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bipolybabe 56F
10715 posts
7/24/2006 10:48 am

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Ask the Sex Coach Here

If you've got questions that don't find answers in the topics below, please feel free to post your questions here or email me.

(c) 2006 AskAphrodite aka BiPolyBabe


Check out my blog Bi-Poly-Babe for more sensual, sexual pleasure!

ella1966 52F
1528 posts
7/24/2006 8:42 pm

bipoly babe, I am most curious as to what qualfications you hold or presume to have that enables you to proclaim yourself as a 'sex coach', because you are treading on very shaky ground in this place when you talk about this stuff, do you understand. You are dealing with people's emotions, with sex addiction, psychopathology and all manner of things that really requires expert care and guidance. Thank you.

bipolybabe replies on 7/24/2006 9:02 pm:
Hi, Ella,

I don't claim to have any qualifications beyond knowing a lot about how women respond to sexual stimulation and a dose of common sense about people and relationships.

I don't pretend to know how to deal with your complicated situation.

What I do know how to do is talk to people who are emotionally stable about how to meet others who are also stable and have the best chance of having it work for them.

I am dealing with rather basic stuff when it comes to sexuality. If what I've got isn't what you need, you are better off looking elsewhere for help.


tadpudgy 57M

7/25/2006 7:51 am

i am relatively new to blog-land. enjoy so much of what i read. don't get a lot of views/comments, but that is okay. my posts are like my diary that i don't mind sharing. i could ask u loads of questions, but space doesn't allow. i appreciate seeing you listen with empathy, and respond with warmth and sincerity. had my heart broken so bad over four years ago. been a sexual recluse since. i hide so much behind laughter, smiles, and not exposing my inner feelings. i even do ballroom dancing for social interaction, but won't allow a woman past my dance frame. how does one break down this wall. have i convinced myself i'll never get sexual again? too many q's, very liitle a's. hugs

ella1966 52F
1528 posts
7/26/2006 1:19 am

Hi bipolybabe, please excuse my last comment...I have no doubt that you do a lot of good for people on this site, and as the poster above states, what you do is helpful I know and you do it with such care and sincerity and humour that AdultFriendFinder/ should be honoured to have the privilege of having you on their site....but as you said it does require emotional stability to do this, and therefore, I am not in a position to partake, but lately, I have been worse than my usual, so I sincerely apologise if my comment seemed to be rather harsh or critical, it is certainly not my intention. Thank you babe, ella x

bipolybabe replies on 7/26/2006 1:11 pm:
Thank you, Ella, for coming back.

I'll send a prayer out to the Goddess for your wellness, because I'd genuinely like you--and everyone on the planet--to find peace and great sex!


rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
7/26/2006 7:46 pm

Well coach, the time is near. I believe my fisting fantasy will be happening in the next two weeks. I would love to read your suggestions for making this a grand experience for me and my partner. Thanks so much BPB for your help!

bipolybabe replies on 7/26/2006 10:12 pm:
Ooh, ooh, time to write

"Everything You Ever Wanted to Know about Fisting and Didn't Know to Ask."

Thanks for asking! I'll talk to The Queen of All Sexual Knowledge and write a blog just for you, SexxiKritter.

Will you promise to share how it goes? Guy or girl fist? Have you looked at that fist already and imagined it inside?

Enquiring minds wanna know,


rm_sexxikritter 53F
2715 posts
7/27/2006 2:06 pm

It's a guy fist and he's never done it either but is more than willing to experiment with me. I imagine that fist inside each time he and I phone bone. (He lives 200 miles away.) I will definitely share my experience. Thanks so much BPB!!

rm_desi121958 59M

7/28/2006 8:46 pm


bipolybabe replies on 7/28/2006 9:10 pm:
Sex, that is fucking as quickly as possible to get the act done and make a baby, that's nature taking its course.

The rest of it, sex for pleasure, is learned behavior. I'm not saying you can't learn it with the right partner. I'm saying that in some fashion or other, we pick up information about what makes good sex.

My goal is to break through the barriers of shame and embarrassment around sex and make sharing information NATURAL.


rm_luvwillie 85M
98 posts
8/31/2006 7:57 pm

Just have personal troubles that only I can remedy. Overweight a lot but ambulatory, have ED caused by medications, but have good personality. So I'm not ugly, occasionally meet someone from AdultFriendFinder,romance them and have a relationship using massage, los of foreplay and oral sex. But its a long time between encounters because in the long run women prefer penetration. And if I suggest using my strap-on--its just another dildo to them. Any suggestion on how to succeed a little more often. P.S. I'm 74.

