice, practice, practice will get you to a certain level, but never to the point of being a natural. You are born with it.

beachfun69000 56M

4/22/2006 11:31 am

I think it doesn't matter how many lovers you've had. It's what you have learned from the lovers you've had. Granted age and numbers should add up to being a better lover but it means nothing if you haven't learned from the experiences.

EntryProneGears 63M

4/22/2006 1:48 pm

Most people forget that they are responsible for there own sex. Ones perception of an intimate encounter can be completely different than there partners. I don't think you can be a great lover if your not in love and in passion. However you can be great at sex with some experience. Learn what and how long it takes for your lady to be ready.As for men they are always ready

rm_frehleyaxe 47M
10 posts
5/27/2006 2:41 am


I don't think it matters,...

If a couple craves for one another so completely that they can hardly contain themselves, then the sex is going to be so wild and uncomprehensible, that it wouldn't fall under any category...true passion can't be's either there or it isn't..."don't go for second best, baby- put your love to the test!"...Madonna

rm_frehleyaxe 47M
10 posts
5/27/2006 2:47 am


I don't think it matters,...

If a couple craves for one another so completely that they can hardly contain themselves, then the sex is going to be so wild and uncomprehensible, that it wouldn't fall under any category...


6/1/2006 12:19 am

I say no correlation. You can fuck every day, but if you always do the same thing, you don't improve. Like the old saying, "you have 1 years experience, ten times."

Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy,


CD80869 48M
14 posts
8/1/2006 7:28 am

It depends on each people. Nature is made such a way that you have to ask to your playmate which are his or her desire to fully satisfy him or her. Of course, your experience may act afterwards because you know how to do what he or she asked you.

rm_tommyboyde 45M

10/4/2006 8:37 pm

You can fuck a thousand people and still do it badly. Repetition is not synonymous with ability when it comes to doin' the nasty. If you have been smart enough to pay attention, a wide variety of lovers can absolutely improve performance. We all need to be taught. Whether it is in person or on film we are continually influenced by such stimulation, and if it feels good or looks pleasurable, we immediately attempt to incorporate into our repertoire. Ultimately, you just need to be experienced and sensitive enough to watch your partner and respond to their body.

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