Ejaculatory Control & Male Multiple Orgasms  

bipolybabe 56F
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3/27/2006 4:46 pm

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Ejaculatory Control & Male Multiple Orgasms

One of the great ironies of sex between men and women is that it's harder to interest (most) women in sex. However, once they’re "on," their desire and ability to fuck is infinite. Men, by contrast, are easily aroused and can be quickly satisfied.

So, let's talk ejaculatory control.

This is a touchy subject for men, I've found. Because bringing it up makes them think, "Uh, oh, something’s wrong here." I brought up the topic with one past partner, and he said, "I've never had a bad orgasm in 20-something years of sex, and I'm not about to change it now."

But, what if there's nothing wrong here? What if there's just the possibility of more, of climbing higher, of hotter fucking, and of a more longer-lasting connection with one's partner?
Though not every woman shares my preference for long, hard fucking, (though they might if they practiced kegels and acquired a taste for Gspot massage) most women are like me in that they climb to that peak of full arousal more slowly than men. I'm not talking about horniness, initial arousal. I'm talking about a burning hot fire that could singe your hair. So, I climb and I climb, and I could go on forever. (I have friends who are advanced practitioners of Tantric sex who can, in fact, fuck for days on end.)

But, frankly, without ejaculatory training, most men can't go on forever. There’s this concept of "chi," energy or the Life Force, and the idea that shooting your wad (chi) decreases the amount you have for your lifetime. I'm not sure if that's true, but I do know from experience that once a man ejaculates, he's usually done. No more interest in sex. At least for a time. That doesn't work well for me, waiting around until he gets a hard-on again. By that time, my energy's wound down. The intense heat has dissipated.

That's where genital massage is a great equalizer. If the woman trains her body to enjoy the sensation, she will experience incredible peaks of pleasure and full engorgement of blood similar to his erection–-and incredible heat–-in her yoni. Her partner can use his fingers to slowly arouse the exterior of her yoni, massage her G-spot and bring on the arousal equivalent to a long hard fuck and then begin, or resume, fucking for greater pleasure for both. (For more on G-spot, see Gspot What Where.)

Now, if you want to be a Super Lover and not only arouse her through G-spot massage to greater and greater peaks but also fuck for hours on end, what's the trick?

Okay, this is where I have to admit that I don't actually have a dick. I have friends who kindly let me borrow theirs from time to time (purely in the interests of my research as a sexual scientist). My experience in this area is limited to what I've read and to what my partners tell me.

Based on that, here's what I know to be true. Ejaculation and orgasm are not the same thing. Men tell me that orgasm with ejaculation feels better, feels more complete. (It's probably similar to my climbing up with G-spot stimulation and experiencing what are called "valley orgasms," and then climbing up higher, but still wanting that clit orgasm to feel complete.)

But, why not enjoy both–-intense, full body non-ejaculatory orgasms that don't diminish one's ability to continue fucking and then one final incredible blast? (When she has finally hit that point of not desiring any more, it goes without saying.)

It takes some practice and it takes willingness to communicate with one's partner. You’ll find the complete explanation in the books, "The Multi-Orgasmic Man" or "The Multi-Orgasmic Couple." Here is the Cliff Notes version:

1) Practice kegels just like those recommended for pregnant women (and which all women should do throughout their lives for greater pleasure). Contracting the muscle that stops the flow of urine, will strengthen the man's bulbocavernous muscle (BC muscle) and make it easier for him to delay ejaculation. 2) Practice masturbating without any goal, enjoying the stimulation, bringing oneself almost to the point of ejaculation and then backing off either by stopping the stimulation, squeezing the cock with the fingers down by the balls and/or clamping down on the PC muscles. 3) Practice intercourse almost to the point of ejaculation and then back off as above. This requires communication with one's partner so she knows why he's withdrawing and engaging in a less physically stimulating activity than those fabulous deep, driving strokes; 4) Practice different strokes. (More later on different strokes.) 5) Move the energy out of the genitals. Now, this may be the most difficult step of all. The previous activities are physical things you can do. Moving energy requires visualization and a desire to experience something beyond the ejaculatory orgasms a man has known all his life. Men who are familiar with meditation techniques will likely find this easier to do than those who are entirely unfamiliar with the concept of energy and chakras. The idea is to visualize moving the energy out of the genitals, up the spine over the top of the head through the tongue connected to the palate and back down again to the front side of the body, moving the energy in a circle.