Khrysomallos 47F

9/13/2006 9:13 pm

Your profile mentions that you have herpes, you have a blog about preventing herpes . . . I have tried to skim through your topics, but off-hand I haven't seen any postings on the topics of the trials and tribulations of trying to date with an STD.

bipolybabe replies on 9/14/2006 6:34 am:
Good point, kissme. Why don't we both write about our experiences on dating with an STD, because there are a LOT of us out there! And I really know nothing about HPV. Then, we can put the combined piece on both of our blogs. Or on mine if you don't want it on yours.

I will say, briefly, that at first, I felt I had The Plague. I was so ashamed and then the men would act so horrified as I'd tell them on the first meeting. Then, I said, "Oh, fuck it! Life is too short to spend it meeting men who make me feel bad about a minor virus!"

But, letting go of the shame was helpful. I put the herpes in my headline for a while, which got me a very positive response both from guys who had 'em and didn't want to have "the talk" and from people who simply appreciated my telling the truth about it.


Khrysomallos 47F

9/13/2006 9:35 pm

And how about something discussing the link between cervical cancer and HPV???

I had cervical cancer 9 years ago, at that time they knew it was linked to HPV viruses. However, only recently have the media been disseminating the information. The problem is that by referring to the virus simply as HPV, people assume that it means that you have the virus that causes venereal warts. Back when I was diagnosed I was told that 80% of the population carried the strains that can cause cancer, but don't cause warts. Basically, if you've had more than one sex partner in your life, you most likely carry the virus. And EVERY woman who has had an abnormal pap, has the virus. When I've tried to tell people about my cancer and its cause (I've had no abnormal paps in over seven years, and after one year of no recurrence my likelihood of cancer again goes back to that of the regular population) . . . I've been treated as if I have an infective virus. However, I've dated two gynecologists, and one "general practitioner" since then -- who were all comfortable having unprotected sex (after, of course, our discussions of our most recent STD tests and agreeing to monogamy -- which I am a stickler for since contracting a virus that nearly robbed me of my ability to have children).

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/21/2006 10:35 pm

Hi Poly Babe: Somebody thinks he is a psychologist/sociologist? and questions your expertise. Heck fooey, I have trouble trying to spell the word "psychologist". Anyway, I'm just a stupid/dumb historian and Your work is good and makes sense to me. Stay with it, as I know you will. Bless you. Sincerely, Bob

bipolybabe replies on 9/22/2006 4:27 am:
Thank you so much, Buffalo Bob.

Nice of you to visit my blog. Please join us here again.


BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/23/2006 9:03 pm

Hi Coach: Whatever you are doing, you are doing it quite well. Keep up your good work. Bless your kind heart. God Bless America. Sincerely, Bob

shylena256 43F
1967 posts
9/29/2006 1:59 am

Sex coach can I use this as love coach polyamoury coach place?

I started a harem and up til now I only have one member in it. When full it will have 5.
Anyway this one guy is really sweet and nice and well.. I guess I could just cut and paste my situation from a part on my blog over here and maybe you could, um help me sort this out I hope.

It's like this:

I do not easily let people love me I have learned.
Haremboy just spent the better part of 4 months working in being in my harem.
Of course he asked if he could have his own harem if he was in mine. and OF COURSE I said yes. I said yes as long as you can drop all the other hotchicks for me when I come to town.

Can you guess the rest?
Yup I'm not the queen of polyamory today but I will not give up.
I know I have a lot of male readers AND i DONT TEND to be sexist but here I go.

Why do men do these stupid things?
Not sleep with someone else, I still think that wouldn't have bothered me aside from the choice of people.

Yes Haremboy number one is a freelancer and working on a huge project that will take years to complete. It is the only work he talks about and he works on it all the time.

And now he goes and sleeps with the woman who is also working on this project.

This means I will not be able to talk to him about his life and work without thinking about how "intimately" he is involved with his "work"

Of all the people in the world he could have slept wth he chose the one that would ostracize me.
And then, sweet honest boy, he calls me from her hotel room - because she is in his "typing"- to say he hopes that this wont change anything.
I said only time will tell.
I have no right to mad I promise in my harem ad that I expect and give freelove only when I am there.


and I'm sad because of all those patterns in my head that tell me things that I hoped the harem would diperse of.

Honestly check this out I don't have much chance of living more than 5 more years thus the concept 5 men 5 cities 5 years.

But I realize now I can't be second choice either.

No I don't expect the harem guys not to have other lovers.

I am so sad that this guy spent so much time wooing me my emotions and trust only to sleep with someone whose power over his life I can't deny.

I am keeping him in the harem for a day or two because I don't want to throw him out for this and cause stress. I will throw him out whenever he gets home to his house I think.

