daighi 50M
1627 posts
7/22/2006 4:12 pm

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Hi there,thanks for looking in.

I'd just like to ask you....

Whats your opinion on "Groups" here on AdultFriendFinder?
Do you EVER use this link,& check out some of the many types of groups on here?

Also,if you happen to find one or two,or more,that
interest you,do you join them,or just look in every now & then?

If you DO join a group....Do you read the INTRO page that outlines the dynamics of the group?

OR...Do you just join because the subject of the group intrigues you?

Is it the subject/topic that attracts you,or the posts within it,or the members thats in it?

When you DO join a group,Do you take an ACTIVE part in it,or just post every now & then.

Moderators of other groups,do you have group guidelines,or do you just let it be a free for all
& hope that the group survives?

The reason why i have asked SO many questions here,& i'm sorry if they are'nt in any particular order,is that i'm curious as to why we look at & join Groups?

I am a moderator of 3 groups,but my newest one Oral Fixation Group is by far the most successful one of the three.Within a month,since June 27th in fact,it has grown to the size of 25,& thats great!

The group membership is evenly spread also,which is very unusual,having a sex ratio of 50/50.The members are wonderful,& i SO look forward to getting to know more about them over time.

There's just one thing...I can't seem to get all of them to post,as per the requirements of the group.Each member is asked to post at least 1 post in their first 31 days,& at least 1 further post every 2 months,to sustain their full membership status.

"Is this asking too much,or should i just forget the requirements,& just be thankful that they have even considered joining THEIR group in the first place?

I say "their group",because thats what it is...I'm just the guy that started it

I just want the group to be a success,& a place where people can go,get to know other people,& have fun while being there.I also want it to be a place of support & a source of help & advice,should anyone need it.

Am i wrong to have such high standards,am i trying too hard?..I think it will be worth it in the end.

I'd appreciate your thought on this,as i know you,ladies & gents are the wise ones!Please leave your comment,thanks!



"Always remember...keep smiling!"



rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
7/22/2006 9:18 pm

Sometimes it takes a LONG time to get posts to post on
those groups! Will go check it out...
I certainly qualify as an orally fixated being of light

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
7/23/2006 1:22 am

The first group that I joined was because of someone that I had met on AdultFriendFinder. I went to the homepage and checked out the posts and found that I was very interested. It's just like a bunch of friends getting together and having a great time. My first post for the group was asking why no one ever used the chat room. Needless to say, they couldn't think of an answer and it bloomed from there. I use to be a wallflower and not so much anymore. I'm just ornery now.


moonlightphoenix 46F
6508 posts
7/23/2006 8:03 pm

I belong to a handful of groups, but there's really only one that I am a very active member of, posting sometimes several times a day. It's one of the reasons I'm on AdultFriendFinder as much as I am. I've developed some great friendships within that group, and the topics and discussions run the gamut, always interesting and very intelligent. I really, really love this group.

I always try to promote groups and tell people to get involved. It's fun. It's interesting. It's a nice alternative to the blogs when they're down. It's a good way for people to get to know you outside of your profile. Quit bitching and GET INVOLVED!!!!

As for moderating....the group I'm a huge part of, is very, very strict regarding membership requirements and posting. Every three weeks or so, we go into "pending" mode so the moderator can clear out the hanger's on. We all know and understand this and have no problem with it. Our moderator also has an "enforcer" who enforces the rules when she's not around. It sounds much more strict than it really is...the rules of the group are very upfront.

Moderate away,'s your group, keep it the way you envisioned it. When I joined my group, membership was at about 22, now I think it's around 90, but really we only have about 25 who post regularily.

the best way for your group to grow is for you to keep it within the guidelines you've set. Don't be afraid to step in, or delete or ban. The other members will appreciate you all the more for it.

GREAT topic!!!

IrishKev 41M
1523 posts
7/25/2006 11:00 am

I joined a pile it seems to be another way to communicate with others. Having a requirement to post seems grand although some people are just readers without a lot to say.

moonlightphoenix 46F
6508 posts
7/25/2006 3:38 pm

PS...Daighi....on second thought...don't kick me out cause I haven't posted or visited the group since I joined. I keep meaning to, but then I get sucked into this great blog of yours and I can't get out!!

(There, did I suck up enough to merit immunity from my own condemnation???)

BaronessK 53F

7/25/2006 11:40 pm

I check out everything on a site I am on, from fun to geek stuff. When I join a club I join and check in pretty regularly along with posting comments and all, but reading my watched list and responding to posts comes first, naturally. Once I join, I read the intro, all the comments, posts, everything. Of course the subject {general purpose} of the group has to intrigue me, or why else join it? I even pimped yours on my blog! I'm really 'good' at being 'bad' use whatcha got!

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