Givers and Takers  

rm_charlieff 77M
132 posts
2/16/2006 7:49 am

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Givers and Takers

A European friend once told me that there are two personalities; Givers and Takers. Europeans seem to have more insight into life than us Americans who take so much for granted.

Any way, she felt we were both Givers and two givers might clash. We became terrific dance partners and great friends. We never got “together” but that’s another story. It was a long time ago, though, and I often reflect on her words.

I’m a Giver and looking back over my relationships, I’ve gotten along best with other Givers. What I may have learned about Takers is that they misunderstand Givers. Instead of seeing a considerate and understanding personality they see Givers as spineless wimps constantly looking for guidance?

If we divide ourselves into Givers and Takers, what relationship should work the best, two Givers, two Takers or a Giver and a Taker? How do you see yourself?

LadytoPleaseYou 65F
5447 posts
2/16/2006 8:09 pm

Two givers would make the best couple. In a give/take relationship, the giver would continuously be giving until the point of becoming resentful of the taker. A take/take relationship wouldn't last 10 minutes..
I am a giver. In a relationship, I give everything I can because that is what I believe should happen in a relationship. However one must be a receiver (as opposed to taker)in a relationship with another giver to balance each other.

PENIS CHARMING....where are you?

peggy4U1958 70F

2/26/2006 8:20 pm

What's wrong with being a giver and taker....even if we are givers, we must take something at some time....there can't be just a giver or taker...maybe one is more than the other but we all give and take something...I will give till I think I'm being taken then I don't give anymore! Hope that made some sense...........

demonicsexkitten 42F
10688 posts
3/22/2006 3:04 pm

i think 2 givers though sometimes it's a little frustrating. give/take would eventually feel resentful, and take/take would kill eachother. well... i guess i view this kinda the same as submissive/dominant relationships.

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