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blondietickler 44F
76 posts
4/28/2006 8:53 am

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theory


i have a small question. nothing big. i was told that the first time two people enjoy each other that is was always bad. i don't really believe this, but this person does. will that not make it bad for him every first time. i have had some great first times and don't think he was right at all. let me know what you think.

southernsportmod 57M

4/29/2006 7:01 am

[well speaking as a man, I would have to say that the first time is a little anxious for him, the pressure is on him to please her as much as possible, no guy wants to hear her say that he is no good. For most guys, it gets better as time goes on, we learn what turns her on and are more at ease, the pressure is off, so we can be more of ourselves, I can not speak for all men, just for myself, the first time is pretty scary, women seem to not have that problem, they just lose themselves in the moment.COLOR darkblue]


blondietickler 44F
295 posts
4/30/2006 1:36 pm

why would the pressure only be on a man and not a woman? i would think she would want to please just as much as a man would. it is not right to put all the pressure on him. if a woman can go into it and get into the moment, why not learn from her and try to just enjoy it also.


Djeeper1987 48M

4/30/2006 10:08 pm

I think it all depends on the first moment. The feelings you get, the vibe. I haven't had a first time meeting in a while, but the ones I have had were a bit nervous and worrying if things will go aright and not mess up.
Goes both ways as I am sure both parties want the best out of the first meeting.

Carpe Diem


blondietickler replies on 4/30/2006 10:34 pm:
so you maybe think that all the pressure from both parties can lead to a let down of sorts? thanks for the comment.

mycin62 56F

5/4/2006 8:22 am

I always try to go have NO expectations about the first time, since I have had both good and bad experiences. This way I'm not disappointed or I'm pleasantly surprised But, even if the first time is bad, I usually give it a second chance, since sometimes being nervous gets in the way.


blondietickler replies on 5/5/2006 9:28 am:
good advice, unless it is so bad you just can't try it again.

rm_tator2269 53M
15 posts
5/8/2006 4:20 pm

i may backwards but i think it is close to the best you try hard the next time is even better you know each other better


blondietickler replies on 5/9/2006 7:08 am:
thanks for the input.

grib1876 46M

5/17/2006 12:44 pm

Wow! Interesting perspectives.

I have to totally disagree with the onus being on the man or the woman. If the feeling is there, you are in the moment, sharing more than words and it isn't just a drunk fuck to complete whatever excursion, there is not much as beautiful as the first time you share each other, drink from one another's bodies and you can only learn more from each other as you go. (helluva run-on sentence, eh?)To say that not knowing everything up front makes it bad is unrealistic and ridiculous.

Besides, how would you ever get to know anything about your lover if you didn't have a first time?

Just my $0.02

Cheers,

Grib


blondietickler replies on 5/17/2006 12:52 pm:
that was a great 2 cents. you dug down deep for that one. thanks.

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