I feel so mean!!!  

curious082385 32F
4230 posts
4/25/2006 2:01 am

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4/28/2006 2:19 am

I feel so mean!!!

I logged in, checked my e-mails, noticed that I had a few new network invites. So I clicked over and got a frustrated frown upon seeing that they were from people I've never heard from before.

Now, I know that some people send out Network Invites with every e-mail they send and that others will accept them. It's because of the album pictures I think. If you are like that and that strategy works for you...great, go for it...but I am not one of those people. I only accept or invite people to my network if they are someone I have known for a while. Usually blog buddies or people I IM with.

So when random people that I've never had any contact with send me invites out of nowhere, I usually deny them...unless there is something about their profile or blog (yes, I always check before denying them) that really catches my attention. And that is rare...has only happened twice. I don't usually pay attention to the numbers, but today it caught my eye.....


Network Invites Denied by Curious: 319

I feel like such a terrible person!!

I mean, none of those people had any emotional attachment to me, but they still knew that I looked at their profiles and, not finding anything of interest, chose not to associate with them. I feel so mean!

So, how many have you turned down? What criteria do people have to meet in order for you to let them into your network?



SirluvsStorms 47M
684 posts
4/25/2006 3:14 am

With the number of men out numbering the wonderful women on this sight and the majority of those men being not able to read let alone have only one thing on their mind. You should NEVER feel bad about denied network invites.
Sir


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:50 am:
Some of them really can't read, huh? Or write....or spell...or type...or hold intelligent conversations. lol
Welcome to my blog...thanks for stopping in.

Nightguy_1961 56M
4866 posts
4/25/2006 3:14 am

curious,

I think it might be different between men and women. I know I've had more of mine turned down (7) than I have turned them down myself...but then again, I don't send that many out to begin with...I like to get to know the person first (or as well as one can here in the cyber realm)

Remember, us hotel people have got to stick together!!!{i]*grins*

NG61...leaving behind a red rose tied in a black silk ribbon...and no wake up calls....as a token...


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:04 am:
"I like to get to know the person first"

Exactly! I want to have talked back and forth on the blogs, sent a few e-mails or chatted for a while before I'm going to let you into my network.

*hopeful look* No wake up calls???? Promise????

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
4/25/2006 3:24 am

Whatever you might have in your album is private. Why give anyone else a chance to see them if you don't want them to? I've got private pics in mine, but I'm not letting anyone see me naked until I perform the world premiere broadcast of the "Skinny naked white boy dance".

Don't feel guilty, feel flattered(?) so many people might want to see what you have buried in that album. Or that so many might want to have you make them look good on their profiles. The network is essentially a self serving thing, right?

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:05 am:
"Don't feel guilty, feel flattered..."

I like the way you think.
Although I'm not sure why having me in their network would make someone look good.

rm_KirkVW44m 56M
688 posts
4/25/2006 3:41 am

I've gotten once since i came here. I said what the heck and accepted and well I suppose so she could show me here hot mamma nasty pussy pictures but i never went back lol.. Kinda of cruel for me to speak of it that way, but it was ~nasty~. But i'm with you on your preference to know or be friends with first. Your not mean by denying network invites btw your being you!

Kirk


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:55 am:
Thank you.
Yeah, it seems like the girls tend to get more e-mails/invites then the guys do. Or maybe we just use them in different ways. You know, maybe that the girls only send them out to people they know and the guys use them right off.

Seriously_Real 49M

4/25/2006 3:46 am

Let me see if I have this straight...you have had 319-plus network invites.....you have actually LOOKED at the profiles....and yet you know that most of them come from people who just sent you an e-mail from nowhere....hmm....To that collection of facts, I will add my own personal knowledge that 99% of the e-mails you get are written by Neanderthalic knuckle-draggers who have not read YOUR profile, who can hardly express a coherent thought (let alone one that does not involve either his dick or your pussy or both), and who will never, ever, ever have a chance of getting your legitimate attention.

Are you mean? Are you fucking kidding me? The typical man on this site is lucky if every woman does not flame his ass for the type of e-mail that is sent. They are exponentially more lucky if someone beautiful as you actually looks at their profile. And they are almost supernaturally blessed with copious amounts of luck when you even feel a little bad for doing what MOST women do, which is ignore, delete and move on.

You are a ridiculously sweet girl. Sigh.....