So Bipolybabe?
I wasn't in love with this guy, am I crazy here to think the harem can't work anymore if he's sleeping with his business partner, especially since he works from home on this project all the time?
What would you do?
I was over at freelove's place and read a post called R is for Rejection. These are the patterns that I hoped to cure by having a harem.
Is my problem only that I only have one guy in the harem thusfar? Could it maybe be cured by adding to the harem actively do you think?

So many more questions but I'm not even sure you will answer thusfar so....



Do you feel like Dear Abby yet?

bipolybabe replies on 9/29/2006 2:51 pm:
Oh, Lena, honey,

I read your story in "Ask the Sex Coach" and I wondered if it weren't just my own story. (With merely a few variations.)

Who knows why guys act like such stupid shits and they fuck things up so badly?

I really loved the guy I was living with, had no expectations of monogamy from him and he still went and dumped on me and made it impossible for us to continue.

So, the long and short of it, honey, is that I know a lot about making the sex part work but very little about the whole male-female relationship thing. I'm still learning along with you. Especially the polyamory part. I'm a newbie at this too, and none of us knows how it's done.

But, I'll keep telling my story as I learn it, and I appreciate your sharing yours with me. I'll keep tabs on your blog, and you chime in, tell me I'm full of shit and ask questions on mine, okay?


CB_2 52F

11/4/2006 5:17 am

BPB, I did e-mail you but you probably get swamped with e-mails, so I'm going to try posting here.

I've got a problem with my lover. He's great, the sex is great etc etc. But he takes hours to come, by which time I've been seen to quite enough, thank you, and I'm thinking about lunch.

At the moment it isn't a problem, but I'm looking to the future and wondering whether I'm going to start writing shopping lists in my head while I wait for him to finish. I don't want to go there!

Yes, we have loads of variety, and it's not hours of him banging away on top of me. I don't get sore, or anything. He'll spend an hour or so attending to my arse, or my pussy etc etc, so I'm definitely getting the best part of the deal. I just want him to come inside me or in my mouth, once I'm done.

He isn't deliberately trying to hold off, he doesn't have a wank beforehand, isn't on any medication, isn't a heavy drinker, is definitely into me. Apparently he's always been like this, it's not new.

I've tried position changes, talking really filthy etc etc. Have yet to stick my finger up his arse when he's not expecting it (that might work, as he's quite into arse play), but really I'm after any suggestions from you on things which might "tip him over the edge".

I know you're going to tell me I should just enjoy the ride, and forget about the ending, but it is so frustrating when he's made me so happy and I seem to be unable to return the compliment.

Blogito ergo sum.

bipolybabe replies on 11/5/2006 5:59 am:
Hmmmm...sounds like a "problem" I'd personally really enjoy.

Let me think a bit about this and get back to you. I'll also consult The Queen of All Sexual Knowledge and my Tantra teacher.

One of the questions I had for my Tantra teacher, and she never answered, is "How do you get a guy off faster if that's what you want to do?" because Tantra is all about going slowly. But, sometimes, it would be nice just to have a quickie now, wouldn't it?


artsyfox 44F
1799 posts
11/12/2006 5:20 pm

Hi Coach,

Ok I have some questions and if you would be so kind as to point me in a somewhat good direction I would appriciate it. This being the first time I have been to your blog I read one or two posta and really rather enjoyed it. So here is the situation:

I have over the years learned some if not all of what might turn a guy on Orally and also what seems to work during intercourse as well. But as with I am told I have had the problem of being either unable of being sexually satisfied till not too long ago. I don't seem to enjoy masterbation except occasionally and then usually it takes a toy. So I guess you might say I have a lopsided store of knowledge. I don't often have a clue what will work for or if it works once then I don't know why it does and it often never "works" again. I have plenty of men telling me often I assume erronously that they can make it feel good. I tend to take that with an extreme grain of salt. I am guessing that often when I was younger that I didn't have orgasams with men because I was so "uptight" and unable to "relax" and enjoy it. But ass at the time it sisn't matter too mcuh because I was doing the whole sex thing to make them happy.

To Bring this to a quick ending do you think you might be able to suggest something to help me figure out what I do like. I happen to take slowly to new thing due to that "tense" feeling and being a little uncomfortable. Its also part of why I dislike oral unless I am really, really drunk. LOL

Thanks for listening.


"We are, each of us angels with only one wing; and we can only fly by embracing one another."
Luciano de Crescenzo

bipolybabe replies on 11/13/2006 10:24 am:
Hi, Kelli,

Thank you so much for writing your questions.

