Interview stress  

bigarsemonkeys 39M/41F
9 posts
8/6/2006 7:13 am

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Interview stress

I've just returned from the city after interviewing a potential male escort (I did mention that I'm also a pimp daddy, didn't I?). Unfortunately, the guy didn't come up to scratch, but the interview did raise a few interesting points.

Men and women are different - it doesn't take an anatomist to work this out. But the more guys I interview, the more I realise how different we are psychologically. In the way we communicate, in the way we reason, even our very thought processes are different. Let me give you an example.

I asked the interviewee (let's call him Bob)about his thoughts on the conflict between Israel and the Lebanon. Now, I was expecting a response along the lines of "It's a terible humanitarian tragedy, a downward spiral of violance in which neither side can ultimately win etc etc". What I actually got from Bob was;

"Yeah, what the Israelis need to do is change their tactics, if they adopted a guerilla approach to the fighting they could inflict a far higher casualty rate"


Bob scares me.

But more relevent, and bearing in mind that I had a female colleague alongside me who Bob was supposed to be impressing with his communication skills, would/could this kind of answer ever endear him to a woman? Bob's answer was so typical of male thinking. See a problem, fix it. It's what we as men do. I can't help but think womens minds operate differently.

Women (or at least the ones I know) communicate issues as a way of sorting the day out in their heads. When Jana comes home after a hard day at work, she'll start talking to me about what a bitch her boss is, what problems she's having with her coursework, how she saw this gorgeous dress in Whistles (very cool shop in Richmond) but can't afford it etc. etc. Now, my natural instinct as a man is to solve these issues. Boss is a bitch = talk to boss about what issues she has with you (It's amazing how many people don't know when they're being nasty). Problem with coursework = Let's sit down together and get the coursework finished. But I've recently come to realise that this isn't what Jana wants.

She's a smart girl. She doesn't need me to step into her life and resolve all her issues with a single swipe from my super man powers. What she wants is for me to sit back and pretend to listen, whilst she sorts out and compartmentalises the days events in her head. So whilst I'm thinking about how nice pies taste, Jana's resolving her issues and de-stressing.*

* Note to guys, it's worth grunting acknowledgemnt occasionally during theses periods, so, whilst you're really thinking about head gaskets and manifold sprockets, you are at least giving the appearance of paying attention.**

**Note to women, on these occasions never ask what the guy is thinking, as you will invariably be disappointed (unless you're really interested in car mechanics).

I can't help but feel my last long term relationship failed, mostly because of poor communication. Mind you, I also suspect that if we all lived in silk lined tents with six women to every man, the world would be a better place (it would at least mean the women can de-stress the days activities without male attention), so what do I know?

Hit me with your thoughts.


rm_PurryKitty2 49M/51F
9753 posts
8/6/2006 10:13 am

Who cares what he thinks about Israel, can he fuck good?

Purry {=}


rm_turtleBurp 45F
1273 posts
8/6/2006 10:29 am

LMAO! It's so true, we don't need you to listen at all... just to sit quietly while we rant. I think they should invent invisible headphones so you can listen to the footy at the same time.

Actually, i did have an inverse relationship with a bloke who moaned about work all the time. I always ended up trying to sort his shit out for him... couldn't help myself. He never appreciated it and just accused me of trying to get him sacked... we'd have got on much better with a set o them invisible headphones.

bigarsemonkeys 39M/41F
6 posts
8/9/2006 12:10 pm

Sorry to disapoint purrykitty2 - did I mention that it's a non sexual agency?

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