What is Tantra? What's a Tantra-Slut?  

bipolybabe 56F
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5/4/2006 12:09 am

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What is Tantra? What's a Tantra-Slut?


For lessons in Tantric Sex, see:
2007-2008 Series of Classes:

Ideas for Building Intimacy
The Feast of the Senses
The Ritual of Lingam Massage Honoring the Divine Masculine
The Ritual of Male Sacred Spot, aka PSpot, aka Prostate Massage
The Ritual of Yoni Massage, including Gspot Massage Honoring the Divine Feminine
TroubleShooting GSpot Massage

Note: Yoni = Vulva or women's "Sacred Spot"
Lingam = Penis or "Wand of Light"
G-spot = Female Sacred Spot inside the Yoni
P-Spot = Male Sacred Spot (prostate gland), which you access through the rectum
Tantrika = person who studies Tantra

Slut = Man or woman who likes sex a lot

Spring 2006 Classes in "Tantra for Couples":

TantraSlut Reveals All
TantraSlut Lesson 1 Starting in Yabyum
TantraSlut Lesson 2 Sound Builds Sexual Energy
TantraSlut Lesson 3 Gspot Massage
TantraSlut Lesson 4 The Value of Ritual
TantraSlut Lesson 5 Anal Play
TantraSlut Lesson 6 Oral Sex for Him aka Fellatio
TantraSlut Lesson 6 Oral Sex for Her aka Cunnilingus
Keys to Increasing Orgasmic Energy
TantraSlut Lesson 8 Energy Conscious Touch
TantraSlut Lesson 9 Daily Practice
TantraSlut Lesson 10 Toned Sex Muscles for Better Orgasms
TantraSlut Lesson 11 BDSM and for newbies to BDSM: How to Be The Best Top You Can Be
TantraSlut Lesson 12 Awakening Sensuality
TantraSlut Lesson 13 Sound Increases Orgasmic Potential
TantraSlut Lesson 14 The Firebreath Orgasm


What the Heck is Tantra? And what's a "Tantra-Slut"?

What the Heck is Tantra? And what's a "Tantra-Slut"?

I believe one of the greatest gifts of being human is that we have bodies. Our bodies like to connect with other human bodies. Tantra techniques make that connection extremely pleasurable, even ecstatic.

But, Tantra is more than a set of sexual techniques or positions.

Tantra is about intimacy.

Tantra is about connection.

Tantra is about energy.

Tantra is about a union with The Divine, of ecstasy, right here on earth.

In that way, Tantra is a practice of meditation, a way to "be here now." But, what attracted me to Tantra, rather than other kinds of meditation is that you don't have to deny the body and sit za-zen or chant for hours on end. It is a meditation on sensation and pleasure in the body.

It's about using sex to access one's own spirit and The Divine within each of us. Tantra offers a union of spirituality and sexuality. It also allows for a deep level of intimacy and connection of energy between humans who practice it together.

Because it is a meditation, it is as necessary to health as twice-daily tooth brushing. If one practices Tantra, it is necessary to practice solo and/or with one's partner on a daily basis. Not just when one feels like it. Not just when one feels horny.

And, the amazing thing is...if you practice even when you don't feel like it, the energy is there when you feel like going wild, deep, high, ecstatic. All of these words express what I've experienced with sexual connection.

None of my past experiences, though great, equal to what I know is possible. That's exciting to those of us who would climb a mountain just because "it's there." I know it's there. I'm climbing. I call myself a “Tantrika,” which means student of Tantra.

According to the Hindu beliefs from which Tantra developed, the Earth was created through an erotic act, a union between the male Shiva (consciousness) and the female Shakti (energy0. Shiva and Shakti getting it on puts a sexy spin on The Big Bang.

The word Tantra actually means “weaving together.” A quick note here. There are actually two “brands” of Tantra: red or white. White Tantra is a form of yoga, formerly called “Raj Yoga,” or royal yoga (it was taught only to members of the Indian royal caste) for a single individual which involves using the breath and chanting to raise kundalini, that is, sexual energy and aliveness. Red Tantra, in which you use many of the same techniques as White Tantra, speaks of the fire you create with a partner. My practice focuses primarily on Red Tantra.

Though Tantra originated from ancient Tibetan and Indian Hindu traditions, currently Tantra is really a Left Coast (California and Hawaii) phenomenon. As such, there's no wrong way to practice Tantra. I like that there are no rules except a commitment to regular connection with one's Beloved.