One past partner of mine was able to move the energy up out of his genitals but not necessarily feel like he could recirculate it. Nonetheless, he did experience penile contractions and intense, full-body orgasms, without ejaculating. He found he still preferred to ejaculate once I was fully satisfied. We realized that once he ejaculated, he lost interest in sex almost completely and wanted nothing more than to snuggle and go immediately to sleep. So, he was willing to hold off on having an ejaculatory orgasm for a day or two, knowing that he'd still desire sex and I nearly always wanted it! Another partner told me he found he liked to practice masturbating to what he called "three dry, one wet," because he didn’t feel satisfied until he'd actually ejaculated. With this practice, he also learned to delay his own orgasm until his partner was fully satisfied.

Now, we're speaking a language that both men and women can enjoy.

© 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

oldude1946 72M

3/27/2006 5:07 pm

Most of the time it takes me 45 mins after I play around. I think the older I get the longer it last

Grow2big 54M
75 posts
3/27/2006 5:36 pm

Point taken. I am sure we agree in substance maybe not technique. Where does one find true love. Ah there's the rub. I submit that you don't find it. It finds you. You just have to be smart enough to realize it and unselfish enough to hang on to it. Oh, on point. An RN I fooled around with knew a really wild way of prostrate massage. Holy shit! Talk about your non ejaculatory orgasm! Ask you gay friends. They can tell ya. Any way I really do value you knowledge and opinion.


bipolybabe replies on 3/27/2006 7:40 pm:
Gay guys ejaculate with just prostate massage! My ex-boyfriend was a fan of my "Big Red" strap-on.

bipolybabe replies on 3/28/2006 7:26 am:
By the way, the G-spot on women that I've written about is actually the female prostate gland. That's probably why I really like having it massaged.

letsdoitnow220 53M

3/27/2006 8:31 pm

maybe you can work on coming quicker? I am sure there is a book about it somewhere.

bipolybabe replies on 3/27/2006 10:03 pm:
Actually, I'm going the other direction and slowing the whole thing down more through Tantra. I believe there's not to extend pleasure as long as possible. On the other hand, I don't believe orgasm is necessary every time. Sometimes, sexual contact can serve merely to keep the fires hot

bipolybabe replies on 3/27/2006 10:28 pm:
Perhaps you're enjoying pulling the tail of a polecat.

Actually, with Tantra, I'm working on slowing the whole thing down to extend pleasure as long as possible. If you read my previous post, you would realize that I don't think the problem is with a man coming too quickly. The real issue is that I, as a woman, don't speak up for my needs and desires. The reason it's hard for me--and probably for a lot of women--is because I fear my partner may judge me and wish I'd be faster. Nothing gets in the way of pleasure worse than feeling judged. Well, fuck that. If it's good, it's worth taking time for. If I wanted a quick orgasm, I'd fuck myself and be done in under 30 seconds. Okay, 62. Just timed it.

The reason for my exposing my challenge is to try to expand male understanding of female sexuality.

rm_BigDD62 55M
301 posts
3/27/2006 8:51 pm

Very interesting discussion, BPB! Wish I could find a teacher as gifted as the author appears to be. This kinda stuff is a level above what the vast majority of people can imagine. You are surely a Slut Adept! (Sorry if that is too ... familiar.)

rm_redsands5 60M

3/27/2006 11:03 pm

Satisfying a woman, now that is indeed a journey and something that is a worthwhile pursuit. I love to please a lady and I want to find out what turns her on.

As far as staying hard and all that mental stuff??? I don't really want to think about it. I have the ability to stay erect for a while, a long while if so desired. It's difficult to explain. And to tell you the truth, I don't want to think about it. If I start to analyze myself, it might mess with my abilities.

good evening, the Marathon Man

fantasylover_05 63M

3/28/2006 4:46 am

What a GREAT post!!

It is truly sad that more men don't understand this!! I absolutely LOVE stimulating a woman's G spot... with fingers while simultaneously performing oral stimulation of her clitoris.. bringing her to the pinacle of arousal then sliding inside her and fucking the hell out of her!!

