Tantra-Slut Lesson #6 : Oral Sex for Him aka Fellatio  

bipolybabe 56F
10715 posts
4/28/2006 9:02 am

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Tantra-Slut Lesson #6 : Oral Sex for Him aka Fellatio


A warning for the weak of heart. The following is not your porn star blowjob. This, according to my Tantric Sex instructor, is the blowjob that feels great, not the pretty one.

So, if you are a guy, you may not want to read further. Just refer your girlfriend to read this and then squeeze your eyes closed when she starts. But do moan a lot so she knows you like it.

Couldn't discourage you, huh? Okay. You asked for it. The secret to a great blowjob is...

Drooling.

Yep, my instructor said she puts the cock in her mouth and just holds it there with her mouth slightly open around it while she drools all over the place. (NOTE: It is important to be well-hydrated. So drink lots of water, girls, to improve your BJ technique.) She also makes sure to pull her long hair into a pony tail because otherwise it gets covered in spit and gets in the way. This drooling is also a way to relax the throat from the gag reflex because it requires resisting the temptation to swallow, which is what brings on the gag reflex.

The other thing that's not so pretty but which supposedly feels great is the old-lady-with-her-dentures-out look, yep, the pursed lips covering the teeth.

Next important step for women, with their partners is to figure out the whole teeth thing. My instructor said she's actually tested with one boyfriend and found out that one side of her jaw, the side she grinds her teeth, is sharper than the other, so she favors the softer side except when she's mad at him. (No, she didn't actually say she punishes him with her teeth. I made that part up.)

Then, relaxing the throat, humming, licking up and down the shaft, all the other stuff we've heard or read before. I admit that I think I'm a rather lame giver of blowjobs. Until I started studying singing, I didn't think I could really open my mouth wide enough. It feels like a lot of responsibility to put my teeth next to a man's most sensitive body part. That's why I started learning how to do the male genital massage aka handjob. For BJs, I used to cross my fingers and hope for the best. Now, I'll be drooling, making old lady faces and asking lots of questions 'til I get it right.

Oh, I won't be able to cross my fingers, because I'll be using my hands as an extension of my mouth, to keep the penis shaft covered and stimulated while I suck on the tip. I will also use lots of warmed, water-based lube (Probe doesn't taste too bad.) to assure that the stroking is comfortable for him. I'll also make sure the room temperature is warm enough.

I may use some of that Probe and give you a little anal stimulation if you like it and I can figure out how to do all these things at once.

Okay, I'm working hard here. You'd better open your eyes and look up at me from time to time (preferably after I've done the drooling thing) and see how I'm adoring your cock and then looking flirtatiously into your eyes so you can see how much I'm enjoying it. I'll be moaning quite a lot because it really is fun to give pleasure. And you'd better be moaning, too. (And hopefully not in pain. I won't be gouging you with my teeth unless you recently cancelled our sex date. Then, watch out!) The strong silent type in bed just doesn't work for me.

Anything you'd like to add to my blowjob repertoire?

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe

BPB

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rm_gerson42 53M
2419 posts
4/28/2006 10:07 am

Wow! I personally have nothing to add to this blowjob repertoire, except.. Wow!
So I got the partner portion down, what am I supposed to do again?

What happened to part 1 of Tantra-Slut Lesson#6?


libgemOH 57M/53F

4/28/2006 11:44 am

My favorite part is the eye contact you hinted about in the last paragraph. I love to look him straight in the eye, smile and lick the head and watch his reaction!!! Just a little thing with me that makes it 10X's more enjoyable!! -B


toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
4/28/2006 1:28 pm

~sigh~
why did you have to be so far away?...


pictureunaked 57M

4/28/2006 3:22 pm

From what I understand, there are as many different preferences as there are men. I, myself, am a root man. I love the base (and just below) of my cock stimulated-- squeezed, licked, gnawed on. Squeeze it hard and make my cock swell up. That's right-- and sometimes a bit of gentle gnawing with the teeth is good for me too. It's the hot vs cold, hard vs soft, dry vs wet contrasting sensations that are best. I really don't like the tip over stimulated, though. It gets too sensitive.

There's a whole region you neglected to mention-- the BALLS! I hear there are men who don't like their balls messed with, but I'm not one of them. Squeeze them, lick them, tug on them, put them in your mouth (one at a time please!). I'd rather let you take me to the point of pain (and ask you to ease up a bit) than to be handled too gently.

Mixing it up is great-- balls, tip, shaft (front & back), eat it like an ear of corn, etc... don't just bob the knob. But if you want to make me cum, after a while you need to start pumping it-- usually with a hand at the base, maybe another on my balls to get a good rhythm going-- and working the top half with the mouth-- mostly in, but take it out and lick it like a bomb pop that's about to explode. And tell me you want me to cum for you-- look at it like you're waiting for a train to come out of a dark tunnel, then back to my eyes to see if I think you're a nasty little slut... oh yeah, I do... that's it... AAAAAGGGggghhhh!!!

Don't move... I'll go get you a towel...


bipolybabe replies on 5/2/2006 5:03 am:
Thanks for the towel! And the tip about tip. And about the balls.

