Got Caught!  

bipolybabe 56F
10715 posts
8/29/2006 12:04 pm

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9/8/2006 4:58 pm

Got Caught!

I just learned--the hard way--that the latest AdultFriendFinder upgrade to reduce scamming and spamming actually works. (I learn a lot of stuff the hard way.)

You see, I'm a fairly impetuous BiPolyBabe. When I decide I want something, I act. Case in point: I moved in with a guy I'd known for all of two weeks.

Next case in point: I recently heard from a 50-year-old guy in Atascadero (about 2 hours north of me) who actually read my profile and wrote me a witty email. I read his profile and said a quick wish to the Goddess of Good Fucking in the Context of an Easy and Loving Relationship that he might be The One. The One for how long, I don't know, but, Please the Goddess, let there be at least one who is REALLY INTO ME.

Then, I emailed him and told him to call me. In order for him to call me, I provided my cell phone number. In the past, I've found it a total waste of time to trade lengthy emails because I've learned that I know more in five minutes face to face than I learn in hours and hours of wordplay.

It's a concept I got from the book "Blink" that we humans can "thinslice" information and know more instantly than through a whole lot of analysis. (I'll tell you later, when it's safe, what my intuition told me about the guy who's just moved out, hopefully completely out of my life.)

Anyway, I choose to meet my new friends soon without wasting a lot of time on endless emailing. Since I know I'm real and that I actually have used this site to meet adult friends, I thought it was no problem to provide contact info. Now I found that that Darned Fake Finder caught me in its net because I sent my cell number in my first reply. This is what it says in small print at the bottom of the space for writing an email on this friendly site:

"Be sure to get to know someone before sending personal contact information. To help reduce abuse, sending personal contact info in your first 2 email exchanges with memberid may result in your account being suspended. We reserve the right to not forward messages containing personal contact information."

My impetuosness might have cost me meeting the man of my dreams because there was a ban on my sending emails through the AdultFriendFinder system. I wouldn't have known except that he kept writing to me because we are meant for one another. Now he probably thinks I was playing hard to get. That's not a game I ever play.

But, I've learned my lesson and will behave within the bounds of AdultFriendFinder Terms of Use in the future and just tell The One that we need to trade three emails before I can suggest we meet.

I haven't given up finding The One (or if I'm lucky, The Many). I'm a little discouraged by my Eight Months on the NSA (No Strings Attached) Diet, but I know that there is a man, or men, for whom I am a treasure.

So, have you ever gotten caught by your own impetuousness?

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


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buddhamike 107M
7006 posts
8/29/2006 1:42 pm

Caught being impetuous. Certainly. I e-mailed a new member on a Wednesday. She replied on Thursday. Invited for dinner on Friday. Made love on Friday.....still together and never looking back. As for the contact info thing, I havn't recently, but I used to send e-mail contact info right away (broken up so a reading program wouldn't recognize it as an e-address. I suppose I would wait for an e-mail or three now, though I think the whole idea is silly on AdultFriendFinder's part.

rm_Kingcat4U2 66M
2799 posts
8/29/2006 3:20 pm

Oh, absolutely! Being a male means
having one head that is EXTREMELY
impetuous! I have to confess that
I learned so many things from that
one quick decision,(pain is a wonderful
professor)that my impetuousness
should be cured forever.

spacecadet561 61M

8/29/2006 3:39 pm

I've had a few over-eager correspondents dumped by AdultFriendFinder for sending e-mail addresses too soon in the cycles. The good news is that they don't seem to censor chat rooms to that extent. I've also seen other clever mis-spellings of enough of the address to not get caught by the robo-censor program but still be comprehensible to a real person. They say they do it for our protection, but it's also to help preserve their revenue stream.


rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
8/29/2006 4:57 pm

I've also had would-be suitors disappear because they sent an e-mail with their cell numbers in the second e-mail. I did it myself once without thinking and kept my fingers crossed for a few days hoping it had slipped past the powers that be. I guess they figured they had deleted my account enough times for no reason that they would let that one go.