There is NOTHING like bringing a woman to orgasmic bliss over and over and over again!

I have fucked for up to 9 hours in one session.. I am multi-orgasmic and so do not lose interest upon ejaculation and have in fact ejaculated up to 3 times without losing my erection.. and when I do it usually only takes a few minutes and I am ready to go again....

It can be so incredible with the right woman... one that responds... one that shares her desires.. one that truly lets me know what she likes and that she is in fact enjoying what I am doing... otherwise why bother??

I love to explore a woman's body!

Thanks for sharing this wonderful post!!

rm_VoodooGuru1 50M
2053 posts
3/28/2006 7:39 am

I've been doing Kegels for years to increase my ejaculatory control and to learn how to have the "dry orgasm" you're talking about.

I can delay ejaculation indefinitely, but I have yet to have an orgasm without ejaculation. Or even come close.

earthShiva 60M

5/31/2006 7:58 am

Perhaps I'm just incredibly lucky, but I bought Mantak Chia's book, did the exercises and bingo!

There are, in fact, three methods of ejaculatory control. The first involves pinching the urethra. This prevents ejaculation, but basically the seminal fluid back-flushes into the bladder. It's good for the sheets but is of limited value because one loses erection just as is one had shot. The second method carries that tension cak to the prostate. This one's a charm and not terribly difficult. One can have multiple orgasms, go non-stop and stay hard for hours. Over time and with practice, the orgasms get stronger and the energy gets more broadly distributed throughout the body.

The third method is the real trick. Once you have an understanding of the mechanics of ejaculation and how orgasm is distinct from it, you can go to the opposite extreme and, instead of tensioning to control ejaculation, completely relaxing those same internal muscles to nothing is pushed forward. This is a magical, ecstatic whole-body experience. It isn't easy to do consistently, but is most definitely worth striving for!

One word of caution with all this. The retention of body energy discussed in tantric and Taoist texts is very real. It is possible to retain too much energy. When I first started playing with these techniques, I found I had difficulty sleeping, mood swings and just a general twitchiness. Kind of like being 15 all over again. VERY uncomfortable and unpleasant. If you're going to develop this technique, go slowly.

I don't often use these techniques these days because of the body energy thing, but it is alway nice to have the skill in the toolbox, and there's no doubt that being able to pace oneself with a lover's response lets both of you get to a very different level of intimacy, both physically and spiritually. When sleep deprivation isn't an issue, it's worth the practice!

TopFisher 64M

6/8/2006 2:24 am

When with a new lover I'm like a total waste of insertion!

No I dnont like admiting such, but it's true.


I can be like some sort of out of body boy and go and go and go!

I once thought it was the insertion of rum that managed the hardon and the cumming. Such was not true, discovered by esperiment!

The better I know you, the better I become!

Not an emotional thing, just that some of you ladies set me off and I really can't control one gotdamed thing about the encounter!

Pisses me off as well it does!

I'm so very happy to have an eagar tongue and russian fingers to aid the gap fillin in, so to speak!

but that too is very fun and usually will bring on a second cumming that will take MUCH longer, bringing smiles to the room!

rm_crabby25 38M

6/28/2006 1:33 am

with me most times im long lasting due to the fact that i get myself to that point and stop, go play, and get going again. though reading your post did teach me a trick or two that i will try. but ive found that 9 times out of ten i can last for at least 45 before my ejaculation, and this is just straight fucking. though, there are those times... where im done in less than 10. thats frustrating. also another thing that frustrates me sometimes is everytime i ejaculate (as with most men) i go soft and im done. but still wanting more sex. it either takes forever to get hard again and really difficult, and if i do its on like donkey kong; or i cant even get it up again. so i will attempt some of those tricks and see where i can go with it.

bipolybabe replies on 6/28/2006 10:45 pm:
Good! Please try them and report back.


rythmn4 49M  
10 posts
6/28/2006 1:24 pm

You are quite the sexual thespian (no not lesbian...lol) I enjoyed reading your well informed and articulate blogs. I don't know if I am an exception but I find that after ejaculation I am up and hard and even stronger in a mere 5 to 10 minutes. Last week with my lover girl we counted within a 24 hour period 8 ejaculations from me and triple that amount for her. After I ejaculate I still am very active in pleasing my girl sexually and find due to her "warm" responses I almost immediately get hard and then I am able to fuck longer. My sexual desire actually increases after ejaculation. I seem to have always been a pleasant surprise to my partners because of this fact. I have never heard of this repetetive ejaculations from other men or woman. Have you ever experienced this?

bipolybabe replies on 6/28/2006 10:45 pm:
Wow! It sounds pretty amazing, your ability ejaculate and still go on.

