question for men especially  

cocodiva247 42F
31 posts
9/21/2005 7:58 am

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question for men especially

I was just sitting down with a girlfriend last night who posed a very difficult situation to me. what do you do when you enjoy everything about your lover except the lovin’? please let me provide more detail to this situation. She says, that passion is there, attentive, good foreplay, BUT, yes the BUT, he last five minutes. FIVE MINUTES on a good night. I do know what to say, uhuh. Do you talk to him about it or make him the new friend/ex-lover. What?

cocodiva247 42F

9/21/2005 9:08 pm

she say orally if the only way she can get off

joystick390111 52M
19 posts
9/22/2005 9:41 am

Hey beautiful,
You know I had that problem......lasting only for a minute or partner got with me and talked about it......changed my thinking and.........bam.........never had that problem again!!!!I was a Lover Man from that point on.......I let my actions speak for me now.........don't boost myself up........Holla back if you wanna AdultFriendFinder

88MARS 43M  
17 posts
9/22/2005 10:40 am

Guys like just need a little training, the desire to please you, & not themselves. Most guys are past this before they leave high school unless they stayed in their shell the entire time. The choices are to be a teacher or trade in for a more seasoned model.

rm_WILCHE29 46M

9/22/2005 11:18 am

My question would be how often do they make love/sex? If he is a man that was getting it all the time 3+ times a week, then repetition is what will allow him to last longer. If they work like most of us and are tired when they get home. Meaning it might happen once during the week and maybe once on the weekends. Then that might be a problem. All in all she needs to sit him down and just talk with him about what is going on with him. Not sexually but mentally and physically. I hope they work it out.

xgirthy 55M

9/22/2005 3:09 pm

Although your question is directed to the man Cocoa, the Woman who is involved is in a much better position to answer than any of us. If She is in tune with him (and Women usually are she knows what moves him, what he is vulnerable to. It is no secret (to a REAL man) that the Woman is the Greater part of her Man's Strength. It is Her, who gives him Balance. To put it plain and simple -- She has his Heart. My advice to her is to keep that in mind, when dealing with such a delicate situation.


CummingInUHard 48M

9/24/2005 2:44 pm

Baby.....GO fishing.......there are plenty of guys with good qualities...AND can make you sing (or scream) after 30 min and more.... Dump his sorry ass!

pumquin 45M
6 posts
9/28/2005 4:01 am

If you cant cut the mustard, lick the jar!!!! If the relationship is good He would want her to get pleasure too... If not have her cut her loses and move on.

CleatStuffGayly 38M
10 posts
10/2/2005 7:35 pm

Yea I say she should talk 2 him about whats going down befor she just walks away from him. Its alwayz things that can help that, like condoms that decrise his sensation, or lubz that can do it if she doesn't like condoms. Also sounds like hommie can get in on some viagra he can cum about five times and keep going on that stuff lol.

rm_dis_studz_4u 36F
9 posts
10/19/2005 10:59 pm

f/f contact dildos never go soft and outlast any man by a lifetime..lmao nah i'm kidding. but really try talking and see what kind of things are good for both ppl to come up with an answer.

down4whatUneed 54M  
5 posts
10/22/2005 8:56 pm

Maybe she should relieve him orally or handually before penetration? Sometimes role playing can extend or over stimulate foreplay. Personally, I like to look into her eyes and let her know what's about to happen. I'm sure she's aware of what excites him and how to get him there, maybe she can delay her treat in order to maximize her desire and pleasure.

rm_getolong 45M

10/22/2005 9:18 pm

She should of said something a long time ago instead of letting this go on. He'll probably be offended by any remarks she makes now. Better to cut that one loose and move on.

rm_mark34wm 47M
1 post
11/1/2005 7:12 pm

The only way it will work is if you tell him what makes you happy. So many women expect the man to know the female body and mind. But trust me, we have no idea what is going on inside your head unless you share your feelings. Every woman is different, some like it rough,others like it gentle. Communication is the only way to experience total satisfaction. And if that doesn't work, find a man that listens.

cocodiva247 42F

11/2/2005 3:32 am

Seeking professional help is a very good idea; however, the question is how many people, especially man would go and to get that type of help? I will share your idea.

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