Friends to Lovers, and vice-versa  

daisy_lincoln 47F
3002 posts
8/4/2006 7:39 pm

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8/5/2006 5:42 am

Friends to Lovers, and vice-versa

I'm curious what your success rate is with going from being lovers to being good friends, and vice-versa. Does it really work, in your opinion?

rm_stuff2things 37M

8/5/2006 12:50 am

it has only worked out well when a former lover has become a good friend. i have never had a good track record with friend to lover. the friend some how changes and not in a good way. the lover becomes more even if the sex stops or keeps going

rm_jul05 61M
3392 posts
8/5/2006 3:46 am

i have a wife that i knew as a friend since 1977. And we got lovers in 1998. it works.

ClaysPoenaPelts 46M
5 posts
8/5/2006 7:20 am

It can be very difficult either way for it to work. I have had friends that became lovers and then became friends again. I have had lovers that became friends. The downside is that you wonder what if and if you are not prepared you may find yourself commiting to much past emotion towards your friend and causing problems. It is important that you talk about everything with your friend because they may have similar issues with you as well.

luvlickinpussy4u 62M

8/5/2006 11:50 pm

Anything works....if you put forth the effort to work at it.

yosemitesammy 43M

8/6/2006 2:43 am

If you are not the type to hold a grudge, it can work. I was seeing a girl for about a year and one day something very hurtful happened between us and I stopped seeing her, and was very angry for about a year. I got over it and now we talk about once a month.

kekamakani 51M

8/6/2006 7:44 am

interesting topic. I've experienced the lovers to friends transition on a few occasions, and this works when expectations have been set in advance. In my case, my former lovers remain friends to this date while not lovers simultaneously - memories between friends. Friends to lovers is more difficult and ultimately the decision to become lovers will forever alter the friendship, and in this situation I have not so been so lucky.


8/7/2006 7:47 am

I can't imagine it working either way.

Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy,


rm_smosmof2 68M
3240 posts
8/7/2006 6:02 pm

I'm working on a lover to friend transition now..... I think it only works because she has a new boyfriend and doesn't need much of anything from me any more..... I suspect I'm still a little too bitter about it for it to work until my situation improves .....a lot. Final Answer: it's a work in progress. ask again later.....

211 posts
8/10/2006 11:14 pm

the lovers to friends path only works if you love the person so much that you are happy for them. Not an easy one, is it?

But if you started as best friends, I say take the plunge! *

* all puns, double entendres and Freudian slips fully endorsed and intended by this poster.

rm_Air_Mel 54M

8/30/2006 8:23 pm

It has only worked once for me. After she broke off the sexual realtionship, we have remained friends for over three years now.

cobra70118 106M

9/11/2006 3:45 pm

Absolutely!! I figure if your hot for your best friend you have caught that brass ring of life.

rm_hayashi5 45M
27 posts
10/13/2006 11:04 am


SafeNSane4U2 58M

3/23/2007 6:29 pm

    Quoting rm_hayashi5:
Are you a lesbian
trapped in a man's body?

twoegg48 65M

3/25/2007 6:02 am

My wife was my lover before she became my friend

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