Is variety the spice of life?  

crazyname67 50M
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10/13/2005 8:42 am

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Is variety the spice of life?

Earlier this week I read a very thought provoking advice line. The author stated that she'd been observing animals and had concluded that humans are not naturally monogamous but rather are just conditioned to be by religion. Some responders agreed with her that we as humans are hardwired to be non-monogamous, and others disagreed and felt that we're hardwired to be monogamous. Each used examples from the animal kingdom to back their arguments. Reference was made to the bald eagle which is a very monogamous creature. On the other side, the example was the Bonobos (which are similar to chimpanzees but extremely promiscuous). My conclusion from that post is that we as humans aren't hardwired to be either monogamous or non-monogamous exclusively, but rather both. I believe that what separates us from the animals, is our uniqueness in kind. You don't see some bald eagles sleeping around and others being faithful. However as humans we're all different. Some of us are born with hetrosexual tendencies and some with homosexual desires. And I also believe that some of us are born yearning monogamy and others with a natural desire to want to play the field.

Even though that's my opinion, I could be wrong about it and I'd hope I'd show enough respect to others who disagreed by trying to hear out their opinion without berating them. Sometimes I wish we as humans could be more understanding of one anothers differences and not make sweeping statements like, "we're all hard wired to be this way, or that!" Wouldn't it be so cool if we could embrace each other differences, even though others may look, act, think or be even wired differently than us? I know that this may seem like an impossibility at times as we look around our messed up world, but I want to live my life believing that it could happen, and that I could help start making it a reality.


crazyname67 50M

12/30/2005 4:50 pm

That sounds like it would have been an interesting one to watch. Thanx for the recap sexyfitwoman. From most of my life experience thus far and what my concience tells me, I think we're probably wired for monogamy as humans. Even though I like the thought of playing around, I guess down deep we all like to know that we have the security of someone who would love us unconditionally and that we could love too.


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