According to what I read, it takes a lot of your body's energy to generate semen. But, everyone's level of "chi," or sexual energy is different.

You may just be among the gifted, my friend.

Women can ejaculate infinitely without losing energy. However, if they have a huge number of clitoral orgasms, they tend to become depleted the day after, as most men do with repeated ejaculations. Because the woman's clitoral orgasm is most similar to a man's ejaculatory orgasm while a woman's G-spot orgasm is more like a man's non-ejaculatory orgasm, according to what I've read and learned from my sex friends and clients. Men can also become multi-orgasmic by learning to separate orgasm and ejaculation.

Unless they're just lucky like you!


rm_brink63 61M

7/9/2006 7:31 pm

the longer a lady teases me the bigger the load. i pride myself on control!! i love to reach the bursting point n stop. then start all over again. i also love to do this with my ladies, licking them till they are almost there n back off. some get mad til i bring them off. then they say that was the best head ive ever hsd.

rm_3454u 65M
260 posts
7/10/2006 5:15 pm

BPB you are a real woman,one that that wants what she needs and enjoys.You seek the truth about what makes your sox go up and down!And as we said in the olden days "IF IT FEELS GOOD DO IT!"Kudoes to you,a kindred sprirt.Thank you,34.54u

rm_mongoose509 40M

7/26/2006 10:10 am

i guess i am rare, or have learned how to control my chi better than i had thought. i have the unique ability to have multi wet orgasms with ever losing hardnes or horniness. i have literally been hard for 24 straight hours and cum 4-5 times during that time frame. have you ever heard of this before? it seems every partner i have had swears that i am not normal, but after talking with my brother it almost seems a family trait.

bipolybabe replies on 7/26/2006 9:41 pm:
First, every man is wired differently. Some have more chi than others.

We did one webcam class on the multi-orgasmic male, in which one of the guys said sometimes he practices ejaculating just a little each time, and continuing to fuck for a whole weekend without totally dissipating his sexual energy. This guy is 50, and has been practicing for 20 or 30 years.

It would surprise me if you were able to continue shooting "bucketloads of cum" four or five times in 24 hours into your 50s, but anything is possible.

What I wonder about is how you treat your body otherwise and how you build it back up, because even if you naturally have a high level of chi, it takes a lot of energy for your body to create semen.

For example, if my female Tantric Sex Coach has a blow-out session going for broke with as many clitoral orgasms as she can manage, the next day she is depleted, feels worn out, wants to load up on sugar and fatty foods, because she's "blown her wad," so to speak. By contrast, the G-spot orgasms build a woman's energy.

As I understand it, men can have non-ejaculatory orgasms--like the G-spot orgasms--or can ejaculate with orgasm--like the clit orgasms.

So, my questions for you are...how do you feel the day after? And are you usually healthy and health-conscious? Finally, does your dad have this same ability or is that something you just don't wanna know?


rm_slippery243 57M
87 posts
7/30/2006 6:34 am

Prolonging ejaculation is something I am trying to improve each time I have intercourse or masturbate. I was educated a little by the ways you discussed earlier. I've tried a few things. Now I'm trying to start out slow, Kinda getting her fires burning. And I keep it slow, but gradually insert a little harder. It seems to be helping. Also I would love to ejaculate the same time as she orgasms. This is a desire of mine. I think it happened once. Also when I masturbate I'm trying to find methods of controlling ejaculation. I try to stop stroking, also I try to squeeze hard on my cock. It's working slowly.

rm_dosrev 40M
1991 posts
8/2/2006 11:54 am

Ive found that I can't controll WHEN I have my orgasm, but due to practices like the ones bipoly mentioned, I can decide if its going to be a "dry" or "wet" orgasm.

