Friends First?  

daisy_lincoln 47F
3002 posts
2/10/2006 10:46 am

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Friends First?

From your experience, do you think being friends with someone before starting anything romantic with them increases your chances of having a successful relationship later on? Do you think if you were friends before a relationship, it makes a difference as to whether you remain friends afterwards?

timberwolf6972 45M

2/10/2006 11:08 am

I think if you start as friends then you should remain friends cause I've known too many pepole to cross the line and then it goes bad, after this point it's very hard to ever be friends again and you end up wishing that you had just remained friends. I'm sure that there are exceptions to this though but why chance losing a good friend when they are so hard to come by? {=}

EroticTantra 58M

2/10/2006 11:48 am

Funny, I've always begun as friends and ended as friends, at least in most cases. It works for me.

RaterWivesParty 57M
51 posts
2/10/2006 10:54 pm

Hi daisy , Have you ever had a friend and it was a great friendship. Everything was fun and exciting to. You were able to be yourself and have no worries of what he would think about anything you did. Then you both desided that it was time to try something more. This is sometimes a mistake (and at times not). If you were'nt sexualy attacted to each other at first and these feelings grew inside you then it may just be the one love that is lasting. But on the other hand as soon as the feelings become more than a friendship there are some who then change. They go into relationship mode. Jelousies and disires change and the friend you once had is looking for more than you really had to offer. You now see each other in a different light. Most of us are mature enough to understand what we get ourselves into and can merge to the new found world. Some can't go there and a great friendship is gone. It can never go back to the same feelings it once was. If you find a freind who even though you are only friends but see this person in way that is very appealing and desirable the chances are very likely that not only will you feel free to talk about the fun things in life you'll share the bad and have no problem discussing your sexaul disires with each .Thus the arousel level increases every time you talk and meet. This is a friend who is not only the most fun it is a friend who's destiny is to be your lover to. That relationship is the one which will last for eturnity. It sure is nice having a friend in you daisy

rm_Kissmystuff 62F
1435 posts
2/11/2006 1:26 pm

Hi daisy...

It's always been important for me to begin as friends first and foremost. I've never been able to just jump into bed with a man without getting to know him first.

The men who have been important in my life remain friends. There's still a couple I communicate with from time to time...even 20 years later. Isn't this a more mature way to look at such relationships?



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