Here's the challenging part. Because it is about connection, Tantra for couples actually involves intimacy with another human being. Not just sex, which can be bodies going through pleasurable motions. Tantra is about using one's body for connection even when one is angry with the Beloved.

Let's face it. We human beings are annoying. We all do stupid stuff. We don't communicate clearly. We disappoint one another. We lie. We say bad words.

And, yet...

We want to be together. So we keep trying.

Tantra offers a way to keep trying that involves using one's body, one's energy as the bridge. Speaking solely for myself, I'll keep building that bridge, and I'm quite sure the bridge will take me to the mountain, and I will climb that mountain to divine connection with my own spirit, my partner and the Universe.

And, just because, in Tantra, we talk about the divine, spirit, etc., let us remember what Woody Allen said, "Is sex dirty? Only if it's done right."

Therefore, I believe it honors the divine to be a slut and enjoy EVERYTHING about sex. I’ve redefined the word “slut,” which has been used to keep a lid on female sexuality, to mean a man or woman who who likes sex a lot and likes a lot of sex. So, besides being a Tantrika, I call myself a “Tantra-Slut,” as it includes both aspects of sex, the divine and the dirty.

Will you join me in this Tantric journey of exploration?


(c) 2006-2008 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe

BPB

Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!



outdoormale3601 54M

5/9/2006 2:28 pm

Rumor has it about meditation in general. I have heard that there are many forms of meditation that occur through practices where the individual or group use tools called focal points to focus their undivided minds attention and thoughts on such activities or practices such as sex, dancing, drumming, singing, chanting, prayers, mental visualizations, optical visualization, repetitive mental or body actuation activities, body posturing activities, rituals and any multitude of activities that allow the mind to focus on one tangible or intangible abstraction so that surrounding external distractions are minimized. Above is meant to encompass any type of ritualistic activity that is both non-religious and religious in nature. All these activities connect the consciousness to the unseen existence that surrounds them.
The rumor has it that meditation is what connects humans to the unseen by allowing their spiritual perception to connect with their material consciousness. Anecdotally the inner spirit has the property of a stilled mountain lake, where it readily and clearly perceives the reflection of the unseen revealed reality that surrounds the lake. The conscious mind contains the ability to perceive what the inner spirit is capable of perceiving, but the mind also contains the winds of distraction that are generated by the selfish sense of purpose instilled and indoctrinated into us by our social, cultural, religious, academic, political and other institutions. In this present age these material winds of distraction are strongly encouraged to develop and it blow over the reflective mountain lake within us so much that the surface becomes turbulent and we are no longer capable of perceiving the unseen reality that is reflected through the inner spirit. Meditation is a process that allows the individual or group to engage in an activity that focuses the mind on one material conceptual ideal. Doing so takes away energy from the other material distractions that drive the winds of distraction. When this happens then that wind no longer blows strong over the surface of the inner spirit and we begin to perceive the reflection of the unseen reality that lies beyond and contextually connect with that which is beyond. In this process the theory is that more meditative practice is better. One warning though, there is another theory that individuals are not capable to completely divesting themselves of all the winds of distraction, and because of that they will always distort the purity of the reflection that is reflected back at them. Call it personal bias or self aggrandizement, but you can mislead yourself with your preconceived unconscious material indoctrinations.
From my perspective Tantric is but one way of connecting with the Divine by using the body or bodies as focal points of concentration. It can also bring about the realization that the Divine resides within and to care about the unique spiritual aspect of ourselves to hopefully treat each other respectfully.

(c) outdoormale3601


rm_anacortes 75M
2850 posts
9/27/2006 9:09 pm

It is a shame that you have not had more response..

Thanks for your sharing..

Thank goodness, blogs are not time sensitive..


lydiacapecod 59F

11/16/2006 3:49 pm



I love your blog. Thank you for sharing. I will be lurking here often.

This community has people of tremendous value and you are clearly one of them.


~~Lydia~~


rm_smuggler9 50M
44 posts
6/12/2007 12:12 pm

I just stumbled too! and OMG you have awakened all the feelings I put to bed after a 3 year addictive roller coaster relationship with another free spirit ended 7 years ago! We brought out so many stifled and never before discovered sex pleasures and a spirituality I'll never forget ..the sleeping Lion is awake once more lol...!! thanku smuggs... I'm be a regular reader xx


LadyGrayLeopard 57F
26385 posts
11/28/2007 1:19 pm

Thanks for this collection!!!!
Finally something in plain English

Will comment more when reading it all


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