D/D Free...don't be so sure!  

cumagain1961 57F
23 posts
7/4/2006 1:42 pm

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D/D Free...don't be so sure!

Of course everyone says they are. But that is not always true. I don't know if this person really didn't know they had anything or just didn't give a damn. Either way, I now have to live with the fact that I have herpes. This is not something I want everyone to know but I'm hoping it will help others. Now I have to live with the shame and embarrassment. Every future lover will have to be aware of this. Anyone that has talked to me has been aware of my health issue beforehand. I have lost some potential good lovers but I had to do what was right. I just feel like giving up now. Who's going to want me now? I'm just going to give up looking for someone. I will be deleting my profile soon. I debated whether I should say anything or not about this. I felt I had to. Please be careful with your life. It's the only one you have.

GossipJunkie 42F

7/4/2006 3:02 pm

Wow! Honey, life is NOT over. Please take a look at my profile. You will see links for groups that the reason they exist is because we have herpes. I've had it for nearly ten years and life is certainly not over for me. There are bigger things to worry about.



"Dance like nobody's watching"

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
7/4/2006 3:36 pm

Hon, you have nothing to be ashamed and embarrassed about. You did not set out to deliberately get herpes. You are very honest with potential lovers. Someday someone will love you and will not care. You know how to take care of yourself and him. Just hang in there. And please don't stop blogging if this is the reason for it. Best wishes.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."

cumagain1961 57F

7/4/2006 3:45 pm

Thank you so much Gossip. The group sounds like just what I need. See ya there.

DanaeKC 45F
608 posts
7/4/2006 4:00 pm

I have lost some potential good lovers but I had to do what was right. I just feel like giving up now. Who's going to want me now?

herpes doesn't mean contagious all the time. i wonder how 'safe' these potential good lovers really are in their own sex lives, or if they're of the 'don't ask don't tell don't wanna know' mindset. like you said in your thread title.....

cumagain1961 57F

7/6/2006 9:59 am

Ladies, I can not thank you enough for your kind words. I have read many posts from other suffers. It has helped alot. What was I thinking? I really do still have life left in me!

amindale 53M/53F
13 posts
7/24/2006 7:43 pm

this was a good blog...and u should pat yourself on the back...i myself dont have herpes but it reminds me to be careful not to get wrapped up in the moment thank u

1BignSexyGirl4U 37F
20 posts
7/26/2006 1:27 pm

I was bored and checking out peoples profile when I came up to yours. You are a very honest woman. Not many people would admit that. I see so many profiles that say they are D/D free but then I think about every one out of so many that has some type of disease and I know some of them just aren't honest. It takes a true woman to admit that and be so honest. Wish everyone could be that honest. You will find someone. You didn't ask for it, didn't want it, but you have it and that doesn't mean the end. Just continue to be honest and you will find the right man for you.

cumagain1961 57F

7/26/2006 5:38 pm

Gossip Junkie- You could not have been more right. I now know my life in not over. I have joined the group and find comfort there.

amoldenough- I am new to blogland and love it! I will continue. I read over your words when I feel down. I can't thank you enough for taking the time to make me feel better.

DanaeKC- I still hate to think that the guy knew and didn't tell me. But I now know there are many out there like that. And hope I never come across that type of guy again.

amindale- Thank you. That was my purpose for telling what happened to me. I would hate to see that or something worse happen to someone else. Good luck to you.

1BignSeyGirl4U- If nothing else I try to be honest. You sound like a real honest woman yourself! That's nice to see here. Hope you find what you're looking for here.

One last note. I would be honored if any of you would like to keep in touch. I just love getting emails! LOL I am always looking to make new friends. Either here or in person. Take care.

roughrider444 51M
3 posts
7/29/2006 10:33 am

I admire your honesty and your message. Carry on lady, life has so much to offer and your good attitude will pay off!

rm_gtrh 107M

9/30/2006 10:59 pm


I am sorry that this happened, and I do have to worry as we are a new generation, not in the 50's, 60's or 70's anymore.
I hope you had the guy who didn't tell you arrested. There is a law that you must tell your partner whether you have STD or HIV.
Just rise above the occasion.

rm_loveall1952 60M
48 posts
2/3/2007 9:19 am

you hang in there,its not the end of your life,or sx ,i cant inmagine what you're going thru but keep you head up,xoxoxo sammy{=}

cumagain1961 57F

2/3/2007 2:16 pm

I still try and keep a positive attitude. Sometimes it's just really hard. Some guys still don't understand what herpes is and freak out. But that's their problem. I will continue my search for that one special guy.

rm_2TS4URFUN 50M/51F

2/7/2007 6:56 pm

Thank you for being you! As hard as it might seem today, just remember tomorrow is a brand new day. People come in and out of your life for a reason and we truly believe your profile found us for a reason. You have re-opened our eyes to just how hurtfuland dishonest some people can be. We are just glad we found you on here. Keep blogging and let it be known we will be here to read and reflect. You are a great person and NEVER think otherwise. You've made a difference to us! A MILLION THANK YOU's!!!!!!!

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