--Seriously


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:07 am:
"99% of the e-mails you get are written by Neanderthalic knuckle-draggers who have not read YOUR profile, who can hardly express a coherent thought (let alone one that does not involve either his dick or your pussy or both), and who will never, ever, ever have a chance of getting your legitimate attention."

Yep...that would be a correct assumption. I've gotten some real winners.

rm_yukonpaul 52M
1120 posts
4/25/2006 4:23 am

I have not yet received a network invite. Previously, I only send out invites if I want to see their photo albums. I may change to include blogging friends.


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 4:56 am:
Yeah, like I said to Kirk, it seems to be a function that the girls don't use until they know someone.

nightstalker172 37M
1258 posts
4/25/2006 5:03 am

Well Ive gotten very few network invites but the ones I have they invited me mostly...Ive sent out very few as well...I will say this though each time I did I was never turned down...but it was with people I had chatted with already so it was fine...I dont send out net invites blindly thats just stupid...Its nice to look at some of the photo albums but its not that big a deal to me....Shouldnt feel bad about it though...they are just hopeing that you have more revealing pics in your albums and they want to see them So your not mean IMO...If you dont like em you dont like em...cant be helped most of the time...


curious082385 replies on 4/25/2006 5:29 am:
lol...nope, no revealing pictures. Maybe I should put that in big huge red letters somewhere on my profile.
"No Nekkie Pics"
Think it would work and keep some of them away?

rm_LoyalCumpany 47M
3204 posts
4/25/2006 6:15 am

Since profiles show pictures of their "Network Friends", I'm assuming to have a picture like yours on a profile, for some guys, would be similar to a notch on a bedpost. The profiles I've seen where a woman has 200 friends and they're all pics of naked guys makes me wonder how many she might have actually been with.

I am JoJo the Circus Boy!


curious082385 replies on 4/27/2006 5:16 am:
Well, that is true. Never thought of it that way.

onelittlesecret 34M
1579 posts
4/25/2006 8:28 am

Mmm, I'd say I have pretty low standards for my friends network, after all, you're in there!

Okay, seriously, I don't really have much criteria. I've never turned anyone down, but I do have a couple invites from uhh... guys, that have been laying around for a few months. Though I did delete some recently that I really didn't have any contact with, so I'm down to nine, all bloggers.

As far as I can tell, there doesn't seem to really be any reason for the friends network other than sharing pics...

*going off to check out Curious's album*

Oh, and like the other fellows said, I wouldn't worry about turning down those out-of-nowhere invites.


curious082385 replies on 4/27/2006 5:17 am:
"Mmm, I'd say I have pretty low standards for my friends network, after all, you're in there!"

Hey! Don't make me come over there and kick you!

StillSmokin2oo6 45M/44F

4/25/2006 9:36 am

Don't feel bad about that,,we've turned down our share of invites too. I don't think we've turned down anyone from the blogs yet,,but on a site full of people that can't read,idiots that can read but don't care what your sayin,and warped minded sicko's,it gets to be a daily thing denying invites...We always read profiles and read blogs when present,but we always still manage to let a few in we wished we wouldn't have.What can ya do,,,I guess it's all part of this site!!LoL


GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
4/25/2006 9:41 am


~duckz~ only 319?

I can't state that out here.... ~hidez~


rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
4/25/2006 1:34 pm

I SWEAR...we're on the same damn wavelength!

No guilt necessary - that's a good lesson from this experience for both of us.

But if they also send an email or message with the request, I do send a nice but short email explaining why and wishing them well with the site. But the random and routine requests? Pffffft - delete, no second thought.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]


caressmewell 54F

4/25/2006 1:38 pm

I don't know how many but it's been quite a few.
I have only people that I either blog with or IM with in my network.
Don't feel guilty...I don't.


rm_corezon 54F
3376 posts
4/25/2006 3:16 pm

    Quoting Nightguy_1961:
    curious,

    I think it might be different between men and women. I know I've had more of mine turned down (7) than I have turned them down myself...but then again, I don't send that many out to begin with...I like to get to know the person first (or as well as one can here in the cyber realm)

    Remember, us hotel people have got to stick together!!!{i]*grins*

    NG61...leaving behind a red rose tied in a black silk ribbon...and no wake up calls....as a token...
Hmmmm....this is when someone sends you a friend network invite and you turn them down, right? or you send them one and they turn you down? It isn't an outright request for pictures but if I don't know them at all I assume it sort of is which is why I don't generally send them myself; didn't have any to begin with and then I just loaded a face pic just to see how the album thingee worked.