I'd love to talk to you. I'll email you, and we need to email a couple times before exchanging contact info. (Otherwise, AdultFriendFinder stops sending our emails.)


BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
12/13/2006 12:29 am

Hi Babe: I think, but I do not know, that she is a so-called 'registered psychologist', w. credentials, so to speak. You answered her w. downright logic and commonsense. To your credit. Bless your kind heart. Sincerely, Bob.

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
12/13/2006 1:00 am

Hi Lena: If you think you are 'shy', so be it. If you think life is complicated, might I share a short story about the guy who walked on the beach, probably in So.Cal,, and a bottle washed up.//Yes, he opened it up and the genie popped out/ offering 3 wishes for the new-found freedom. Of course, the 1st 2 were for economic prosperity for all and college educations for his kids. Granted, but #3? A Highway Bridge to Hawaii. The genie said: Do have any idea the thousands of tons of cement/the environmental issues of the coast of California/the contractual problems among/between various types of contractors vying for the job/different unions arguing w. each over who should do what and with whom/various courts attempting to figgur it out???????? So, the Genie/then the Lord jumped in and said: "Try #3 again." The guy thought for a moment and then shared this simple thought: "Lord, how does a man understand a woman?". The Lord and the Genie conferenced for about three moments: and replied: "Sir, how many lanes do you wish on that highway bridge to Hawaii"?
I share this simple/stupid story merely to share how difficult life's situations are, especially the man/woman thing. If y'all desire more difficult stuff, we might attempt issues relating to government, freedom, & democracy/East vs West & vice versa. Not to be facetious, might we stick w. the easy stuff: male-female/ treating each other w. honor, appreciation, and respect. Problems/problems/always problems.
What I see are many fine humanoids who do the best that they/we can. For which I share kudos and credit to you all.............Later, the female genie got hold of the mike and said: "Lord, how does a woman understand a man". Then, of course, we start all over again. Bless you all. God Bless America. Sincerely, Bob

bipolybabe replies on 12/14/2006 2:11 pm:
Bless you, Bob, and Happy Holidays!


MidnightRider2S 66M/59F
8 posts
1/18/2007 2:54 pm

Hello, Many of your answers on sex seem to be taken from an outdated book and sometimes from your own mind lol. We thought that since you live near water that maybe you could answer questions about fishing better then you can answer questions about sex lol.
So here goes, When do Fish bite best??? There is only one answer to this question, hopefully you will get it right and you can advance from the starting position of bait boy to the position of Master Baiter. Do your best.

bipolybabe replies on 1/18/2007 10:22 pm:
Actually, I prefer the role of Mistress Masturbator, and I don't have to do a darned thing to take the title.

But, I am curious...When do fish bite best? And does it feel good? I'd certainly like to try out fish biting as it's a sexual experience I've never had.


And, if you have newer books or info, I'd love to hear about them.


1/22/2007 3:34 pm

any special tricks to get a women to be a consistant squirter?

bipolybabe replies on 1/22/2007 5:25 pm:
Good question. I know how it has happened for me...when I've been really relaxed in the hands of someone who knows what s/he is doing, but I don't know how to make it happen consistently except to practice those things.

1) Get her to relax and feel comfortable even if it's messy

2) Know how to push the right buttons and sense when to keep pushing and when to back off.

The best source for info is the blog of LilSquirt_4mfm

Best wishes,


rm_psyco971 31M
1 post
1/25/2007 7:39 pm


rm_tommy61953 64M
1 post
2/19/2007 9:32 pm

Do you know much about tantra? Also do you know any trainers or teachers of this program in Las vegas that you would recommend?
thanks tifcoto

bipolybabe replies on 3/24/2007 4:54 pm:
Actually, I am a teacher of beginning Tantra. My own teacher is in Santa Barbara where I live most of the time.

I'll email you so we can get in touch.


rm_warrior53051 43M
1 post
3/24/2007 8:22 am

Hi coach,

I have always wondered if there are any diseases that a guy can get if he receives oral sex from women. I love this but I never really asked the question before............

bipolybabe replies on 3/24/2007 4:56 pm:
According to the Center for Disease Control guy, oral sex is the lowest risk for sexually transmitted diseases like HIV. I imagine you could get it, which is why some people use condoms even for oral sex.

Supposedly, you can also get genital herpes if the woman has an open lesion of oral herpes. But, I don't think oral herpes is as contagious if there is no open sore.

However, it's always a good idea to ask, "Do you have any sexually transmitted diseases or have you been exposed to any?"


