Am I UGLY???  

daighi 50M
1627 posts
8/8/2006 3:56 pm

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Am I UGLY???

Hi there,i was listening to the radio today,& a topic they were discussing was about how we percieve beauty & ugliness.

It was said that everyone is different,as they see different things in others.Their ideas of what beauty is & what is condidered ugly vary so much.

With that in mind,i devised this poll for you ALL.

I'd like to ask you all to be honest with your votes & replies.

On looking at my picture that accompanies my profile,& my posts....

How would YOU rate ME on a scale of 1 to 10 in my looks?

Please don't be afraid to answer or vote,& if you think you'll hurt me...you won't!!!...trust me!

Thanks,

Hugs,

D. XX
1...Ugly as sin...the Elephant man's twin brother..
2...Not particularly attractive,but not ugly either
3...No distinguishing features to write home about
4...Your not ugly,but i would'nt look at you twice in a bar,or on the street.
5...Your just ordinary,with a nice smile,but thats it!
6...You have a nice smile,& nice eyes,somewhat attractive.
7...Your pretty good looking,if i was to see you looking at me,i'd smile back.
8...Your a good looking guy,with nice features.If i saw you looking at me,i'd be interested.
9...Your not a stunner,but i'd take a second look to check out your ass.
10...other...


"Always remember...keep smiling!"

Hugs,

D. XX


daighi 50M
1449 posts
8/8/2006 4:01 pm

I would consider myself to be a 6,so i chose option #6.

I know that i'm NOT a stunner/hunk/Adonis etc,but i don't consider myself to be ugly either.

As you know from previous posts,i have a size issue that i'm trying to work out.BUT,if you look beyond that,i would say i'm reasonably ok looking.

Hugs,

D. XXX

"Always remember...keep smiling!"

Hugs,

D. XX


countryheart_71 46F
8081 posts
8/8/2006 7:01 pm

I would say that you are an 8 easy!!! Your personality, your wanting to always help others, your smile, everything about you! I think that you are sexy!

~Country~


moonlightphoenix 46F
6508 posts
8/8/2006 11:13 pm

LOL>..Daighi....I don't think it's fair that you voted in your own poll!!!

I definitely think you have a certain air about you that overrides any percieved flaws you might have. The twinkle in your eye speaks volumes and can be felt across the sea, my friend.



Ps...not saying IF I voted, or what number.


rm_iwannatellu 46F
933 posts
8/9/2006 10:20 am

I think that this is a bit of a misleading question since I can't really tell what you look like. Besides, IMHO, photos never look exactly like the people they represent. They cannot capture your personsality, your gestures, and your mannerisms which I always find make a person more who they are than what they look like.

I realise you are asking a simple question about physical appearance, but I refuse to vote on this because I don't think it is a measure we should ever use on its own.

Here is an example for you to consider:
Long ago, my cousin came to visit me. She is considered by many men to be a stunning beauty - having been gifted by nature with an incredibly beautifully proportioned body, fantastic skin tone and even colouring, magnificent features, gorgeous hair, and the innate ability to make everyone around her know that is worth something. But she is also very aware of imperfections in others.

My brother's friend (who had grown up with us all, and had been around my whole life) came to visit. She turned to me and immediately asked me how hw could show himself in public because he was so ugly. I was so shattered by her hurtful comment that I could not even respond. I was hurt for him, because in fact he was one of the most gentle and kindest people I knew.

Perhaps he was not what society considered a traditionally handsome man, being very hairy, very dark and brooding, rather short and stocky, and had one leg that was shorter than the other due to an accident when he was younger (causing his joint to stop growing or something). He had a sort of hunch back, and was covered in scars on his face, neck, and chest from some terrible fire accident when he was younger.

In retrospect I can see how easy it is for anyone to point any one of these imperfections and label them. But because he had always been around, I had never taken the time to deconstruct his parts and look at him piece by piece. He was who he was - a friend of my brothers who treated me and his sister with kindness (unless we were fighting, but this was not often as the boys were both a fair bot older than both of us girls), and was therefore a beautiful person to me.

I saw him from the inside only, and from that day onwards, I decided that I would continue to judge everyone in exactly that way.

As a result, although physical attraction does have a role, specially for relationships that have the potential to go further than platonic friendship, I try not to judge people by their pysical appearace, because it is simply not a measure I find valuable.