As she mentioned, the dry ones feel a little lighter, but after a a minute of cooldown time, im ready to fuck again. See when I orgasm, dry or wet, I get very intense muscle twitches. So I need a minute after each for those to pass. Of course, during that time I can still play with my partner to keep her interested.

Personally theres no reason why a man can't learn these tricks just by self experimentation. It just takes time and practice.

"Enough of this palaver, lets get the show on the road!"
"The best thing about a day like that is that it can't get any worse. It was a bad day AND a Monday. The rest of the week has to be better." - Hotandsteamygirl

rm_lickme398 58M
6 posts
8/16/2006 1:48 am

when I was younger age between 17 and 24,my first wife just the thought of her made me so hard It would take me at least twenty minutes to cum and only about five to recover, in that five minutes i would cup my hand over her whole pussy and do a slow massage until she would have an intense orgasem,by then I was ready to go again and she was ready for me,sometimes it would be so intense for her her legs would shake.now days 20some odd years later,after i cum if the woman i am with is wanting more and the sex is intense I stay hard as long as we are actively going at it, I even had a younger woman that had to make me stop, she said she could not take anymore orgasems,I am not bragging because this does not happen all the time but I dont get sex as often as i would like, Iam sure if i did have sex more it would not,some one had told me that when you do get older the sex seems more intense because it does come less freguent??

DiscreetFtWayne 39M
106 posts
8/18/2006 1:12 pm

After reading many blogs, and talking to many women, I feel like a bit of an anomole (sic). In college I had a "friend" who was like yourself, she wanted it long and hard, and I was more than happy to be the one to help her out. She was the only one, to date, that I've been multi-orgasmic with. When she got hot, I got hot, and I'd cum 3-4-5 times in a row with her. At first I'd try and hold it because I figured I'd be done afterwards, but she was so hot the first time I was almost embarassed to cum so early that i just kept pounding her and found that I never lost my erection. I've yet to find anyone like her again, but it is great when two people like that get together.

bipolybabe replies on 8/18/2006 11:36 pm:
This multi-orgasmic process is about not ejaculating and still reaching orgasm. It's great if you can keep going, but according to the authors of "The Multi-Orgasmic Man," it takes a lot of energy "chi" for a man's body to regenerate semen so men should not ejaculate often.

Since women--like me--would like sex often, it makes sense for a man to conserve his "chi."


rur4r2luv 57M
80 posts
9/8/2006 9:20 pm

Thanks! I enjoy orally stimulating the G spot and then go from there. It helps me last longer and give more. LOL

rm_northernites 47M

10/19/2006 10:40 am

Thanks for the info. I have never thought much about the energy required to make semen. I've always had high energy levels and always had lots of semen and felt the more I used the more I could make, and. until recently, I've never felt low on energy for any significant amounts of time, although I have always felt that I require more sleep than average (9 or 10 hours for me).

As I noted above, recently my energy has changed. Never before have I felt such depths of lows. I've attributed this to the ending of a lengthy, high-emotion relationship and other troubles that have caused depressional feelings.

As for my sex during this period, I have lost the desire for the emotional investment that I need for meaningful sexual experiences. So, I've resorted to masturbating, almost daily, as my instincts led me to believe that I needed to regularly ejaculate to replenish my energy and to maintain high vigor.

For understanding, I have relied much more on personal experience, instincts and introspection than on readings; however, I do believe that others' insights can rapidly increase the learning curve, provided from knowledgeable sources, of course. Because, I have found you to be very knowledgeable and insightful on the topic of ejaculation, I would appreciate if you would enlighten me further on the processes and relationships of and between semen and energy.


rm_prasad622 55M
6 posts
11/11/2006 12:54 pm


rm_prasad622 55M
6 posts
11/11/2006 12:55 pm


bipolybabe replies on 11/11/2006 4:40 pm:
So sorry you lost your wife.

