Me wondering...  

curious082385 32F
4230 posts
2/13/2006 1:16 am

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Me wondering...

I found this quote over on nightlady1000's blog, which by the way you should check out...some awesome poetry over there.

"The desire of the man is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man"

What do you think? True or not? What about for you? What is it that you most desire?

AngelicDevil_76 41F
9 posts
2/13/2006 3:43 am

Followed the link over to her were right...awesome poet. Thank you.

elysianpleasure 48M

2/13/2006 4:52 am

Hmmmm... I think it is partially true. It takes more than desire even for a man to sustain a relationship... but I think it does often start there. The women I know they seem to care more about my interaction with them. That is why there is such a disconnect when men and women fight. Men typically withdraw and withhold attention and communication. Women seem to need more of it.

But ultimately we are all individuals... men and women, black or white, christian or budhist... our unique gifts and challenges hard to try and capture in some 1 sentence summation that is suppose to capture us all.

sillyperv 55M

2/13/2006 9:05 am

It's a good line, but doesn't it dismiss a woman's desire, claiming it doesn't exist without the existence of another's desire. Isn't it claiming woman are passive as opposed to active in their relationship. If this is true, then I've been dating the exceptions.

rm_corezon 54F
3376 posts
2/13/2006 9:17 am intuitive...

I think true. They desire us...whether or not we desire them...that's why more men get off on pictures...but we want them ONLY if they desire us...the desire itself is the enticement...

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
2/13/2006 10:44 am

yeah, I can relate to that. What I'm wondering is this - if it's true, is it conditioning orour cellular make up?

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

Vincent_Omnia 48M

2/13/2006 12:35 pm

I'm with 1hot (big shock). To answer HER question, I think it is conditioning. I've seen enough behavior lately -- and I don't mean that in a bad way at all -- that convinces me that women desire men just as men desire women. It's just that women are conditioned largely to either suboordinate that OR because women are just far more highly evolved and can be both ways.

I'm going with the latter.


p.s. -- Per your offline, as you can see I'm still around...

rm_FreeLove999 47F
16127 posts
2/13/2006 1:03 pm

while i do desire a man to desire me ... hmmm... there are other desires to, some of which are at odds with that desire, such as the desire for freedom, the desire for a world full of creativity and unconditional love -- not the exclusivity implied by this statement... i think that selfish desire is one really programmed in by society, while the others i've described are more "natural" to the kind of person i believe myself to be... and i agree with sillyperv that it implies a passivity in woman that i definitely do not have, nor have i ever been so passive.

great post!

[blog freelove999]

womanoirish 55F

2/13/2006 6:22 pm

I also like sillyperv's answer. It appears to deny a woman having legitimate desires. While I do agree it is very nice to have a man desire me, it means nothing if I do not desire him also. And visa versa.

bardicman 51M

2/13/2006 7:10 pm

Hmmmm, Well from a philosophical standpoint.. I would say for me it rings true in reverse. I see women as being the object of desire and men being the object wanting to be desired.

Or.. The desire of woman is man. The desire of man is to be desired by a woman.

I am not dead yet

tillerbabe 57F

2/14/2006 2:37 am


dasher121 37M

2/14/2006 3:26 am

yes, agree with corezon here. the desire is the enticement.

MrNuttz05 50M

2/15/2006 11:44 pm

Desire??? Would you want me, if I didn't want you? It could work, but only for so long... The desire is the want, the need, the hunger that makes it worth while... I think men start off with less desire, & not towards a particular woman but to ALL women... We are a 'work in progress'...

onelittlesecret 34M
1579 posts
2/16/2006 1:19 pm

I can see how this fits with many mammals, and perhaps with people on a very primitive level, but I don't think it really holds water.

When all you're told, over and over, is, "I think that when you find someone, they will be very fortunate", it's hard not to think that your partner's desire is every bit as important as yours.

Being attractive to someone, probably more than anything else, is what makes them attractive to you; regardless of gender.

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