Being Real  

bigredeatsbush 52M/51F
305 posts
8/26/2005 11:43 am

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Being Real

Hi All you happy people:
Don't have much of a plan today, I have been catching up on everyone else's blog. Blog, blog, blog. Things are quiet here as thoughts and actions return to the school year. We are SPENT - Emotionally, physically and financially. Wifey has been having some "female problems", so the action in the sack has slowed down a little too. Some of my favorite blogs are wavering, I am sad for that. I reckognize that life tends to move in cycles, and mine as well. I always seem to have one question when it comes to change: Did I change or did something external change that is affecting me? PNS and EM4M seem to be the blogville shrinks, so maybe they will have comments on the subject. If my mood is cyclic, then I am in an ebb at the moment. I think I need more quality time with my significant other, too much emphasis on children and others. We are tentatively planning a trip. We have a distant friend that we believe will be interested and willing to be involved in threesome activity. I am excited but yet anxious. Finances are a tedious thing, do I spend the money? This vacation will be about $1000 to do it right. Is that a good decision? Mental wellness is pretty important, but how much "wellness" will be gained by this trip? These are just my thoughts, I hope this is not interpreted as "crying in my beer" type stuff. Anyway, I hope to give a more upbeat blog as the weekend continues.

uh ba deet deet deet, that's all folks!

Philosophy_N_Sex 50M/48F

8/26/2005 1:02 pm

yes go, you both need it. You can cut expenses if you are driving. eat pre packed food, cary alot of fresh fruit it is filling and will avoid dehydration. Also fast food dollar menus. It is still warm enough to camp out. I would not really recommend a "play time" as of yet. If she has female stuff going on, she will not feel at her best. She would want to be at her best, trust me on that, even a zit will make her self conscience about showing off infront of another guy. A trip just to take a trip would be cool. even camping, or a trip to a near by city for no reason. We do that all the time.

The change of negative energy with the blogs is not just you. Been discussing it for a while now. More drama, more attacks and such. It will change back to fun with a new cast of characters. Like a long running TV show you get used to the new characters.

You must, and I say must "date" your spouse. Do affair thing with you wifey, sounds simple yes, but it works. Maybe you will meet another sane couple and kid watching can another option. But kids can and do overwhelm, it is ok to have a kid break, you are a better parent with a break. You get rid of the "WHAT NOW!" attitude every time a kid speaks. A simple date would not take as much money, but offer as much in the way of returns. More bang for buck, in our mind bang for buck is the way to go.

IF you just take your lady to a hotel, you could just "role play" a 3 way.. Turn out all lights, and talk and move different, pretend to be another guy. if you normally have your legs inside of hers when she is on her knees, move to the out side. Move different pretend to be another guy, see how she responds. Is safe, and lets you bothknow if you want to progress sooner or later. Either way nothing to lose.

some mood boosters.
rent a comedy
go fly a kite in the park
visit the MISTI cancer center and see that it is not so bad
go shoot hoops at the park
take whole family to park for pic nic
visit the MK nature center and make faces at the fish
call your spouses cell phone and ask for prince albert in a can or if the lights are running or call albertsons

Hopefully this helps, maybe a little.

A dozen roses will lift your wifeys spirt about now.

FunandFrisky79 42M/38F

8/26/2005 3:19 pm

Red- Go for it! Everybody needs a vacation. Especially if you are looking to spice up your sex life. However, make sure your wife is feeling up to it since you said she is going through some rough stuff right now. One question- is your friend a man or a woman? It's funny... P&S automatically thought it was a man. And, I instantly pictured a woman. LOL I wonder what that means?

As you know, my bf and I have never had a 3some together. However, we talk about it during sex all the time. And, I must confess, I'm usually the one who brings it up. lol I talk to him about the things I want to do to another woman and the things we would do to him. I think being sexually open has made us very close! Besides, it helps us to know what the other wants from a 3some (if it were to happen). I don't know if you do this as well. But, if you don't, I highly recommend it. That way, you will be more comfortable when the opportunity arises. That's just my opinion. But, it works for us!

