The MANAGED Mid-life Crisis  

clevergirl4U 59F
1461 posts
7/11/2006 4:00 pm

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The MANAGED Mid-life Crisis

I have been away for a few weeks...maybe longer. I needed to refresh myself: heart, body, and soul.
I took my son on a Colorado River trip. We slept under the stars on the river bank every night in the Utah Desert. It was a group trip with strangers and a small staff, but we (and I ) had plenty of time on our (my) own. Sometimes I am closer to my idea of God, the miracle of life, and the natural world than others. I do better when I live close to these realizations, so this trip was just what I needed.

My posts from now on may differ from past posts....we'll see.

I realized at some point that I am not looking for a relationship...I am looking for a life different than the one I have. It's hard to write cute, funny, poignant realtionship stuff when your heart is elsewhere. I've known that I would be making a major shift in my life after recovering from Katrina. And then my son turned 16 and is more independant, which also shifts my focus.

I'd call this a MANAGED midlife-crisis


spacecadet561 61M

7/11/2006 5:17 pm

Congratulations.

SpaceCadetù


MastrandSlav 43M/48F
200 posts
7/11/2006 7:15 pm

It is funny how mother nature can bring you closer to the idea of spirituality. I am not by a religious man but never have I felt closer to the face of divinity then when I am mountain climbing.

COngrats

That float you went on is high on my priorities.


clevergirl4U 59F

7/11/2006 7:17 pm

Right...like I'm going to let you get away with that!

You look like man who has slept under the stars. Best time? Did it involve fish?


norprin5 56M

7/12/2006 9:01 am

<~~~~*has been stuck in an unmanageable midlife crisis for years*

King Nor XVIII


clevergirl4U 59F

7/12/2006 3:50 pm

    Quoting norprin5:
    <~~~~*has been stuck in an unmanageable midlife crisis for years*
norprin5well...it seems to be "holding up" pretty well!!


log55 60M
443 posts
7/12/2006 8:52 pm

You may be coming to a junction in your life like so many these days are...a life alone is not that bad, compared to a bad relationship. Maybe after being alone for a while we get to where we like it that way...even though we don't want to admit it. The children leave the nest, you are starting life with a clean(or cleaned) slate and maybe the oppurtunities are becoming clearer. The worl awaits for those who dare...and have little baggage


swlaman1 66M

7/13/2006 9:22 am

It’s good to have clevergirl back!

We are so far removed from the natural world in our daily lives that we often forget how much our soul yearns for home. I’ve been thinking that I owe myself a night out under the stars. I’m going to do it.

I understand how you feel about a relationship. I’m not looking for one either. Still I don’t want to walk down EVERY path alone for the rest of my life. I thought I’d call what I’m looking for a MANAGED relationship until I saw the words in print. Now it looks like an oxymoron. Back to the drawing board.

Good luck, welcome back, and...

Peace


ArtisticTwist75 42F
2505 posts
7/13/2006 2:18 pm

Reflection time is always good for the soul. Glad you got some time to yourself.

Artistic


MARRIEDBORED59 58M
657 posts
7/13/2006 6:13 pm

Nice to see that someone can have a managed mid life crisis. Might mean (and I hope) that yours is about over. Wish that I could.

Tim


clevergirl4U 59F

7/14/2006 1:15 pm

    Quoting swlaman1:
    It’s good to have clevergirl back!

    We are so far removed from the natural world in our daily lives that we often forget how much our soul yearns for home. I’ve been thinking that I owe myself a night out under the stars. I’m going to do it.

    I understand how you feel about a relationship. I’m not looking for one either. Still I don’t want to walk down EVERY path alone for the rest of my life. I thought I’d call what I’m looking for a MANAGED relationship until I saw the words in print. Now it looks like an oxymoron. Back to the drawing board.

    Good luck, welcome back, and...

    Peace
Probably just occasional visits.

I DO know what you mean about walking EVERY path alone. Don't think I want that either. Just don't want a relationship to be the busy-ness of my day and the focus of my life. Think maybe that's possible for those of us who are not just beginning in our adult life...


clevergirl4U 59F

7/14/2006 1:18 pm

    Quoting ArtisticTwist75:
    Reflection time is always good for the soul. Glad you got some time to yourself.

    Artistic
Realized I haven't done nearly enough for myself over the past few years, including reflection. It's an easy way to get lost and I seem to have done it more than once


TheRealThing655 49F
9558 posts
7/14/2006 5:22 pm

Well I am glad you had a nice trip...
Reflection is always a good thing.
I always enjoy when you post..no matter what you post about!


swlaman1 66M

7/14/2006 7:20 pm

    Quoting clevergirl4U:
    Probably just occasional visits.

    I DO know what you mean about walking EVERY path alone. Don't think I want that either. Just don't want a relationship to be the busy-ness of my day and the focus of my life. Think maybe that's possible for those of us who are not just beginning in our adult life...
Yes, I think it's possible. Anyway, I HOPE it's possible.

Peace


kyplowboy22 62M

7/19/2006 7:34 am

Glad you got the chance to get away from things and take a look at life from the outside looking in. Different perspective, eh? Hope things are going well with you, talk to you when I can. Still writing. lol Later

kpb


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