2456 posts
4/1/2007 3:04 pm

I began to enjoy anal sex since few months. However, I always have one thing on my mind. Based on my understanding of the thumb rule about anal sex, a person never try to move his finger from anal to vagina because of health risk due e-coli. Okay ! I understand it. I need to understand clear what will happen to the women's health if anal sex will go wrong ( anal to vagina )...I am curious to know and understand it. Anybody can answer that ??? Thanks !!

bipolybabe replies on 4/4/2007 8:49 am:
Thanks for the question about anal contamination of the vagina.

I'll get it to it in my blog. Keep watching!


2lvlovers4u 60M/55F

4/3/2007 2:32 pm

We would like to know ,What gland in the female body stores and manufactures all this "Squirting" liquid ??. To ejaculate the amounts everyone's spraying all over the place,it would have to be very large indeed.Like the size of your Bladder,which could have an INVOLUNTARY releaseof urine during an intense orgasm....Or maybe it's overgrown Bartholin's glands, you know the one's that produce lubricative arousal fluid when your turned on.Except they would have to be the size of orange's to make a good size "Squirt" and wet the bed.So where/what are these mystery gland/glands that allow this uniqueness?? We are dying to know.
I forgot to add Skene's glands that could possibly be the culprits,but again for the amounts of liquid we are seeing they would be abnormally big....Like baseball size or bigger.
We realize that now women have found another toy to search endlessly for, first the G-spot, now "Squirting" and "Gushing" is the new Banner to be waved,but so what,It's all for sexual pleasure.At least those who claim to be the Messiah should tell the story straight on this subject after looking at the female anatomy for those elusive "Squirt" glands.By comparison Men are equipped with 2 Testicles and a Prostate to Squirt only on average two or more tablespoons of ejaculate,My wife and I have never recalled a true female sporting such a package ,inside or common sense(Sorry, for using common sense here.We understand its non-existance in America) would tell us that the statement we made earlier rings true:
"To ejaculate the amounts everyone's spraying all over the place,it would have to be very large indeed.Like the size of your Bladder,which could have an INVOLUNTARY release of urine during an intense orgasm" Please don't broach the "clear liquid" crap either,the more liquids one drinks will clear up your pee nicely...

bipolybabe replies on 4/4/2007 8:50 am:
Thanks for the question about where female ejaculate comes from.

I'll get to it soon in my blog, so please keep watching and reading!


bipolybabe replies on 7/7/2007 8:47 am:
Hi, 2LvLovers,

I finally wrote about what's in female ejaculate here: Q A with the Sex Coach

Sorry it took so long!


rm_kerosss 29M

4/25/2007 11:23 pm

Im an 18 male whos mostly atractted to older women and bigger girls. But have a hard time meeting women older than myself. Not sure what to do

rm_elgavilan02 30M
1 post
4/26/2007 10:21 am

Flesh4yrRomeo 58M

5/2/2007 4:45 pm

Much Kudos for the amazing blog. So much great little time to use it all
Do you have advice about safe oral sex practices?
F to M is easy right.
But what about M to F?
I like to give and receive the "O" but am concerned about leaving with more than I arrived with! Should I be concerned about this?

Much Love BPB.

Much Love

bipolybabe replies on 5/6/2007 7:04 am:
Great question!

I'll answer it soon in my blog, so please keep checking back!


mnw1989 47M

5/21/2007 12:32 pm


Any suggestions you can offer me as to how to be able woo women without it sounding like a come-on? I'm honest and sincere but get nothing in return.


rm_swanyg 55F

6/27/2007 3:25 am

Bi,,,did you ever put out the dvd you were working on from your sex fest?? I think many of us who cant get out there for the fest's,,would love a copy. Thanks babe,,BB

bipolybabe replies on 6/27/2007 6:50 am:
Still working on it. Editing is a bee-otch, and not even the nice kind of a blog bee-otch.


muffbandit4u 50M

7/7/2007 11:35 am

Hi there Bipolybabe, I reall liked reading/applying your answers to longer lasting hardon's w/o ejaculating I will try it and I hope it works! I've always had a problem w ejaculating very quickly, sometimes w/o even being fully hard. I think it's has alot to do with how much the female excites me (very much)! I would very much like to meet up sometime to have my very own sex coach, you. I'm sure it would be a very enlightening experience for both of us, mostly me. I'll look forward to hearing from you real soon, the sooner the better!

bipolybabe replies on 7/8/2007 8:30 am:
Cool! The one guy to whom I've taught everything I know has actually not only improved his ejaculatory control but also his dick has grown into the next condom size!


bipolybabe replies on 7/8/2007 8:36 am:
I just responded by email, but since you're a standard member, I guess you can't read emails currently. (That's pretty ridiculous, in my opinion.)