AT ANY RATE I was wondering if they would get an a ff message or otherwise know you had turned them down. So far I accept everybody 'cause I don't wanna hurt anybody's feelings but I don't have any nakeys in there ANYHOW and don't use the network for anything else. (of course now that I have done the blog nakeys I suppose it doesn't matter now, lol)

Of course now I have some cool blogger friends that are in my network too...but I still dunno what I am supposed to be DOING with these network thingees...I feel dingy


rm1973 44M

4/25/2006 4:58 pm

--checks to see if he tried to get into Curious' network before getting to know her...no...phew--
Seems like everyone here agrees that you aren't doing a bad thing. If you think about it, if you wanted everyone to see those pics they'd be on your profile. And if they don't care about the album but just want to be in your network - why would they do that if they haven't communicated with you in the past? Doesn't really make sense - that entire feature on AdultFriendFinder is for people that have gotten to know each other and have bonded in some way - so I wouldn't feel guilty or think about it too much...


londongames 37M

4/25/2006 6:24 pm

Ive had this debate with a few blog friends quite recently - and most of us agreed it was better to have a smaller amount of KNOWN people - a select few to call your own
..than to invite every tom dick & harry just for competition...

i mean come on - do we reallt care how many friends other profiles claim to have? I can safely say everyone in my friends network i have conversed with and have something in common....

....but seriously....319??? thats just downright cold!!!!

LG
x


nightstalker172 37M
1258 posts
4/25/2006 8:25 pm

NO I dont think it will work in keeping them away...I think it will get them to ask you instead or they'll say something like 'you should take some nekkie pics and put them in yoru album' besides since when do they read profiles they are just looking at the pics sad but true isnt it


sillyperv 55M

4/25/2006 8:53 pm

If I'm invited I go. It's only happened a couple of times and I'm flattered when it'does. Whined for an invite - I'm Standard, my god there's a class system on this site - cause I thought she was rather cute and she was bragging about her pictures. I could hear the silence. Still i don't really get the big deal unless someone is really putting a lot of effort into their photos.


rm_nudeelmo 51M
1 post
4/25/2006 9:42 pm

Do you feel bad about throwing out junk-mail too?
It's largely the same thing. Randomly inviting folks is a pathetic "hope we rope a few" technique - it's playing the odds in a rather desperately passive-aggressive manner.

I figure your'e entitled to deny these types of things. It doesn't hurt them any more than it hurts mass-mailers when you toss their envelopes. And they expect it anyway.


Choozmi 51M

4/25/2006 11:51 pm

I can only see your "main" photo and I think it's attractive enough that I'd want to see more pictures of you (being a Standard member limits my browsing ability). I disagree with some others, though: I think if you put a note in your profile stating that you have no naked pictures in your albums then you might get fewer network requests.

I wouldn't feel bad for not accepting a network invitation. They sent them to you on their own; you didn't ask for them, so why should you feel any obligation to a bunch of strangers?

I can't figure out how to delete people from my network. That concerns me because I believe we are known by the company we keep and a few people in my network have turned out to be different than I thought they were and I'd like to not be associated with them anymore. It seems like a network invitation is "permanent" so choose your friends wisely.


bardicman 51M

4/26/2006 1:34 am

Hmmm You have rejected me 315 times. Who are the other 4 people



I am not dead yet


rm_kelli4u2dew 42F
5220 posts
4/26/2006 4:13 pm

I've turned down hundreds and accepted about 60. I get about a dozen every time I log on. I was looking at one lady's profile and she had about 6000 "friends". Hell, I don't even know that many people since I was born. Friends?


Fox4aKnight1 44F

4/26/2006 11:36 pm

Curious I don't blame you and I have probly turned down as many if not more in my 3 yrs of being here. I want the people in my network to actually be my friends ......Some I have met from here some I haven't ....but I turn down an unbeliveable amount .......partly because its emails and partly from the chat rooms themselves ....


carebearluv2 43F

4/27/2006 8:27 pm

Z, no need to feel guilty. I only accept invitations from people that I have spoken with before. I also never send invites out. I figure if I want to see their photo albums and I talk to them, I will just ask to see it.

I have only 5 people in my network and it's probably out of date. I have declined 31. I sleep fine at night!


toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
4/28/2006 12:52 am

I don't have too many friends, but I have great friends.
And I 'm happy to see a few of them in here.

I have only turned down one and been turned down by only one too.


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