There are no words to express it, but please know that I have tremendous empathy with loss.


rm_bullring69 55M
1 post
11/16/2006 11:09 pm

wow nice info, i can say that i have reached the moment of intense pleasure with this circulating energy to where ive had an orgazim but not ejaculated. first the strenghting of the bottom muscle at the base of my penis by constantly pulsating to where my penis is extremly hard,then relax, then pulsate again,but what actually sets this off is a breathing exersize,which i believe increases the oxygen flow it is almost or is - rythymatic ,this breathing is the same technique used in meditation,(the feeling is that which is felt after an ejaculation)intense pleasure but no slurge. this is done lying down starting of first by relaxing the whole body starting at the head and workign down the body in the chakras,before the pulsating exersize begins.ive found that this prolongs any climax with ejactulation, providing a more intense love making session with my lovely wife but first i please her by lighty massaging her body as she likes lightly stroking her arms with shivers and the to her inner thighs and so on.... all the while im hard and as im licking her i start my pulsating exersizes increasing the flow of blood when i sense shes ready,this brings a heat flush threw my body , which ultimately results in us experiencing an orgazmic explosion together..wow im horny...

IMJP37 55M

2/2/2007 2:01 pm

I read The Multi-Orgasmic Man qwhen it came out. I had a hard time mastering the art of holding back the ejeculation (but I did finally).

But what I found more ineterstign was that if I continued to stimulate my penis past ejaculation and kept at it until it started growing hard again, I found I could come and stay hard fairly easy.

Sort of like training it to realize that it did not have to go to sleep after coming.

bipolybabe replies on 2/19/2007 6:37 am:
The amazing thing I've discovered is that we can train our bodies to do just about anything we truly desire. I'm going to write now about what I've learned about "The R-Spot."


sorin_ro 37

2/15/2007 1:54 am

very good

RiccoVixenRunes 61M
176 posts
2/19/2007 5:56 am

What a wonderful and insightful Blog....it is truly amazing what two lovers can experience if they will Communicate and Work with each other rather than hurrying through the pleasures of life.

Thanks for your blogs...

bipolybabe replies on 2/19/2007 6:35 am:
You are most welcome!

Thanks for visiting.


MilfFan696969 59M

2/23/2007 5:36 am

OK. This took awhile to read through. Some of it new. It looks like I need to rethink some things. I also want to communicate better beforehand. I need to reread this several times. And the next step is to find a partner, talk this through and have some fun going through the information.

I’m in it more my pleasure, of course. But I would like the woman I’m with, to be with me, for her pleasure too. I don’t want to be too sarcastic, but it helps that if you like each other you would want to enjoy each other.

rm_bar_jebus 32M

3/26/2007 10:52 am

Hmmm i've been trying this for quite some time. I'm a youngen (only 21), and I feel like I have these dry orgasms sometimes, especially during sex. We will be having an intense fuck, and then i can feel myself beggining to cum and so I back off and feel my cock spasm wildly without ejaculation. It takes me another 10 seconds before being able to continue. However...its not nearly as good as a regular orgasm, nor does it keep me from getting that feeling again. If i hit that point of a dry orgasm, I almost may as well just go all the way because it will keep happening every 2 minutes or so anyway....so am I really experiencing a dry orgasm? Or is it merely just verging on an ejaculatory orgasm?

Occasionally its happened where i've continued to thrust after an ejaculatory orgasm and it stays hard, and eventually resumes its original hardness after a minute or two...is there any way to work towards making that an every time occurence?

pepinin75 43M

4/5/2007 3:53 pm


i used to get to that point of control of my body when i was 23 to 25, because i got a girl who was more experienced than me, so i had to develop my selfcontrol and it was great to satisfy her, i rememeber we had sex 21 days in a row, and i used to eyaculate only every 3 or 4 days, not every day, and that kept us always needing more sex, i think it愀 part of the woman to make the man to think that it worths to make the effort to satisfy her in the bed, right now i lost my self control, because it愀 not interesting to make an effort to satisfy my actual couple and that really makes me feel sad, because i thin i won愒 be able to satisfy another girl the way she want愀 it.

wetandwaitin55 51M
116 posts
4/25/2007 6:08 pm


I had a couple multi's One happened with a 6 inch vibrator, that felt like a urination, just a long stream, unstopable and wonderful..just couldn't stop..

I had another one, with vib called the Pink Leopard, that was bigger (took D sized batteries), and this one made me have a more "convulsive" type orgasm, that I came once subsided quick came again and again, and again.

