do you have any idea how hard it is  

catastrophegirl 41F
975 posts
4/29/2006 2:05 am

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5/5/2006 11:00 pm

do you have any idea how hard it is

to take your ex girlfriend out and listen to her vent about the relationship issues she is having with your ex boyfriend (imagine here that they dumped you for each other)
and then you get to watch her hit on other women all night because she still wants to have sex with women outside her relationship, just not with YOU!

i managed to not actually say out loud "how is it that you can reject my feelings for you and the feelings you said you had for me in favor of drunkenly hitting on strangers in a bar?"

i bought her drinks, i drove her home, i left her pouring herself into bed with the ex lover of mine who left me for her

she tried to explain to me that it's still related to her issues with jealousy and insecurity.

not only don't i think i'll never understand that fully, i'm pretty sure i don't want to.

but it took a lot of my willpower to keep my mouth shut and not tell her that i think she needs to grow up

redmustang91 58M  
8924 posts
4/29/2006 5:19 am

Try someone new and lose these losers!

rm_VoodooGuru1 50M
2053 posts
4/29/2006 5:21 am

I don't understand her explanation, but I do understand choosing anonomous sport-fucking over complex sex rife with emotion.

rm_Shortdogg65 52M
672 posts
4/29/2006 5:22 am

So why did you take her out in the first place? Benifit out the doubt maybe? I don't think I could hang out with an exfor any length of time especially if I was the one who got dumped. Too much emotional scarring. Shortdogg

RaytownRick 62M

4/29/2006 6:53 am

I read your post, and then thought to myself "how catastrophic!" Then I saw your own handle. Hmmm, me thinks you search for catastrophies. This may be your problem, not your ex-s'. Some people need more drama in their lives than others. There are people who avoid those who make problems, and there are those who seek them out for whatever their own purposes may be (adreniline rush, a desire to be like Hollywood, foolishness, or whatever.) I do not know what motivates you--but it is clear you do seek after catastrophe. You'll find it! I can't help you, but I suppose your life will always be interesting to hear about--sad, but interesting.

rm_keystonenc 44M
144 posts
4/29/2006 3:58 pm

I feel 'ya catastrophegirl. I had a female friend whom I cared about and she claimed to care for me, yet she always seemed to find ways to jerk me around. I was always the one that was there for her to vent and help her out when she was having some personal issues. But, she kept messing around with her ex who had screwed her over in the past and never lived up to his responsibilities. It gets very frustrating trying to console someone you care about when they keep venting about the same damn problems all the time. Needless to say we eventually grew apart. In retrospect the physical relationship we had was probably the only thing keeping the friendship as long as we had it, and I probably held back in trying to set her straight in fear of alienating her and losing a friend with benefits. I know it sounds selfish to say that, but I haven't had many physical relationships and those desires kept me from doing what I probably should have done.

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