Day of Silence?  

curious082385 32F
4230 posts
9/10/2006 4:30 am

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9/14/2006 6:01 am

Day of Silence?

I have seen several [post 498992] around this week, calling for a day of silence on Monday in remembrance of 9-11.
I am still ambivalent about whether to participate or not. Certainly anything I would write that day would be a tribute or prayer. On one hand, it would be a beautiful thing to see so many people remembering the tragedy of that day and honoring the deaths, but I also wonder if silencing our voices is the right way to give homage.
What do you think? A silent day of remembrance...will you?

rm_smosmof2 69M
3240 posts
9/10/2006 4:55 am

haven't decided yet... I've been silent for most of the last week, as far as posting goes, anyway....., but I agree with you that I'm not sure that silence is the appropriate way to go.....

GoddessOfTheDawn 106F
11240 posts
9/10/2006 5:12 am

gosh, we're on the same page ~ we posted quite similarly just about the same minute....

~ lewkz round 4 pillowz ~

rm_saintlianna 46F
15466 posts
9/10/2006 5:28 am

Nope. I remember everday as it is, and I guarentee you that the media wont be silent. My aunt used to work in the Pentagon, if she would have been killed I would want people to recognize her life on the day of her death.


9/10/2006 6:32 am

I never like any sort of pressure to observe these things a certqain way.

I hate "viewings" of the dead and personally think they are obnoxious and in some major way insuilting and I will never go to those.

I also will not attend most death services because most of them are funneled in to a particular way that I think is very restrictive of paying homage to the dead.

My last memeories of seeing my own mother were holding her hand as I watched the monitors flat line in the ICU directly after I gave thme permission to trun off the breathing machine she was on. Her lungs had failed and she had clearly made her wishes known to the whole family of having no desire whatsoever to linger on physically as a brain dead vegetsble. Only an hour before that I had carried her to the car still having the a last bit of everyday consiousness I ever then saw her with again.

So that was my farewell to her. And after that I did go to just one service for her which was done Quaker style. As she was the local elder figurehead for the whole local organization around here. And a Quaker mass is essentiall a group meditation in which is done in complete silence. But if any of the particiapnts are motivated enough by "the voice within" which is seen to be equivalent of the voice of creator him/her/itself that person is freelay allowed to let the message pass through for the benefit of all preset.

Many people spoke during that service and I myself must have taken about 15 rounds of it, some were rather lengthy too.

After that I could not attend any of the other formal events connected to this. I still haven't been to her actual gravesite as somehow it just saeem wholly immaterial to me. This all happened in the year 2000.

Anyway people should be allowed to pay their own homage to the dead in the ways and methods they best see fit to but there shuld NEVER be any sense of obligation about how they must do that. That's not paying homage in the least bit , that's just making a rule to be followed and thats not what doing any of this is about at all.


papyrina 52F
21133 posts
9/10/2006 10:13 am

will not be silent out of respect .

And if i'm silent its because i'm too busy or remembering all that have died on that day and since World wide

I'm a

i'm here to stay

tootsiedippin 54M/54F
1078 posts
9/10/2006 11:28 am

I'll take a moment but I will not remain silent. This is not something to be quite or pasive about....In my humble opinion...


maverick1255 52M
3953 posts
9/10/2006 2:16 pm

I will pause and remember, but will not be silent. I will not give that satisfaction to those that committed this cowardice act.

Sept 11th, 2006

rm_usmc050225 32M

9/11/2006 12:32 am

Being silent, to me, means a lot more than just not talking. Or writing. Or expressing your views and your desires in any sort of sense. I will take a moment and stop my thought process long enough to remember what happened that day, and what got us here, and why things are the way they are. Taking a moment to reverence the dead is in no way allowing "them" to gain power over anyone or anything. If we were to forget what happened, we would be forcing ourselves to need to relive it. I hope that makes sense. By stopping and "silencing" my loud mind, my loud heart, my loud soul, just long enough to hear what the people who lost their lives in that attack have to say, I(for one) am allowing myself to be more empowered to continue in the path we are going. I think. I'm still trying to evaluate my own opinion on this. Silence is much more than shutting up though. That's the main point I'm trying to say.

rm_AnOddGirl 58F
3469 posts
9/11/2006 10:14 am

I remember, I'll never forget, for me that is enough. I'll read their names and thank them, specially the kickass men and women of flight 93.

NSAAddict 43F

9/11/2006 1:50 pm

I'll be remembering it on my blog and as I have been all day with a lot of sadness and raw emotion. I can understand moments of silence, but I feel conveying our thoughts, emotions and sharing memories are an important part of the grieving process.

funintheday2006 58M
9659 posts
9/11/2006 8:52 pm

I stayed silent but, that was my choice, I think it is an individual thing and all views should be respected. Silence does not make it go away but, for me, it was a token of respect.

curious082385 32F
4925 posts
9/14/2006 6:01 am

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and imput on this...

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