I admit I love vibrators, I guess it's the femme in me but, still love women. Tried a dildo, but was more like a workout, but with a smaller orgasm..

Just curious, I once saw a woman in a video doing a woman deep inside with one vibrator and another on her clit. She worked the inside one deep, pushing it, could see her cum coating her insides and then she came very loud bucking and heaving.

If her cervix got the tip of her vibrator, is that an instant orgasm, and does it just explode out or rivers out?

muffbandit4u 50M

7/7/2007 11:25 am

Hi there Bipolybabe, I reall liked reading/applying your answers to longer lasting hardon's w/o ejaculating I will try it and I hope it works! I've always had a problem w ejaculating very quickly, sometimes w/o even being fully hard. I think it's has alot to do with how much the female excites me (very much)! I would very much like to meet up sometime to have my very own sex coach, you. I'm sure it would be a very enlightening experience for both of us, mostly me. If you have any more technics I can try or use to enhance and lengthen my erection w/o ejaculating please feel free to e-mail me at muffdiver26977 at yahoo.com. I'll look forward to hearing from you real soon, the sooner the better!

rm_Mascsubmale 51M

10/7/2007 10:04 pm

The answer lies in a D/s relationship where the Woman conditions the male to cum on Her command. The orgasm is arrived at psychologically. Their is immense pressure on most males to satisfy and some feel inadequate if the Female doesn't cum during hard fucking. Giving a Female control over when a man cums is sometimes hard on the male ego. Either way, we surrender to the Female regardless if we chase Her to pound into Her or if She ties us down, sits and grinds, commands us to stay immobile and proceeds with a 5 second countdown, forcing eye contact and rendering the male helpless and controlled. i can say that the latter has an effect that enables continuous usage of the male cock..especially if told to take a Cialis.

bipolybabe replies on 10/9/2007 8:01 am:
Are you saying that, if commanded by a woman to cum, a guy won't cum? So that one can continue using his dick?


rm_dragons0066 52M

12/25/2007 5:04 pm

Hi, thanks for the info, its like a refresher. I practice kegels, & stopping when wanking but i find its cool when partner is riding or doggy, i last for sometime, bt missionary or sim.. not as long.
Dont know if you've got an answer ,but I'll keep practicing. ciao

FunInTallinn3 46M

6/29/2008 1:25 pm

Thanks, another great posting. I actually just posted a question to you on this topic in another posting reply. Makes perfect sense to me about orgasm and ejaculation being totally separate. Although, I don't typically think about the mechanics/biology of it to be honest. I definitely need to change that. I've experienced an orgasm without ejaculation (or very little ejaculate of sperm or semen) in either long masturbation sessions or a night of multiple love-making sessions with my wife. I typically don't lose my erection (at least completely to placid) after ejaculation, but, my next ejaculation is weaker, next one weaker, etc, etc. But, then sometimes I've been surprised how much I cum after having cum already a few times. I've always wondered why that is? I've had an orgasm with little to no ejaculate and still feel the orgasm feeling coming from the prostate area like your describing I think.

Anyway, thanks for the post and I'll continue to look around for certain. These topics are stuff I am so hungry to consume. I am so happy I gave AdultFriendFinder a shot based on the terrific stuff that some people, such as yourself, put out there. Thanks for that.

pollywanna100 52M/68F

7/12/2008 9:44 am

I think the whole thing about losing chi when ejaculating is not correct. I have a different technique. I have separated out ejaculation and orgasm completely and it is a very nice release to ejaculate, without a full orgasm. It is the combination of full orgasm and ejaculation that causes the whole thing to stop. I can ejaculate as many times as I want without full orgasm (just small ones). With a final orgasm (and full ejaculation) after the woman is satisfied.

My wife votes that this is a very successful technique for her. She loves to have the ejaculation and the continued intercourse. She also ejaculates all over me through G-spot stimulation.

I guess you could say we both love to come all over each other many times during the course of making love.

markfl1234 51M

8/5/2008 5:19 pm

Very informative! I'll have to try some of these things. Sometimes I can recover quickly, but I need to have some help from my partner, otherwise I don't have any interest for a bit. However when it does come back it feels harder, I feel hornier and last much longer taking a really effort to finally cum the next time. I'd love to have full control, sounds great.

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