Isn't It?  

curious082385 32F
4230 posts
6/12/2006 9:17 pm

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Isn't It?

One thing that I never understood...why do people let good things slip through their fingers?

You find someone wonderful...you fall in love...everything is great. But then you realize that this person is close to you, has the power to hurt you or that you'll have to take a risk to be with them. And, if fear, you let it go.

Why?

I understand fear, I understand pain. Yes, being with someone can be a risk. You could give your all, trust them with your heart and soul, take the biggest leap of faith possible...and fall on your ass. It could hurt like hell, it could break your heart. A risk, yes.
And here is what I never understood...as much as it could hurt, isn't it better to take the chance and find out then to do nothing at all? I mean, true, falling on your ass if it dosen't work is going to hurt...but at least you can say that you tried and at least you'll know. If you do nothing, you'll never know and you'll always wonder.

True, you could save yourself the risk...live with an unbruised heart? But for what? So that you can say you were always cautious and were never hurt...but never felt the thrill of truly pouring your heart and soul into something or someone you believed in?
Or you could take the risk, close you eyes and take the leap of faith. If you fall...yes it hurts, yes you can be broken. But you'll get back up and you'll be stronger for it.
And if you take the leap and it works...what do you stand to gain.
The truest love perhaps...
The knowledge that you have the strength and dedication to love without holding back...
Isn’t that worth taking a chance for?


rm_yukonpaul 52M
1120 posts
6/12/2006 10:08 pm

All of those reasons and more. Self-hate. Depression. Not wanting to live life - just exist.


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:11 am:
True...

nightstalker172 37M
1258 posts
6/12/2006 10:26 pm

To add to pauls list hatred of others assumeing they are all the same and will treat you badly reguardless....is another reason....Or you are just tired of it...You want to meet someone but you feel you dont have the strength to risk being hurt again and again after be hurt so many times before...sometimes it just doesnt seem worth it...


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:12 am:
"sometimes it just doesnt seem worth it..."

I know that one. But I always found that sitting by myself and being lonely bothered me more then the risk of getting hurt again.

rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
6/12/2006 10:48 pm

Love hurts like hell when it's good. It hurts worse if it doesn't work out. You can choose to live and experience strong emotions, or you can wall yourself off and live half a life and never hurt.

I figure I'll never have another chance to be 30 ... or 40, or whatever. My mother told me to look back on my life at its end and regret only what I did, not what I didn't do. Blue tells me the same thing. Given the choice, I'll love and hurt and FEEL.


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:13 am:
"Given the choice, I'll love and hurt and FEEL."

Friend of mine once told me to be glad for the pain because it validated that what you were grieving for was real and true and strong. That I should be happy that I could cry because there were some people who would never have anything worth crying over.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
6/12/2006 11:40 pm

Not to sound like a hard ass, but it's like playing poker, either you take a chance and gamble, or you don't play....

Love is like a gamble; hell, love is a gamble...who am I kidding?

But...if you don't play, you'll never win....

Just my viewpoint....

NG61....disappearing into the shadows....


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:14 am:
[i"But...if you don't play, you'll never win...."

Just took the words right out of my mouth.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
6/13/2006 12:07 am

Today? I don't know shit. Who knows why we humans do what we do. I give up trying to figure us out. At least for today.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:14 am:
Ok, but only for today....

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
6/13/2006 1:09 am

people make choices for a variety of reasons.
sometimes they make good choices, other times people are just stupid; or, as you point out, cowards.

in every heartache, there is usually a lesson to be learned. and that's our consolation.

my hugs to you.


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:14 am:
Every heartache, every joy...all of it is a lesson.

StillSmokin2oo6 45M/44F

6/13/2006 2:06 am

nothing ventured,,nothing gained

It's always better to take a chance and know for sure,even if it hurts like hell,,than to do nothing and never know at all...

wounds heal,pain eventually fades,,but the thought of missing an opportunity will haunt forever...


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:15 am:
You were reading my mind again weren't you?

elysianpleasure 48M

6/13/2006 4:12 am

I have been there so many times... and I always like to blame it on timing. I don't really know if was that or it was a bit of hesitation and fear...