Oops, this is a bit heavy. Sorry.

Feel free to delete this if you want to.

Hugs,

Iwanna


daighi 50M
1449 posts
8/9/2006 11:52 am

    Quoting rm_iwannatellu:
    I think that this is a bit of a misleading question since I can't really tell what you look like. Besides, IMHO, photos never look exactly like the people they represent. They cannot capture your personsality, your gestures, and your mannerisms which I always find make a person more who they are than what they look like.

    I realise you are asking a simple question about physical appearance, but I refuse to vote on this because I don't think it is a measure we should ever use on its own.

    Here is an example for you to consider:
    Long ago, my cousin came to visit me. She is considered by many men to be a stunning beauty - having been gifted by nature with an incredibly beautifully proportioned body, fantastic skin tone and even colouring, magnificent features, gorgeous hair, and the innate ability to make everyone around her know that is worth something. But she is also very aware of imperfections in others.

    My brother's friend (who had grown up with us all, and had been around my whole life) came to visit. She turned to me and immediately asked me how hw could show himself in public because he was so ugly. I was so shattered by her hurtful comment that I could not even respond. I was hurt for him, because in fact he was one of the most gentle and kindest people I knew.

    Perhaps he was not what society considered a traditionally handsome man, being very hairy, very dark and brooding, rather short and stocky, and had one leg that was shorter than the other due to an accident when he was younger (causing his joint to stop growing or something). He had a sort of hunch back, and was covered in scars on his face, neck, and chest from some terrible fire accident when he was younger.

    In retrospect I can see how easy it is for anyone to point any one of these imperfections and label them. But because he had always been around, I had never taken the time to deconstruct his parts and look at him piece by piece. He was who he was - a friend of my brothers who treated me and his sister with kindness (unless we were fighting, but this was not often as the boys were both a fair bot older than both of us girls), and was therefore a beautiful person to me.

    I saw him from the inside only, and from that day onwards, I decided that I would continue to judge everyone in exactly that way.

    As a result, although physical attraction does have a role, specially for relationships that have the potential to go further than platonic friendship, I try not to judge people by their pysical appearace, because it is simply not a measure I find valuable.

    Oops, this is a bit heavy. Sorry.

    Feel free to delete this if you want to.

    Hugs,

    Iwanna
Iwannatellu,why would think i'd delete this FANTASTIC response to my thread?????

Thank you SO much for your honesty & for your VERY IMPORTANT reply to my post.

It means SO much to me to know that there are people out there like you & others on here that feel this way.

I did'nt post this thread to look for compliments,or bring attention to myself.I posted it because i thought it would be interesting to have a debate about the subject,like they had on the Radio.

I will be leaving your post here where it belongs,right here!

Thank you again,for you visit & for your post!

Hugs,

D. XXXX

"Always remember...keep smiling!"

Hugs,

D. XX


rm_iwannatellu 46F
933 posts
8/9/2006 12:06 pm

D

Glad you don't mind my rather long-winded reply.

Thanks,

Iwanna


BaronessK 53F

8/9/2006 3:11 pm

Semantics and all, perhaps, BUT...beauty {handsomeness?} does not necessarily equate to attractiveness, and someone being attractive could be a mental and/or physical response from another. A really good example is a comment about a couple such as, "How did that bloke ever get HER?". You are highly attractive {so I voted 'other', btw}. I've seen that pic and some others {thanks for invite, etcetera, although I have lagged until today on reposting a lost folder myself} and I think it boils down to...get better pics! Well, actually, for the most part they are quite good on average...but at least one that's a bit more close up, although since this site doesn't let us have at least 2 mains ones...that's a conundrum in itself since a lot of people say to show such a close up that we're 'hiding' our body/frame/size and so on. Damned if we do....

Actually you can ignore all that rambling, because I just didn't want to tell you that I thought you had to have a porkchop around your neck for the dogs to play with you.... {First part is a joke...the emoticon...nah, that was serious! }


daighi 50M
1449 posts
8/9/2006 3:45 pm

Well so far,nobody has found me to be ugly thank god.But now i'm wondering if you are all just being nice to me?..lol

Thank you to those of you who so far have answered & voted,it's nice to know you care.

Hugs,

D. XXX

"Always remember...keep smiling!"

Hugs,

D. XX


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