Barometer of the importance of sex  

cristale75 42F
73 posts
5/29/2006 10:25 am

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5/29/2007 8:25 pm

Barometer of the importance of sex


In a relationship how important is the sex ?
I saw someone say somewhere that, if the sex is good its only 5% of the relationship, but if its bad then its 95% of the relationship. If your not having it at all then its all you think about.

I learned the hard way thats its true, atleast in my experience. I was in a situation where the sex was a constant uphill battle. No matter what we did or tried he was never completely satisified. It was stressful to even try but I was a persistent fucker, I wanted to get it right for my own sanity.

But I learned some valuable lesson from said situation, good sex is relative to the two people, if they enjoy your company they can overlook the sex, sometimes its just not worth the effort(especially when you find out later that they are embarrased to go outside with you), that giving is a two way street, sex is not a favor you do for the other person but for yourself(enjoy it and so will your partner), and most importantly its only sex, practicing is half the fun.

rm_forplayguy 43M

6/13/2006 9:47 am

Cristale75,

I have been with my wife for about 10 years now, the last three we have been married. She has said for quite some time now that I do not pay any attention to her yet she is the one that places the "road blocks" so to speak. We used to have sex often meaning 2-3 times a day and then it gradually declined. We are now having sex once every few weeks and when I ask for it she declines me. I have about a 7.5" and above average girth and I can make her cum everytime when I suck her off. Last night I asked her why we haven't been having sex and she told me that I needed to give her a break (from what?). I am getting extremely frustrated because all she cares about are her wants and her needs and when I tell her what I want she laughs or ignors me. Sex is extremely important in a relationship, and without it the relationship is incomplete. Sorry to be venting to you I just needed to get that off my chest.


puntachueca 107M

5/29/2006 11:20 am

I think the sexual part of a relationship is extremely important...because if two people can really communicate and enjoy each other at that level, there's a lot less problems elsewhere.

Problem is most of us have downplayed various "deficiencies" in our past relationships only to come to regret it.

We have been such good friends
for a very long time
so do you think
that we’ll lose what we have
if we become lovers?

We’ve been such good lovers
for a very long time
so do you think
That we’ll lose what we have
if we become man and wife?

Over and over
friendship lost in love
love lost in marriage
and it never seems possible
to turn the clock back

Where do you think we’re going
and where do you think we’ve been
I wish we could tell the future
so we’d know just where to stay
for a very long time.


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