As an alternative to get in touch with me, you can go to my website askaphrodite dot you-know-what and find contact info there.


RadiiInaneBreis 64M

7/16/2007 4:19 am

How do you stop a little dog from humping your leg?


Pick him up and blow him.

Thanks for letting me share,

bipolybabe replies on 7/16/2007 11:02 am:
What about if the little dog is a girl?


ludwig202 65  
10334 posts
8/11/2007 4:58 pm

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bipolybabe replies on 8/12/2007 10:03 pm:
Hi, Ludwig202,

I'll go check my network invitations to see if I've received one from you.


rm_asmartfart2 59M

8/15/2007 3:22 pm

Dear BipolyBabe,

I have a couple of questions about dating and herpes. Can your partner get herpes from swallowing ejaculate? What are some ways to protect your partner if they don't have herpes but want to have sexual relations with you (and you do have herpes)? Can you give your partner herpes through cunnilingus? Any help in these areas would be greatly appreciated. Also, wouldn't one of the ways to have plenty of sex even though you have herpes be to have sex with a partner that also has herpes? I didn't read anything like that in your blog.

BTW, thanks for joining the network. Love the album.


bipolybabe replies on 8/16/2007 1:24 pm:
Thanks for the great questions about sex and herpes.

I'll get right on writing a blog to respond and updating my previous ones to address these questions.


rm_asmartfart2 59M

8/22/2007 2:31 pm


When you update and answer the questions, would you be so kind as to send me an e-mail noting that you have done this so I can come back and check the info. It would help a great deal.



bipolybabe replies on 8/22/2007 10:49 pm:
You betcha.

I'll email once I respond.


rm_lvtply69 70M
1 post
8/22/2007 11:15 pm

Great and informative web site. One of he best I have seen anywhere. Congratulations in helping people gain knowledge and demystifying sex and the rolls of men and woman.

bipolybabe replies on 8/23/2007 9:54 pm:
Thank you, kind sir.

I replied to your email.


rm_Ayelen1000 62F
2 posts
8/26/2007 11:21 am

Where I can get that wonderful G-spot massage?

bipolybabe replies on 8/28/2007 11:05 pm:
The line forms right in front of me.


rm_Ayelen1000 62F
2 posts
8/30/2007 11:01 pm

O.K. I'm be waiting.

2456 posts
9/3/2007 8:44 am

I got email back after I asked a woman about her secret fantasy. Her reply was: I want to fuck man ass on the strap. No more secret now! It blow out my mind because I did not prepare myself to hear that. Smile ! It seemed that she gave me a hint. I have been thinking about it. By the way, I experienced my anal pleasure by using a anal didlo. It is called " Aneros Male G-Spot Stimulator ". It ia a new advanced didlo for men. I want to emphasize my point that this new didlo can be used for both straight men or gay men. It does not matter ! It work great for anal pleasure. Anyway, I wonder whether " fuck man's ass on the strap " will involve the feeling of pain or not. It seem different from a male didlo. Huh ??? What do you think ? I need to know before I will respond back to woman's email.

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/22/2007 4:52 am

Hi Coach BPB: Ella has a point, BUT she has not yet paid attention to details down the line??? Many compadres share their stuff and get good stuff in return. If not from you, from other good folks who also can share and are likely to share, just because you brought the crudzie to the fore.
Or am I missing something here in a search for legit data? [An honest conversation within the realm of female-male interconnectivity? ] Honest discourse is helpful. Is it possible? Of course. Thank you again. Bless you and Ella. God Bless America. Sincerely/Respectfully, Bob

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/22/2007 5:22 am

Sweetness Of Light: You have expressed exas[peration quite well. If I could be of assistance, I surely would try. After his over the top, did you cum? Either way, you caress him and climb his frame, situate your legs as how you wish. Your torso on top. Just your magical body should produce the intended effect.,,,,........for you both. Slowly.... If this doesn't work, Coach might help us out Okay? Sincerely, Bob

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/22/2007 5:50 am

Artsy makes a whole lotta sense, from an old geezer's point of view.

