Defining 'Reasonable Company'  

complexlysimple 35M
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8/7/2006 5:56 pm

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Defining 'Reasonable Company'

Well, since I've been asked to define what I think reasonable company is (as regards to female/male relationships) I'm going to do so right here...

I'll start by saying I wouldn't expect it to be much different than the relationships I have with guys ...the only addition could/would be sex.

So what does that mean?

It means I expect a woman to take the initiative once and while .... whether it means going out, calling me, or initiating some playing around (sex or otherwise).

I expect a woman to speak her mind ... absolutely no "If you don't know what you did, I'm not telling you" type of crap ...I may be intelligent, but I don't read minds ...and if I ask a question I want an honest answer ..otherwise I won't/wouldn't ask. This also goes the otherway, so if you ask if something makes you look fat ..I'll tell you: "nope, your body does that all on it's own" ..and yes, I expect to get smacked -women tend to get violent like that ..even though I may think you look great just the way you are.

I expect a woman to be willing to work ..whether it's mentally, emotionally or physically ...odds are being around me may very well expand your views on what reality is because I'm almost constantly tearing at what I think to be 'true'

I expect a woman to (at least) respect my opinion, even if she doesn't agree with it ..and odds are if we talk about it we will find a common ground ..or at least some understanding of the reasons why I say as I am/have.

What a woman shouldn't expect from me is anymore than she's willing to give. ...and in some cases/ways perhaps not as much (do have my limits, just like everyone else).

I suppose this makes me sound rather simple and maybe easy to be around ... and I generally am

Although right now I'd say a woman also shouldn't expect me to take the initative .. I've had more bad experiences than good at the moment (mainly because the last few women had others tell me off intead of doing it themselves) ...and others don't seem willing to say what they want and just hint around at things... (especially the under 40ish crowd) ....and playing head games can get old really quickly making it not worthwhile to continue...

Otherwise if a woman can stick around for any period of time odds are we're going to become friends to put it bluntly the only real question is how close we become and whether or not we're fucking .. sitting on my lap or curling up next to me is perfectly fine as well, I've had guys do as much (while completely dressed)... so expect you may have to push fairly hard to get me into bed ...either that or just saying so, might do the trick..

BaronessK 53F

8/8/2006 1:39 am

When I ask a question I want an honest answer...otherwise I won't/wouldn't ask. {Ditto.} Thing is, with your example, unless you came back with an honest answer {assuming those type words ever came out of my mouth such as 'do these pants make my butt look big' or whatever} after the 'crack' then I could see me smacking you lightly on your arm!

You're a 'thinker', so that is to be expected; quite interesting, as well.

Ditto on the opinion, respect, agreement, etcetera.

Re: limits, etcetera, well of course.

But you have, in a way, taken the initiative some of your posts show {and you are well aware of who I refer to, although it is not me}. What's the difference, with you, between playing head/mind games and 'probing' for interest and all that?

I would say, opinions of others' to contrary, that you are actually quite easy to become friends with, and make a strong, permanent one, Cubby! "just saying so, might do the trick"....

complexlysimple replies on 8/8/2006 3:32 pm:
"just saying so, might do the trick" ...yup, simple blunt and possibly repetitively... this whole relationship thing is an area I just don't understand so it may take a few thwacks to get it into my head...

complexlysimple replies on 8/8/2006 4:33 pm:
I forgot to answer this one

"What's the difference, with you, between playing head/mind games and 'probing' for interest and all that?"

'mind games' ...are long running and are played for entertainment or to merely 'test' someone's devotion ..and includes lying or purposeful and intental misdirection ...

'probing' is pointed, short and more information gathering ...

I realize it's a very fine line between the two ... but the way I see things it's a very fine line between many things

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