There's love, and there's LOVE  

candy69sosweet 62F
10901 posts
4/24/2006 10:13 pm
There's love, and there's LOVE

♥ Do you know the difference? ♥

♥ Please take a minute to vote before going inside for my rendition, I appreciate it! ♥

Kisses & Hugs
♥ Candy
wanting to be with your 'other half' constantly and at all times
the feeling of comfort knowing he/she is there
cooking/cleaning/shopping/running errands for him/her
molding yourself to conform to what your lover expects
knowing that if anything happened to him/her, you would be devastated
freedom to be who and what you are, without holding back
needing to know where he/she is at all times
fantasizing about your lover when you are apart

~Friendship is a gift given from the heart and treasured forever~


4/28/2006 6:22 am

Excellent post candy and you have the attitude to find anything you want in life.
so true.. The real love is fallen in love with your self... then you can be your self..
respect for your partner is also so important... it has taken me a long time to realize I can say and do anything I want and express how I feel very openly with hubby... never new he had the respect for me to listen and instead of just getting angry he would think about it and understand it as a friend and we found passion again but it took wiping the slate clean and starting all over again..
We had both changed so much in the past 12 yrs.. at first I resented it and fought it... and now I accept it with pleasure.

But with us we had to forget about the husband and wife stuff and realize we are true friends that respect each other to make the husband and wife stuff work.. for many this doesn't work so much damage is done... we are the lucky ones.

I wish you lots of luck.. you will find the passion... just follow your heart

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4/27/2006 1:12 pm

There is nothing like finding out who you are and how wonderful, then knowing for someone else will be damned blessed if they figure it out to discover it too! {=}

just a squirrel trying to get a nut

(Princess Lips)

4/27/2006 12:10 pm

*has slippers* too and not the sexy fluffy ones either...



(Princess Lips)

4/27/2006 12:08 pm

*smiles and nods*

I ( love) many...

but not in LOVE!


fantasylover_05 63M

4/27/2006 4:22 am

Dearest Sweet Candy

First let me say... I have had it and lost it.. and WANT IT BACK AGAIN!! And no it was not with my wife that I had it....

Next... you are ABSOLUTELY CORRECT you must love and like yourself FIRST!! And I too have only begin to know this in the last very few years and that may also be a key to how/why I was able to experience it myself.. because I had finally begun to love and like myself....

Next... I completely understand your comment to Lady about never having felt beautfiul until your Brit came into your life... again such an amazing correlation to my own life.. I never felt wanted, sexy, desired, "handsome" until I met my "G"............ I have never felt that way with my wife!

Our happiness is our own responsibility.... no one else can "MAKE" us happy... that is within ourselves regardless of our situations

Candy I do soooo wish you happiness and LOVE... UNCONDITIONAL... PASSIONATE LOVE!!! And I know you are on the right track to finding it!!

Good luck my Sweet Candy!!

rm_BigDnLady 44M/42F
1140 posts
4/26/2006 11:08 am

There is nothing like being with someone who wants to be with you, when you act stupid, laugh so hard that you squirt milk out of your nose. When you got crud in your eyes, or when you are wearing nothing but sweats and a tshirt! Being yourself with someone, completely in love is awesome.

Candy, I am so happy for you. I love that you are able to be yourself, now. No holding back. Now is the time for him to truly see who you are!!! I feel sorry for him, because he is losing a wonderful woman, but I know that you are gonna shine now that you don't have to hold back who you are. I hope that everytime you discover more about yourself, you go to the mirror and kiss your reflection. You are beautiful. Inside and out, and man, oh man, when that someone special gets to know you the real you. The one who has been held in by those fuzzy slippers, but now she is ready to step into those fancy red stillettos........wheeeeeeeeeeewwwwweeeeee!!!!


fantasylover_05 63M

4/26/2006 5:02 am

Dearest Candy

YES I believe adults ARE capable of unconditional love!!!

I truly believe we can love in many forms and we can unconditionally love also in many forms... we can have platonic unconditional love.. we can have PASSIONATE unconditional love... and we can have familial unconditional love

The problem is when someone loves you unconditionally in a form other than the passionate one you want, need and desire!

As Erotic said... in order to maintain the passionate love it take fuel and work on BOTH parties... and the love can easily slip into a more "comfortable" platonic or familial love without that!!! And THAT is what hurts!

It hurts when someone does not love you back the way you want them to!

I do not believe we give our "love" in order to get something in return... I think we give our time.. our efforts... our bodies.. our lip service in order to get something back... but I don't think that is love.... and I think we all to often give that lip service simply to get sex more than anything else....

1eroticjoe 57M
3777 posts
4/25/2006 6:58 pm

LOVE = Campfire

At first it needs nurturing, small things, enough wood (no pun intened... lets just say Fuel), make sure it has enough room to breath, then as it matures it just burns so HOT that it is self sustaining. But, left unattended for long will die.

This IS meaningful at this time for you. I understand...completely. I so wish this could have been the same for you as it was for me. Still, I know you had to move on...and why.

Babel__Fish 46F

4/25/2006 11:58 am

Freedom to be who you are... because that is in my eyes what one who truely loves you will allow you to be.


LabioBent 106M
2082 posts
4/25/2006 6:35 am


fantasylover_05 63M

4/25/2006 5:26 am

Reflecting what Tiller said!!!

Unconditional love! Allowed to be who and what you are with no fear of rejection... total acceptance....

It is also very true we (at least I do) need the PASSION.. to give AND receive

I too have the "bedroom slippers"............

You are truly an inspiration Candy!!

tillerbabe 57F

4/25/2006 12:01 am

"Freedom to be who and what you are without holding back!" Yesssireebob! Remember....The passionate is best - but we often find ourselves after "long term" in the "passive". Too many people don't want to work on the PASSION and they just let it die. It takes work..from both sides. Good for you sweetie!!!

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