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/22/2007 6:20 am

As I get older, sexy Ella stands there half naked with only her blue jeans on. [Works nicely for my tired old eyeballs]. And wonders about the stupidity of men, in previous posts. The important thing is: Are those faded blue jeans Levi's or Wranglers for women? Who knows? Only the Shadow knows. Gold's Gym on a daily basis? Or just Mon thru Friday? Whatever. Bless y'all. Keep up ur good work. God Bless America. Sincerely, Bob

BuffaloBob32 85M
516 posts
9/22/2007 6:45 am

On this subject, there is no such thing as an 'outdated book'. Chemistry 101, Physics 201, Physiology 301, Kenesiology 401, Advanced Chemistry 501, coeds in the gym while the athletes were working out for the big game on Friday night. Where was Ella? BPB monitors and moderates. Back to English and History 103. Typing helped a whole bunch of people through life. Correct me if I'm wrong. In 1949, sexual thoughts were verbotten, therefore not considered. Some boys were rather dumb then if I might be honest.
It is not likely share a thought that haunts me to this day,........only because I was stupid and dumb and did not take advantage. Advantage of what? I had no idea. Later, Bob

TheOracleofFire 98F

11/9/2007 8:03 pm

Hi Bi Poly ... still haven't found a man to shiver me timbers but I am getting as close as I can get for the moment.

I have written a tribute to my lusty sweet cream ladies today...

Hail to the Secret Order of the Vestal Harlots

L'Oracle de L'Amour

TheOracleofFire 98F

11/11/2007 4:34 pm

Why don't you come over to the Cave anymore... my celibacy will end now... I got my brasilian and am ready to play.

You Dont Bring Me Flowers

L'Oracle de L'Amour

muffbandit4u 50M

12/29/2007 8:02 am

Want to ride on my Harley Davidson and me? Let me know if you are interested! Late, muffbandit4u Hey when are we gonna get together and have some lessons and/or fun?

bipolybabe replies on 12/29/2007 8:19 am:
Thanks for the invite! My ex-girlfriend had a Harley, and it was really fun to ride behind her as she was a VERY good, careful driver.

I'm interested in meeting potential lovers who live within 30 minutes of me, because I prefer convenient, regular meetings rather than occasional trysts.

Unless there's something REALLY special about you, that I didn't read in your profile, or why you're particularly interested in me...

rm_toro__1982 36M
1 post
3/19/2008 11:35 pm

HI BPB, I guess I can say I dont have much luck meeting woman in general. The ice breaker is the hardest part for me. Once a woman starts talking to me its usually smooth sailing from there, but getting woman to read my pro. and take the first step in contacting me is what I have the issue with. Is there anything in particular that would make my pro. more interesting without sounding cocky? I live a busy / interesting life but how can I put that on my pro? I just want to meet some cool people and see were it leads.

bipolybabe replies on 3/20/2008 6:48 am:
I think your profile just needs some fine tuning, including the grammar and spelling.

In a site like this, what you write gives women the first impression of who you are, which makes having something humorous and appealing in your profile especially important.

If you reply by email, I'll be glad to work with you on this.


FireFighter_E9 30M

5/28/2008 1:53 pm

I am seeing a women with large breasts and I love large breasts. What can I do to make sure she gets as much pleasure out of my breast love as possible?

Also as a second question, assuming i'm allowed a second question, Whats the best way to engauge in breast sex (tit-fucking) that you know of? Any good lubes you'd recomend?

bipolybabe replies on 5/28/2008 6:03 pm:
Good questions!

Thanks for asking, and I'll put the questions out to my readers to make sure we get a full complement of replies.


FireFighter_E9 30M

5/28/2008 7:11 pm

thank you, but where Will I find all the answers once you get them? I'm not sure where to look!

FunInTallinn3 46M

6/29/2008 2:03 pm

Hi BiPoly, I just posted some reply and questions to you in two different places and they are somewhat related topics, but, thought I'd copy/paste both of them here to ask you directly. Hope I formed my thoughts and questions logically, might be a little writing happy right now since I came across all of this. A lot of different stuff here that interests me at the moment. Apologize for the repeat in two different places, but, am interested in hearing your thoughts on this. I kind of went crazy on your blog tonight because I found a lot of stuff that I found interesting. I'd like to hear your thoughts. Thanks. Also, I like the way you handled (think it was Ella's) posting. I'm glad she replied and apolagized to you. That was big of her actually. Anyway, thanks for listening and thanks for putting up with my novel I wrote here. I'll continue to self-educate and keep on doing the things I feel I do right in that search for better sex for myself and my spouse! Here is the copy/paste Q&A:

Q: Kegels Provide Muscle Tone for Bigger Orgasms

A: Realize I am posting on this one that is a little dated now, sorry, just came across this blog recently. I hope you see it and answer.

I have stopped and started my urine since about my mid-twenties. Didn't even know I was doing a form of a kegel. I actually started it thinking it might be a way to stop that annoying side spray when I started urination (but think that is more to do with having maybe sat awhile and squeezed things up) or could stop urination without the dribble that is normally sometimes experienced (at least one doctor said it was normal when I queried him about it). I thought it certainly couldn't hurt to do it. I am lucky to date since I've never really had any erection, orgasm ejaculation or urination issues in my life. Sometimes I wonder if it is due to the habit I have of stopping and starting urination every time I urinate.

