No Means NO!  

cuteNEway 42F
1774 posts
7/13/2006 7:14 am

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7/27/2006 2:01 pm

No Means NO!

Eight years. That's how long we had been lusting after eachother. We never did anything more than fool around a little because I was engaged and he had a girlfriend. We lost touch in mid 2000. Forward to February 2006.

Google. That's how I found him again. We emailed eachother. Then we called eachother. We set up a date. I was worried that he wouldn't find me attractive anymore because I have gained weight since we last saw eachother. But that was no longer a worry after he told me that he had gained weight as well.

We agreed to meet at a halfway point and then go to his place. When I saw him I was shocked. He had gained a lot more weight than I had! But that was not an issue. He told me he was just coming out of rehearsal with his band. A new band this time. His old band just fizzled out apparently. It's a shame. They were fun.

We are excited to see eachother because we didn't only have the lust factor. We had always gotten along great. He was a friend. Funny, always had good advice for me, you know? We ran to eachother and hugged really tight calling eachother by our old nickname, "HEY STOOOOPIIIIDDDD!!" The nickname is a whole other story...when isn't it a story with me?

I could tell he had been drinking. Heavily. But no big deal. He always did when he was with his band buddies. Anyway, we get on the train to go to his place and we were reminiscing and catching up. He was still the same guy I knew years ago. Doing his not so subtle gay routine that I used to find so amusing when he did it in public. Not so amusing anymore...he then decided that I am so not getting him and that we need to get me up to his level of intoxication so I could "loosen up".

So we get some beers (Sapporo for me, whatever was on sale for him) and we go to his apartment. I met his roommates. They went out. We stayed in. Yes things happened. We finally went through with what we hadn't been able to do way back when. It was good. SO...tuckered out from our activites, I curled up under his blanket and fell asleep. He wakes me to tell me that he will be right back. He's going to the local bar to get some "hard liquor" as he had run out. I mumbled "see you later" and went back to sleep.

Suddenly I feel someone shaking me to wake me. It's one of his roommates.

"Hey what're you doing?" Says he.
"I'm sleeping what does it look like?" Said I.
"C'mon get up and keep me company. I'm bored"
"I'm SLEEPING, leave me alone!"

He starts tugging on the blanket, beneath which I wore nothing. So I finally tell him that I will be out in a minute, let me get dressed. At this point I'm just trying to avoid being molested. As I walk out to the living room he tells me that someone had left "some dopey movie" playing. YEP it was porn. A woman on all fours getting fucked and sucking cock. AWWW how nice! A threesome!

He tells me he'll take the movie off if I want. I told him to turn it off. He's there eating a sandwich and offers me some. I politely declined. When he finished eating he says, "Wanna have some fun?" AHHH y'all know how I hate the word fun when refering to sex. At this point it was turn-off number 3. I told him, "No, I want to sleep." And he kept insisting, "C'mon lets have some FUUUNN!" I told him NO over and over again.

He says, "Not even a kiss?" I said NO! You're probably asking yourself why I was still sitting there listening to this crap. Why didn't i just go lock myself in the room? Well the room doesn't lock and I was afraid his drunk ass would come in and me. So finally after about 30 minutes of this crap he tells me, "Well if you don't wanna have fun you might as well go back to bed."

THANK YOU. Relieved, and convinced that he wasn't gonna me, I went back to bed.

My friend never came back. I let myself out of the apartment at about 9am. Weeks later I hear from him with that lame "I got arrested" excuse from my previous post and when I tried to tell him about his roomate trying to have sex with me, he wouldn't acknowledge it.

Then people wonder why I have trust issues...

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
7/13/2006 8:49 am

You were lucky....

Sweetpickles69 48F

7/13/2006 11:38 am

Sounds like something that happened to me once...LOL! Guess things like this happen when we live on the edge & take chances!
At least you didn't get molested...LOL!


clitlicker4510 62M
7 posts
7/13/2006 12:14 pm

Yes babe,you were lucky...

NickRules999 40M
9464 posts
7/13/2006 7:07 pm

I have trust issues, too. I'm sure you know why. Different situation, but still, did it all the same.

It's hard for me to trust blindly anymore.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?

cuteNEway 42F

7/13/2006 7:25 pm

StLianna & Clitlicker...Oh I am very aware of how lucky I am that I wasn't ! I am thankful for that.
SweetP...Girl I sometimes wonder how I still do this!
Spunky...the sad thing is this was a man that I thought I could trust always. It really sucks.

AtomicArtist0 46M
6015 posts
7/13/2006 9:22 pm

Phew! finally got through all your posts since I've been gone. Some great writing here. Sorry this happened to you but it produced a very good post at least albiet sad. Inspired. I'm gladd to be back.

free2chose2 67F

7/14/2006 3:12 am

They're both scum buckets-thank God he knew what No meant

Don't worry, be Happy

cuteNEway 42F

7/14/2006 4:55 am

Nicky...Oh I know hun, I know >>big HUG<<
Atomic...Welome Back!! Thanks I'm very flattered with the compliment. Especially from you...>>swells with pride<<
MzHuny...Girl I was scared til I realized he was just a harmless asshole that never gets any because he has no idea what seduction means.
Free...No kidding girl! Never again!

curvymeli 40F

7/14/2006 7:26 am

Yuck, what a supreme jerk (your friend), it seems like he set the whole thing up. Yuck, what a complete sleaze (the roommate), what a complete sleaze.

A few years ago I met up with an old friend in a similar situation. We had been really close all through high school, and then we did start dating, and just as we were getting serious his dad got transferred across the country.

I googled him or did a handle search for him years later and we started chatting...we even had phone sex!...but he was breaking up with his kinda crazy ex and I had just got beaten by the guy I thought I was going to marry...I flaked on him.

YEARS after that, all alone in Alabama, I emailed his old address. He called me, and we talked every couple weeks for about a year. Nothing fabulous, but it was deep and meaningful.

I was going on a trip only five hours from him and he drove out to meet me. We spent all night talking, it felt great, and yup, we fucked. Finally.

Two weeks later he told me he was getting married in a month (he had lied about having a gf and then proposing to her all along for the year we were talking).

Old friends never stay the same. Like old boyfriends.

My motto has been "Don't ever go back" when it comes to these situations for about 5 years now. It has saved me a lot of additional grief!!

digdug41 50M

7/14/2006 11:44 am

some peeps got no class, and I know it was prolly a scary situation for you but ya shoulda said I already got one asshole in my pants I dont need another

roaming the cyber streets of blogland

TheCliticals 36F/F

7/14/2006 2:35 pm

Poor baby.


cuteNEway 42F

7/17/2006 4:07 am

Meli...I had one that was married, said he was divorced plus he was playing half the NYC room Fucki DICK!
Dig...I WAS scared but somehow I wasn't panicking. I tend not to panic when there may be sharks around (oh boy new post!)
Child...Yeah I was very lucky and sadly no he's no longer a friend. After that he still tried to booty call me a few times. The fuckin NERVE!
Sandy... That bastard!
Dys...I just LOVE the way you thing >tee hee<<

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