Anyway, take P&S's advice on this one. He seems to have some really great ideas for getting you out of the 'rut' you're in. And, don't worry... this is just a phase. Everyone is "down in the dumps" from time to time. Surprisingly enough, there are even times when I'M not "fun" and "frisky"! I can be "boring" and "crabby" sometimes. (I feel like I'm naming dwarves! lol). But, we all snap out of it. When you begin feeling overwhelmed, just remember to breathe. So, keep your head up & remember that you have so much to be happy about!

Btw, P&S: I just have to say that I lmao at your "prince albert in a can" comment. It reminded me of my bf. Ever since I met him 5 years ago, he has always asked me if I like "polish sausage in the can". LOL We still laugh about it because it obviously worked... I'm his now! And, one more thing... a dozen roses? What a beautiful sentiment! I really love the way you love your wife! You truly are a sweetheart!


FunandFrisky79 42M/38F

8/26/2005 3:21 pm

Red and P&S- Btw, have you noticed... we are having our very own 3some as we speak!!! LMFAO


FunandFrisky79 42M/38F

8/26/2005 3:21 pm

Red and P&S- Btw, have you noticed... we are having our very own 3some right here in this blog!!! LMFAO


FunandFrisky79 42M/38F

8/26/2005 3:23 pm

OOPS! My post is multiplying! Red, please delete one of them. Thanks, hun!


rm_genel2001 62M
1 post
8/26/2005 3:26 pm

hi my wife and my self are new to boise and to this lifestyle
are there any clubs in boise ? genel2001

ExploreMore4Me 60F

8/26/2005 6:32 pm

Dear Red,.... By all means, do go! Go, make the commitment, leave the financial worries on the other side of the door! I couldn't agree more with P&S! This is something for you and your wife first! It's obvious you have a commitment in your relationship with each other that's valuable to you both! Honor that value! And if nothing more, the mere change of scenery may be the only spark both of you may need in order to regenerate yourselves, whether it's emotionally, physcially, psychological or SPIRITUALLY!
What's your mental health worth, you ask? I'd like to give a different perspective: What's the cost of traditional mental health care if you don't take or make the opportunity to take this time? What will not going have costed in the long run after all is taken into consideration!

Gas to get to destination: $200 Hotel, Meals & Entertainment: $800 The Cost of Rengeneration and Reconnection: PRICELESS!

Hugs & Kisses My Friend!


Go, relax, breath, share, smile, love lots!

Philosophy_N_Sex 50M/48F

8/26/2005 8:49 pm

see red we are here for you

I cant answer genel's question. I do not think their are any swing clubs..

ahah F&F likes sausage in a can hahaha
yeah the 3 way could be a FMF, gee how narrow minded of me to just assume ass u me = assume
I really need to stop taking over other people's blogs.. I should be a humble guest.

bigredeatsbush 52M/51F

8/26/2005 10:40 pm

F&F, PNS - It's a woman that I never dated but we went to high school together, we were pretty good friends. Wifey and her have visited and they get along good too. She going through a divorce and so it would be good for all of us to get together, I'm confident that the chemistry is there, but I don't plan to put pressure on anybody by talking about it or assuming anything will happen. We will probably go club hopping and see how things feel.

I was just amazed to see all the posts I've gotten today, I feel a little better already!

bigredeatsbush 52M/51F

8/26/2005 10:43 pm

Genel - I heard a group of swingers were planning on meeting at "The Balcony" Saturday. I think it's actually a gay club, but friendly to all. They play a lot of techno music, try it and see if you like it. Then let me know how it was, I've never been. Welcome to Boise!

bigredeatsbush 52M/51F

8/26/2005 10:48 pm

Jezebelle & EM4M - You girls are great, thanks for the support. Looks like we're gonna take a vacation in the near future. We haven't had one in 3 years (Holy Shit!) Just saying we're going on vacation makes me feel better.

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