So, I guess now I just need to take it to the next level, exercise and further my education, as I think I am comfortable in knowing where my PC muscle is and how it feels.

I have a question to you: As far as a man being multi-orgasmic. You know, this thought never has really occurred to me outside maybe a few occasional "wouldn't it be great to cum forever" thoughts. It is always something I've associated mainly with women. Probably because that is only the mainstream talk that it is associated with. For a man, does this mean that a man can release some cum during an orgasm, say maybe two to four or five releases (spasms) and then experience that almost immediately again? And the initial spasm of cum just as strong as the first initial cum? I am assuming or perhaps hoping that's what it means! Or is the fact that you have more than one spasm during an orgasm mean a multi-orgasm? I sure hope it's the former which I've never experienced and would be amazing, to feel like maybe you could cum forever. Yes, utopia! Or maybe not, but, would feel good for that much longer.

Q: Ejaculatory Control & Male Multiple Orgasms.

A: Thanks, another great posting. I actually just posted a question to you on this topic in another posting reply. Makes perfect sense to me about orgasm and ejaculation being totally separate. Although, I don't typically think about the mechanics/biology of it to be honest. I definitely need to change that. I've experienced an orgasm without ejaculation (or very little ejaculate of sperm or semen) in either long masturbation sessions or a night of multiple love-making sessions with my wife. I typically don't lose my erection (at least completely to placid) after ejaculation, but, my next ejaculation is weaker, next one weaker, etc, etc. But, then sometimes I've been surprised how much I cum after having cum already a few times. I've always wondered why that is? I've had an orgasm with little to no ejaculate and still feel the orgasm feeling coming from the prostate area like your describing I think.

Anyway, thanks for the post and I'll continue to look around for certain. These topics are stuff I am so hungry to consume. I am so happy I gave AdultFriendFinder a shot based on the terrific stuff that some people, such as yourself, put out there. Thanks for that.

rm_anilkumar725 42M
1 post
8/11/2008 2:38 am

longandslow47 59M
1 post
8/23/2008 2:46 am

Hi girlfriend says she has lost her interest in sex is very confused right now and a little depressed because of it.
She is under alot of stress from work related stuff and has money issues as a result....I loaned her some money for house payment, pay her groceries, and anything else she needs.....She still says she loves me, but now I'm afraid to initiate sex for fear of her saying no...My guess is that shes getting it elswhere or that she just doesn't know it yet but wants to break up and cannot tell me for fear of losing me as a friend. We do alot together, and she cares for me deeply. LAst night she was in the bath and I had to scrub her back and front and everything, so i'm staring her beautiful pussy and perfect tits and she is just laying there like its all normal. I have a raging hard on in my shorts and she sees it but says nothing.
She is 46 years old and looks 30 with butter like skin, perfect tits,
and a clean pretty do I do this?...I"m dying here!!

jeanla 42F

1/20/2009 7:41 pm

Hi poly,

I have 3 or 4 minor questions sex questions, I think about quite often and wonder if you have any answers.

First two were told to me by a BF. He says he can feel my tonsile tickling his cock when I deep throat him.( i never had them out) Second I do get 1 to 3 hit of cum a day. Alway hit bf in the morn and many times two guys at work. I lift weights 3 times a week and I have been getting very strong and pretty solid for a fem. He told me cum contains quite a lot of Creatine. It's widely used by guys to add muscle. Does cum contain creatine?

I have trouble taking a 7/8 inch cock doggie, It hurts real good! I would never want to get a 9 or 10 incher as many woman seem to want. But I can take any size cock down my throat, did a 18" double dildo. I guess this is oppsite of most woman?

rm_jinxforp 45M
30 posts
5/21/2010 6:48 am

Hi BPB. I am from Kenya in Africa where most of the women have a lot of inhibitions based on what culture has imposed down on them. It paints sex as dirty and something to be done only in the dark of the night. Sex is for procreation and not for pleasure and things like female orgasms are only starting to take shape.

Most of our women are waking up to the realization that they can also enjoy sex but some are still in the dark. This leaves us enlightened men with a challenge and sometimes you may be offered a pussy where the owner knows of nothing else except put it in her, fuck her hard and cum alone without her.

Anyway I love your articles a lot and would like you to research on the African woman and advise us on how to handle this very complicated species. Tell us how to break the dirty feeling, how to make our women more responsive and also agree to more positions, etc.


rm_justfun4know 61M
1 post
2/18/2011 9:24 am


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