Why Do Fools Fall In Love  

curiousity11111 47F
8 posts
2/5/2006 11:06 am

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Why Do Fools Fall In Love

After much consideration i have come to the conclusion that i am without doubt one of these fools

For years i have protected myself against such feelings , one bitten twice shy, and up until 5 months ago i protected myself very well against such strong emotion, and all of a sudden there he was , he was everything i could have hoped for and wanted , and he showered me with so much affection made me feel loved like no other had every been, i displayed at first a lack of interest in anything long term , but he persisted and persisted and i admit, for the first time in a long time i believed him , he made me feel so very special and the center of his whole world, then two weeks ago he disappears, and i mean literally , three days later he sends a message to say he had been ill and in hospital , so i give him the benifit of the doubt , but things start to digress from this point on , to the point where i was lucky to receive one phone call a day , and even then he is short on time and very strange and cold almost , and then you realise that he is no longer interested although he continues to assure you that he is , and then the massive realisation hits you smack in the face , you have fallen so hard for this guy , and its to late your whole body aches from the hurt of his rejection, he no longer answers immedaitely when you call , your lucky if its the next day , your mind is racing at a million miles per hour and all you can think about is him, and finally you realise what a fool you are being and how foolish this all sounds .

And all thats left to do , is to sit and wait for the hurt to go away .

Grace_Sweetly 57F

2/5/2006 5:26 pm

No need to sit and wait. You've been conned. Happens all the time. It's not about you finally letting your heart open up after keeping it closed. This guy played you. That's what players do. It's not your heart it's your pride that's wounded and rightly so. You'd feel similarly although perhaps not as deeply if you had been conned into purchasing something you don't need and could not get a refund for. Not trying to be trite. You made a mistake. Try not to punish yourself by sitting around and being a heart martre. And you're not stupid. Guys like this are talented and experienced con artists. It could happen to anyone. Be strong, be bold. Head out and meet a better dude. You will. Buddy will likely come around just when you find someone new. Don't fall for it. Enjoy your new man and enjoy seeing the old guy lose the game for a change. Hope you're feeling better real soon. He's not losing any sleep over this so why should you? Think about that.

herringje 41M

2/5/2006 5:58 pm

this is so true but it also works both ways dont the experts clame this is what we need to learn i totaly disagree now i have been single for two long and am so very tired of ot and wish i had someone
mabee like you i will fall again or ty the not i met somone who loved being around worked with her all year and she wants to stay friends how it suck when you no what you want and can not get it i have always connected with hot ladies and they always say they would rather have me as a friend than a boyfriend and loose me in the end and i hate that so very much so hang in there and get what you want

rm_Ellenback 59F
966 posts
2/5/2006 6:33 pm

Sweetie, been there, done that...it'll pass, and he's an ass.

Hang in there, live for you, what does curiosity like to do?


MartsPudicInked 48F

2/5/2006 6:39 pm

No-He's the fool to let you go......


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frangipanigal 46F
10406 posts
2/5/2006 6:43 pm

When I read this post it reminded me SO much of someone who has done the same thing to me, that I had to check your profile and make sure you weren't in Sydney too as I was convinced it was the same person.

You're not a fool...his is. Hope the hurt passes quickly.


SexyRycheBabe 46F
820 posts
2/5/2006 6:43 pm

We've all been here, unfortunately. It's a tough spot to be in. It'll get better. There's a book that I found extremely helpful called "It's Called a Breakup Because it's Broken." They recommend a 60-day hetox. (he + tox)

Anyway, don't beat yourself up over your feelings for this guy. He doesn't deserve you if he behaves like this without any explanation.

Good luck!!

sweetcandyfloss 46F

2/6/2006 4:41 am

Thanks to you all .........

Never really thought anyone was going to answer , never having done this blogging thing before , tended to read them more than write......i guess i just needed to vent , to try and exercise my demons that at present are hurting me a great deal ....... i will recover i know and understand this to be true, and i will once again emerge a stronger person for having learnt a valuable lesson...... i just cant believe that i feel for such a creep , how did that happen , when i know in myself that i have let better men go ...... for in all honesty , this man was not really my type, and for the first time it was not necessarily a physical attraction that encouraged my interest , rather a love grew of the words that he wrote and the promises that he made ......... thanks guys !!!!! i feel so much stronger knowing that there are people out there who are ready to pass comment on such errors without critism and distain .......i will check out your blogs and try if need be to help you guys out when you need a little lift..........xxx

sweetcandyfloss 46F

2/6/2006 4:52 am

Changed my username in case you were wondering ...... it allows me an animinity from a certain someone

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