The one I remember most was my college and right after college girl friend... I was so young... so ambitious... she wanted me to tell her I would always be there... not even necessarily a proposal... I tried to be rational... explain I couldn't commit to her... needed to find a job... I was most likely right... but that wasn't what she wanted or needed to hear at the time and I was blind. I hurt her and she was gone...

A repeating story in my life... rationalization, hesitation... and loss...

But I agree with you... we should take chances... big chances sometimes...


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:16 am:
I try to never rationalize love. "The heart has reasons which reason does not know." I learned that hesitating only served to cost me that which I held dearest. Sometimes you have to just close your eyes and go for it. Just let it take you where it will.

Seriously_Real 49M

6/13/2006 6:33 am

Do you want to write my comment for me? I have a feeling you know where I stand.

But I'll say it again, with greater precision, economy and clarity, recycling things I've used before.

* To truly love is the greatest thing and the most miserable thing in the whole world. But we must.

*In the beginning, there is love. In the end, there is love. In the middle, there is love struggling to surmount all else.

*All credit goes to the men and women in the arena -- streaked with the blood and the sweat and the triumph that comes from the struggle. (credit: paraphrased and adapted from Teddy Roosevelt's "Man in the Arena")

*The only story worth telling is a love story. (credit: craptoast).

*Better to love and lose than never love at all; dance like no one's watching, sing like no one's listening, and love like you've never been hurt before. (credit: various anonymous)

*Living consists of action, and protecting a heart from the very thing that gives us life is not action.

*Every action produces an equal and opposite reaction; every adversity produces and equal and greater opporunity; and every heart shared increases.

*The things of the earth one day pass away, and when we're left with nothing, only love will remain. That's what love is.


--Seriously


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:17 am:
I love this comment!
I printed it out and stuck in above my computer.

Choozmi 51M

6/13/2006 10:40 am

Did you do the slipping or did someone let you slip?


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:18 am:
He let me slip...but it was my actions that caused his hesitation.

seek_u_topia 52M

6/13/2006 11:49 am

The pains of love be sweeter far
Than all other pleasures are.

- John Dryden


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:18 am:
Very true.

marywannado 44F

6/13/2006 12:09 pm

*sighs*,, oh the joys of love....


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:19 am:
It makes life interesting and worth living though.

rm_cru1972 45M
4407 posts
6/13/2006 4:08 pm

Let me pose this question to you, "How many times must we go through the pains, and hurt before we are allowed to avoid it?"


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:19 am:
Until we learn whatever it is that we keep missing.

rm_DaphneR 59F
8023 posts
6/13/2006 4:33 pm

Yep, having love fail hurts. But not loving hurts more.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:20 am:
I'll take the heartache of love over the emptiness of lonliness any day.

rm_lust2u2 52M

6/14/2006 2:24 am

That´s exactly right... dare to try and do it (but not necessarily risk one's life)... I agree with you "curious"


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:21 am:
Definitely don't risk yourself to the point of causing harm...

bulging_boy 50M

6/14/2006 4:49 am

Dunno Curious,

I could never do that.

Did I mention that I'm absolutely ecstatic about that particular fact?

t minus eleven days and counting.


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:23 am:
Yep, we're the same on this one. When I love someone, I'll give them everything I have and fight for it until I can't anymore. I hold on with everything and I wouldn't have it any other way.

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
6/14/2006 5:30 am

    Quoting rm_DaphneR:
    Yep, having love fail hurts. But not loving hurts more.

not alwayz tho....

but many a timez, yes


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:23 am:
There are always exceptions...

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
6/14/2006 5:58 am

That whole thing sucks ass


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:23 am:
You know my thoughts here....

micahbiguns 52M

6/14/2006 7:30 pm

Sometimes people cling to tight also. So I think it is more a matter of knowing what to do and when to do it. Hell I went and married the wrong woman when the right one was still waiting on me we wasted 20 years being apart. On the 27th we will remedy that!!


curious082385 replies on 6/15/2006 2:25 am:
It is a very fine line, isn't it? But everything happens for a reason and it all eventually turns out right.
Huge smiles and congratulations to you.

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