the weirdest thing  

catastrophegirl 41F
975 posts
2/8/2006 12:30 pm

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5/5/2006 11:06 pm

the weirdest thing

so i seem to be in the middle of a developing group relationship of sorts. of course me using the word relationship probably doesn't bother the other people invovled at all, but it scares the shit out of me. except for the shiny dream of moving to alaska, i haven't let myself have a future for a while and even planning my vacation weekend for next month is rather an unsettling thought for me.

it's actually a threesome or triad specifically. so long since i've had any kind of relationship and suddenly here i am overwhelmed by one.
ok, not really overwhelmed like i can't handle it, but more like it's just happening really fast and i'm wondering if we should take any time to calm down a bit and make sure this all works.
not that i am worried about the people directly invovled.... but one of the members has a daughter. she is old to enough to have some idea of what could be going on. but the thing i really worry about it is that while they have a great relationship, what happens if the daughter gets to know us all really well and gets to caring about the people in her life... and then something awkward or bad happens and she gets hurt?

i don't think the personalities of anyone involved will be unable to maintain the level of trust and honesty required, but i still want to be cautious.

should be an interesting thing though

BatteringRam007 44M
17 posts
2/12/2006 9:45 pm

Do something cold and calculating (and I mean it in a good sense) - think of all the things that could go wrong - or you are certain you will not like when you get into your new situation. Then think of what you need to do to correct that unplesantness.
Next you find out that unpleasant items 3 and 5 don't have a remedy but you are aware of that danger before getting into a sticky situation and that knowledge makes you better prepared ...

Hence do what the Olympic medalists do - Prepare! Prepare! Prepare!

BatteringRam007 44M
17 posts
2/13/2006 9:09 pm

being IN the new situation your relation is your current reality. You are worried about it but have you been able to isolate what worries you? Most worries that we cannot name are intuitive and most often right because our logical brains have missed some of the signals that our intuitive self has already processed.

So try naming your fear or worry and if it is just the fear of then unknown - that you are leaving a comfortable life behind - well keep a return ticket handy.

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