bijulia12 49
36 posts
6/27/2006 6:00 pm

I have been very stressed and busy for a while and I have been complaining that I haven’t taken a vacation all year. My hubby is not able to go because of work. My husband and I have a very open marriage. We have been swinging almost nine years. My husband has a very good friend that I have been seeing for about six years. He is a great guy and a more than awesome swing partner. I have gone on dates and swing with him on my own quite often. I have even spent the night with him several times. Anyway he has offered to take me on vacation to Hawaii in August. My husband has been encouraging me to go but I am not sure about it. I am not worried about our friend but I feel guilty because he will not let me pay for anything and I am just unsure about it. What does everybody think? Has anybody ever had anything like this happen to them?

VLMax1968 49M

7/3/2006 3:39 pm

Have you made sure he understands it's just swinging? As long as you both understand the rules, mainly that you love you husband and will not leave him for another man, then why worry? Express your concerns to him and ask him why he would want to pay for everything. If you're satisfied with the answers, then still no worries. On the otherhand, if his answers don't seem right and make you uneasy, don't go. You just have to follow your gut and your heart.

05Superduty 47M

7/21/2006 7:26 pm

Just wondering if thing for this friend haven't changed were you're concerned. Maybe he's hoping that things can change and go further between the two of you. Then, again he just might be that type of person who doesn't mind paying for things. Only you can answer that. But in the end, I think you need to follow your gut.

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