Working hard?!  

beewulf9 39M
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2/9/2006 10:08 pm

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3/29/2006 9:19 am

Working hard?!

I was talking to a friend who was mentioning that they have a wedding to go to over the upcoming weekend. Their dilemma was "What the heck should I wear?!" Now since they live in Australia and it being summer there I said why don't you just wearing something simple and elegant like a sun dress or a skirt with a spaghetti strap top. Their response was "But that is what everybody else going to wear. How will I look different if I wear something similar to everyone else?"

I did recognize something in what my friend was saying. It is important to somehow stand out in the crowd; which made me realize that this site is another example of people standing out in the midst of thousands of people. What are ways to stand out? I think there are few blogs that explain the way to stand out with your emails and even photos. Thank you to those who wrote them. Very important reading material.

This blog entry though is to indicate something else though; that on this site distinguishing yourself as a man may be more difficult than a women. For starters men out-number the women on this site something like 9:1. Well, I guess that means if you want to be distinguishing as a man you should put up photos. Well, here is where the tricky part comes up. How do you make a dress shirt and tie look different from all the other guys wearing the same? How do you make skin look different?

I really do think men think about these things in depth. Hence some really original photos and photo shop editing; definitely puts me to shame. And of course their are other ways to stand out- blogging being one of those ways- but at the day woman are not the only ones who have to work hard to be noticed.

What do you feel you do to be noticed on this site? What made you notice me?

(Princess Lips)

2/9/2006 10:52 pm

I just blog on-
and stop where I find an interesting post...


Sister_Act_4_You 39F/39F

2/9/2006 11:16 pm

I don't try to stand out on this site at all....quite the contrary. In fact, at this point I am primarily here to write things on my blog. Sure, if some really hot guy comes along, and the planets are aligned properly, I might meet him but it is not my primary motivation.

I suppose people do notice me because of the sister thing (they are soon disappointed), then the pics (I personally think they are all pretty tasteful), and finally I think most know me through what I write.

What made me notice you? Your comments on my blog.

beewulf9 39M

2/10/2006 6:13 am

Princess, I am grateful that you found this post interesting. And I appreciate your blog. What made you stand out to me is how very sexy your red lips are in your photo.

Louisa, do you really try to hide? (What I think is the opposite of trying to be noticed.) I really was taken by the photo of you on the beach. I found that image sensual. Your blog has a lot of poetry and honest describing your heart and I witnessed someone truly beautiful. I guess I keep returning to read about that.

Dear Huny. You write beautifully. You entertain and bring me to tears sometimes. And I always enjoy how very playful you are sexually. A small correction here; I may be youngish but I definately a man and proud of all the details that make me even my flaws.

Dear Silhouette I did wear just boxers to a party. I personally don't have much evidence of that fact. I think everyone else does who attended the bloggers convention. Maybe if you ask nicely they will share.

rm_1hotwahine 64F
21091 posts
2/10/2006 10:19 am

I just try to be myself. As trite as it sounds, that's where we are truly unique. On the other hand, I don't try to attract quantity, just quality. What I mean is, I want the people who are meant to find my blog to find it. And that's the only part that matters.

As for your blog, I initially became aware of it because your comments were interesting on other blogs and I remembered them. But then after Chicago, it was because you were you. You kind of wandered away for awhile and now I've got to get myself into the habit of checking your blog again, lol.

Also, if you email me with a normal email address, I can send you access to my Chicago pix.

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

beewulf9 39M

2/11/2006 8:41 am

Dear Wahine, I thank you for stating that we are all unique. I want you to know that your comments are very thought provoking too and appreciate them. As for the reason why I disappeared after the convention there are sometimes that real life drags us back into it.

I wish you well and thank you for your words.

ArgosPlumyKooky 46F
3902 posts
2/11/2006 10:31 pm

on my blog, i try to be me and hope others like it. i stumbled upon your blog. you stood out because you seem dark and mysterious, and i enjoy men with the dark brooding look who are also well spoken.

beewulf9 39M

2/12/2006 6:26 am

Dear Lioness, Thank you for your words. And there are many reasons your blog stands out. I wish you fun and peace.

Dear Snatch, You are a wonderful person and thank you for the compliment.


SxyCrazyCool 39F

2/14/2006 5:04 pm

I saw your blog between the fresh posts.. and I got curious cuz ur Greek.. and then I kept on reading because you have a way with words.. you seem like a gentle, smart, sensitive person.. it's nice to read what you wrote

beewulf9 39M

2/17/2006 12:14 pm

Dear SexyCrazyCool, I appreciate your compliments. And I hope all the people who are Greek will have that charm upon ya. My best wishes to you.

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