must I?  

bi1curiousgrrrl 50F
42 posts
6/2/2006 2:29 pm

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6/25/2006 10:39 pm

must I?

I've been seriously considering cancelling my account and hiding my profile. It's really getting out of hand. It seems I must have a sort of disconnect somewhere. Lately I am attracting all sorts of married guys looking to cheat, as well as those looking for some one-time action... meaning they expect me to show up in some hotel room, in a teddy holding a bag of vibrators. Maybe this is your idea of a safe and fun time, but not mine. Does anyone else have this problem?

I had thought I made myself rather clear on my "about me" profile thingie-whatever you want to call it-but that doesn't seem to matter to these people. I find my mailbox stuffed with "I'm married but need more loving" sorts of email. Or "Hey let's fuck. Are you free on Saturday?" Give me a BREAK.

Okay yeah I don't need that. If I wanted a one time fuck I could get it. Anyone can.

I'm a serious person. I don't think it's wrong to take my life seriously. Not only is it not safe to do that whole "meet and fuck" thing it's really not what I want my life to be about.

I mean, really... I can't blindly trust some guy/girl/couple I met on the internet to have the same level of cleanliness and d/d free that I have. But I can go have a drink with someone, maybe go to a movie, see what happens and then make a decision.

Usually I'm pretty good at separating the wheat from the chaff, but there are some pretty good liars out there. Which is why I think it's important to take it slowly. People lie all the time... but it's harder to lie over time to someone you're wanting to befriend.

If you can't handle the fact that I would like a couple of emails, then a couple of phone calls before meeting, and then even our meeting will be just "hi" sort of checking things out... then I'm not for you.

I take my time for a reason. There are a lot of other women who feel differently. I'm sure that works for them. It does not work for me.

I'll just write this again, for fun, maybe someone will read this and take it to heart: for my purposes, I am not into cheating. If your wife is not aware that you're dating, if she's not part of the equation, move on. This girl is NOT into the lying/cheating/being an asshole thing. If you are wanting just to meet and fuck and forget... move on. That isn't my goal. Don't waste your time, don't waste mine. If you are into domination, hardcore porn, fetishes, stuff like that... you're probably not going to like how vanilla I truly am. I may come across as a bad girl, but really, I'm an adventurous spirit with a straight-laced reality. I've tried a lot of new things... I know what I like and I know that a lot of the things I've tried... I don't really want to repeat. Read some previous entries for more on that. (I'm not submissive nor into bondage in any form.)

What is my goal? To make a few friends, have a few laughs and if we like each other enough to move on to the fun stuff, then fabulous. You couldn't ask for a better or more honest and sincere friend. And you couldn't ask for a more generous companion/friend with benefits. If it ever starts to get weird for me, I will be honest and I will let my friend know.

Really... I'm not looking for a ring, nor am I looking to be anyone's girlfriend. If that happens, then it does. But frankly, right now... I don't know that I've got the time nor the inclination. But I do have time for friendship, honesty and some conversation.

puntachueca 106M

6/3/2006 4:39 pm

I kind of doubt very many people actually connect here on the superficial level advertised for precisely the reasons you state. For lots of people this seems to be just an electronic fantasy game.
I realized there is a parallel here to the real get to know someone slowly through the blogs and then interest builds.
I'm seeing this is an interesting place to make friends...people who comment on stuff that one doesn't ordinarily encounter in the other world...a great way to get to know how someone's mind works.

trekker82 36M
39 posts
6/6/2006 8:03 pm

I definately agree. Its one thing for a couple to invite someone but another eniterly for half of one to go looking for cheating purposes.

I also think very few people on her are actually serious in any manner of the word. Ive lived in two areas since I started on this site. Big city and small town. And the only real difference is the volume of fakers. I have to say I have never met anyone on here yet. People always get through one email and maybe an IM conversation or two before they just lose interest. IMHO if you dont have the patience for more than that then...oh well. Its too bad really but thats the way it goes down a lot it seems.

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