PlaynAgain 55F

8/29/2006 6:59 pm

Yes, I have - but not on AdultFriendFinder so far LOL

If you want to continue to be impetuous, just disguise the number the way people have to do with web addresses, etc.

"Attitude is everything. Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle. Live simply, Love generously, Care deeply, Speak kindly. Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain."

LTsGirl915 35F

8/29/2006 8:58 pm

Many, many times. Of course, I don't ever seem to learn my damn lesson. Anyway, if you can email again, please email me.

meerkittykat 43F

8/29/2006 10:15 pm

Hmmmm....I'm trying to think of a time....

If I can't think of a situation, it must not have put too badly cos I can't recall it. Or maybe I'm just smart enough to play the right games and skirt just below the surface.

Mr_sweetness 45M
2599 posts
8/29/2006 11:02 pm

HUGS and a sweet kiss for you sunshine... do you ever get my nice emails i send you??

Peace, cause there is to much violence and blood shed in the world!!

Love, cause there is to much hate in the world!!

Happiness, cause it feels good and life is to short to be mean and unhappy all the time!!

funintheday2006 57M
9659 posts
8/30/2006 8:13 am

Caught through being impetuous?? I aint that stupid. Well. not since this morning anyway.[image]

AngelGirl1980tt 34F

8/30/2006 9:41 am

You know, I'm glad I found this post. My profile was deleted as well without any warning. I called and had it reactivated and they gave me some lame excuse as well. So I'm not sure why AdultFriendFinder charges people for a site meant for hooking people up, then delete their account when they exchange info to hook up.

rm_hydro9 61M

9/3/2006 11:35 am

I've been caught, and probably, no, certainly, will be caught again. I chalk it up to taking calculated risks, a condition that if I ever lose, shoot me.

Goes back to my early days when I was selling encyclopedias door-to-door -- I know, scum of the earth, but I was only 19. Learned two things that have held true since. One, if you don't ask, you likely won't get. Two, if you ask, people say no. Respect that and move on without drama.

And I completely agree on quick contact. For me a 10-minute meet is better than an hour phone call which is better than a month of email if you want to get the essence of someone.

I impetuously suggest coffee for that reason. Public place, no requirement for much longer than 10-15 minutes if the original spark doesn't at least get something smouldering.

rm_fillmore1105 53M
1 post
9/3/2006 2:33 pm

impetuous??? I never think anything through. am constantly explaining myself or backtracking to explain a comment or statement. I was just jilted by a woman with which I spent nearly a year (and a ton of cash) trying to build what I thought would be a lifetime relationship. thought she was "the one". apparently, that made one of us. now I'm stuck feeling "played". the worst part of it...

I wasn't even thinking with my dick.

rm_innersmile4 48F
23 posts
9/3/2006 7:08 pm

I've sent my info in the subject line without being blocked.
I've blamed my impetuous on something not working out. Usually shortly afterwards I realize I was saved from something or someone I didn't need anyways. "all for a reason"

rm_netnewsc 38M
1 post
9/4/2006 3:39 pm

There were 2 hotties that I lost contact with because their profiles went missing (or terminated); needless to say I was peeved. I think a note into the AdultFriendFinder suggestion box to stop this practice would help because it doesn't make sense. IMO, people remain members because they make new connections.

MykeDd 35M
1 post
9/7/2006 4:32 pm

I completely agree with the above post. I too met a couple of really sweet girls on here and it was going good, then when they decided they wanted to get to know me better, they sent their contact info, next thing I know, their profiles totally vanish! I think thats a little odd considering, umm this is a website that is supposed to help people get hooked up, well let me ask you this....How can people hook up if their profiles are deleted for sending their contact info??????? I think it should be "at your own risk", if you wanna send contact information, that should be your own decision!!

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