ProtonicMan 49M

4/28/2006 7:36 pm

I'm still waiting for a really good BJ. My last g/f had potential, but our relationship ended before we could really work on trading technique details.

TJ


Package1971 47M
1051 posts
4/29/2006 8:42 am

I'm w/Libgem. The eye contact is a major turn on.


TzVizion 39M

5/1/2006 5:00 pm

Here is a little secret, one blowjob is as good as the next. As long as a girl has her mouth on our penis, we dont really care about the technique. Its all basically the same. Lots of men will tell you that it makes a difference, but they just say that to get you more excited and willing to give them. Well i wont say anymore, i dont want to piss you off again and have me banned!


rm_galileopan 62M
45 posts
5/1/2006 9:26 pm

If some technique works for 99% of the guys, that means there are over a million American men for whom it doesn't. And how many techniques work for 99% of guys? TzVicion is right -- for some men. Not for me. My rules for great fellatio include:

1. Pay attention
2. Leave any form of "that's wrong" out of your requests.
3. Don't listen for "that's wrong" in your partner's requests.
4. Be willing to try new things (new being something you haven't tried recently).

Oh wait -- those are my rules for all sex. Well, #1 is my first rule for all sex. The others fluctuate a lot. My take on techniques is that they give you a probabilistic advantage on the results of your experiments. They're still just experiments, and the most important thing is always to pay attention.

I don't usually pontificate this much -- must be the wine inducing "male expert syndrome".


cookiequeen1000 54F

5/3/2006 4:26 am

if you're drooling enough, you don't need additional lube for the shaft or balls...at least it is for me. If you can't spread your saliva (drool) to the balls and base with your hands then lube them with your mouth. I like giving wet blowjobs. Most guys I've been with over the years seem to really like it too. Guess I know more tantric things than I thought. Good info bipoly!


island_age 55M

5/3/2006 9:55 am

For me a good blowjob, which I have had very few, really is all about the timing. For me watching a woman slurp on my penis feels good but does not always allow me to climax. The skull eff is the thing I prefer and this I am pretty sure is not classified as a blowjob? Maybe someone can help on this? It takes me a while to climax at any rate so for a woman to give me a blow job I need to see she is enjoying it a lot then I can give her what she wants.


wickedeasy 68F  
30897 posts
5/27/2006 10:19 am

i would add -

do NOT neglect the balls, sucking one into your mouth and rolling it gently with your tongue.

vary the strokes (hand and tongue) unless you're working to a schedule - grins - a long lick with some suction and a twist of the tongue over that soft spot under the head is always good but short laps, done hard and fast can be useful as well

btw - there is a great book out on BJ's - written by a gay man for hetero women. worth every cent

oops - almost forgot, the ending is important - if you can't swallow and some can't, then let it shoot all over your face - it's great for the pores

goes off, kegeling

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


Mermaidslut 51F

5/29/2006 10:41 am

All of the above & then some!!!! Don't forget, plan an intermission by getting him into the action.... by bringing him to the brink, again and again until YOU need a break. Then...

I love it when I ask my man to help me out and he puts his hand on himself, so I can take a break and watch him during a long blow job. I can look him into the eyes, and plead with him that I need his help so my jaw can rest for a minute, and then he grabs his shaft and starts where I left off. He likes watching me watch his hand in action...

I just watch for a moment, while looking him in the eyes and then as he really gets into it, I move in and start licking on his slit in anticipation letting him know I am ready again. My tongue darts in between his fingers, especially under the rim of his head and I let him point his head at me when he wants me to suck it. When he gets closer and I can tell he wants to cum... now he is really hot. I especially like making him shoot up into the air, so he can watch me stick my tongue out into his fountain.

Then, after he releases, and is ohhh soooo very very sensitive now... I suck and lick him clean as gentle as I can...especially his secret spot, it is all he can do to keep from screaming as his hands twist the sheets off the bed to keep from pushing me off of him...cause he loves it oh so much.


TopFisher 64M

5/29/2006 5:32 pm

Please be sure to have your accessible pussy within reach as well.

Oh and the anal play... yeah, do that, often, and if he is real close and you need to hurry things up a bit, slip it in and massage that prostrate! Your mouth will be full in seconds!

Deep throating is a sexual wonder. Not all ladies can do that.


fingerlickin_69 43M

5/31/2006 10:04 pm

I know that this post is a general guide for the ladies out there (or gay men), but there are 2 details I would add to what's already been said. The first is that there is, for me anyway, one more little secret spot to pay attention to during a blowjob. I don't know the anatomical name for it, but it's the area around the point of skin beneath the head on the underside of the cock, right around where the "scarf" starts on a circumcized guy. This place is extremely sensitive and worth checking out. The other thing is, when you are sucking a cock, ladies, remember to actually suck! lol The feel of your mouth on my is great, but don't just move up and down on it. The suction and a tight seal between your lips and the cock makes it immensely more exciting.


bipolybabe replies on 6/1/2006 10:42 am:
Thanks for the suggestions. You don't suck. Translated=You're a helpful guy!

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