bedroomice2003 45M
359 posts
5/7/2006 3:23 pm

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3/17/2007 3:53 am


This is my response to another blogger who asked why we always say we want attachment-free sex and yet sabotage our own efforts by getting the heart involved.

I think in any sexual relationship these feelings just naturally come to the surface regardless of any preconceived rules we may have agreed upon beforehand. The challenge is what to do with those feelings, not to deny we have them. Do we embark on a full-fledged romance with its inherent pitfalls and perils, or do we keep an emotional distance and concentrate solely on pleasure? Some people get attached easily and confuse it for love, others spend so much time running away from any emotional entanglements that they cheat themselves on a wonderful relationship. It's a fine line we walk, to be sure, but it's worth it to discover the answers to those questions and connect with another human being, whether it's just for one night or a lifetime.

Why do we always want that which we can't have?

SweetDarlinAngel 40F
2996 posts
5/8/2006 10:38 am

Sometimes it is easier to deny them than embrace them. As embracing them just means more pain nad confusion and complication for all involved. No matter how hard one tries to stay "detached", some circumstances eventually lead to emotinal involvement inevitably. When a connection is so wonderful and strong and constant as to cause two people to crave each other, the lines drawn are sometimes blurred. Good luck with keeping a distance, it would certainly make things easier on all involved. Great Post by the way.


imLadyBambi 59M/51F

5/8/2006 9:05 pm

Mr. Bambi here...

Just thought I'd let Lady Bambi's blogging buddies know that she is in the hospital (pneumonia). Don’t worry about her, the hospitalization was because the doctors felt that a more aggressive course of treatment (IV antibiotics vs. oral medication) is needed at this juncture ‒ her life is not in danger. For the time being I’ll post the blogs that she has already written on a daily basis (until they run out).

As for responding to your blogs (being polite and reciprocating), here’s the problem:

My father just passed away. Lady Bambi is in the hospital, our new car (the Bambi-mobile) was just sideswiped while parked and no one left a note, there was a foiled burglary at one of our houses last night, I’m headed off to Seattle within the week for the funeral, and… I hope you understand.

“Mr. Bambi”

herotherside 42F
463 posts
8/1/2006 7:02 am

Well said, both of you.

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