Needy  

complexlysimple 35M
894 posts
7/12/2006 7:45 pm

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Needy


Never have I felt quite like this ..sorrow, regret and yet some rejoicing for having come more to grips with what/who I am.

One of the many reasons, that I've started to drift from here is that while I do enjoy the companionship I want/need that physical side of of a relationship ... I don't mean sex I mean just having someone to be with.

I'm not sure this makes any sense, but having spent much of my life essentially alone I don't want to keep doing things that way...

I realize that I'm not alone in spirit or emotion, but there really is something to having someone/something living physically present around that is comforting... and I'm seriously starting to doubt that I'm going to find that here ... the closest that I know of anyone being to me is around 100 miles (and further for those of you that I interact with on a regular basis).

I'm not leaving, it's just that I need to find somthing physcial as well ...even if it's just spending more time around my brothers ...which would mean spending about as much time here as I have in the last few days... we're acutally going to try playing a paper and pencil RPG ... just the three of us - I think it should be interesting since if I have my way all three of us will be the 'referee'/'dungeon master'/whatever as well as a character ... might not be how it's usually done, but to hell with those rules .. all three of us can weave interesting stories ..so when we work together ... it should be fun.

Now the thing is this wouldn't solve my problem about finding a woman to be around (and yes, there is a huge difference even in just being around each other) ... I'm also coming to grips a bit more with this nasty feeling ( it wasn't a nasty feeling earlier ...must have gotten stronger since I read the blogs) that I'm not going to end up with just one woman -which is what I'd prefer ..

I have no idea why a guy would want to have serious relationship with more than one ... okay, yeah twice the sex ..but there's twice the headache in that there'd likely be twice the nagging, twice the period ( I've never notice when a woman is or isn't ..except that maybe they become more playful(?) - hey, it's me, weird things happen ...on top of that I've heard that women living together end up on about the same cycle (maybe someone can confirm or correct that?)

So I can't really see a reason why I'd really want to live with more than one woman ...and yet I have this feeling that it's going to happen ... and I don't mean I think I'm going to have daughters ...no this is more of sexual/intimate nature I believe.

I hate some of these 'feelings' I get... because they tend to be right whether I want them to be or not ... just like right now I know there are many other things on this topic I can (perhaps should) say but I have a feeling that this is enough for now.

So I guess in summary I need a lot of attention even though I don't need to be taken care of ...and it needs to be complete spiritual, emotional and physical...

Good night/ good day (whichever it is for you) ...and I'll be back tomorrow, but if I'm not I'll be back soon.

amoldenough 71F
16436 posts
7/12/2006 9:37 pm

We all need someone special to be with, even if it's just to be in the same room together. I just is nice to know that a loved one is around. Maybe you aren't destined to be with two women for you, maybe it will be a mother/daughter situation, or some other type of relationship. I have heard about women living together eventually being on the same cycle, but have not experienced it. I will have to check around with some of my friends.

"Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened."


complexlysimple replies on 7/13/2006 4:05 pm:
I hope I'm not destined to be with 2 like I said above, just at times I wonder if that isn't what's going to happen .... and I definitely like to know about that cycle thing ... one of the many things I've heard but am not sure if it's true...

cookiequeen1000 54F

7/13/2006 4:11 am

Totally understand the desire and need to be with someone for companionship and human contact. They are very important and can add years of vitality to your life. Hope you find what you seek. You're very intuitive, thoughtful, and fairly well spoken and give me the impression you'd make a good companion.

Most guys with more than one woman don't have them together in the same house. Maybe for a menage a trois, but beyond that its rare to have so many head-strong people existing cohesively under the same roof. Most guys I know that "see" more than one woman, see them individually and periodically...more of a FWB situation.

From all the places I've worked, women do tend to adjust their cycles to the group. Getting a female temp or new female employee (that lasted more than a couple days) did throw all of us off cycle, but after the adjustment phase, we all seemed to go back into sync. Its wierd...kind of like the tides, but funnier. The worst of it for the guys in the office is we were all bitchy and on the rag at the same time, the best was that the majority of the month we were all wonderful to be around like normal human beings.


complexlysimple replies on 7/13/2006 4:08 pm:
That's the thing somehow I have this wierd feeling that if that ends up happening then they will be the ones to make it happen.... and not me.

BaronessK 53F

7/13/2006 4:17 am

I know exactly what you mean; and you're not only right, but you are starting to realize more exactly what you do need, don't need, and that 'settling' is never the way to go. Trust your experiences and your instincts, and you won't have to worry about not finding and keeping just one.

Most women get bitchier, but some of us do in fact get more playful; not sure as to what type of female, but.... As for the synchronized periods, that is actually a medical fact in any situation where the menses is still ongoing that the periods tend to come at the same time. {Imagine WRTC, W for Women's, in USMC boot camp...scary thought, all those women doing 'it' at same time...with guns! }.

Can I quote that for a post sometime? It made excellent sense! {"I need a lot of attention even though I don't need to be taken care of...and it needs to be complete spiritual, emotional and physical...."} That's a soul mate...and I remember that.


complexlysimple replies on 7/13/2006 4:13 pm:
... that's the funny thing every woman seems to get more playful - to my point of view at least ... I'd swear that's the only time some actually pay me any attention.

Feel free to use that quote ..I probably won't be using it again....

PrincessKarma 45F
6188 posts
7/13/2006 4:32 pm

I understand completely... it's not the need for sex as much as it is the need to be touched in a loving way.

*warm comforting hug*


The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma


complexlysimple replies on 7/13/2006 5:03 pm:
thank you ...kind of wish it was a physical one too ..but I suppose it'd be frightfully chilly here compared to what you're used to...

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