I'm Not.....  

beachlovinbbw 42F
165 posts
9/2/2006 6:11 pm

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9/5/2006 3:30 pm

I'm Not.....

Okay I've been talking to a guy from this site for about 3 months now. We've discussed every subject under the sun. We've discussed politics, religion, sex, current events, movies, families, ect...

Knowing me for 3 months he's seen me have my bad days and my bitchy days, and days where I just hate everything and everyone and want to be left alone.

Yesterday was one of those days. I was tired because I didn't have enough sleep the night before, I had a very heated arguement with my ex, I will still pissed off about my insurance company issues( read frazzled if you want to know about it), it was raining and windy, and I was having PMS.

When he IM'd me yesterday I told him that I didn't really wanna talk to anyone and that I'd IM him on Saturday. He says ok. About 20 minutes later he IM's me again and says he really wants to talk. I again tell him that I don't wanna talk. This happens off and on for about an hour. Then he says I'm going to bed. So I said goodnight......now don't you know that about 5 minutes later my fucking phone rings and it's him!!! Now mind you it's 2:30 in the morning. I answer and he's all happy and cheerful. I again said to him that I'd talk to him on saturday. Well being the smartass that he is he says well technically it is Saturday. Yeah well I wasn't ammused and hung up on him. 5 minutes pass and he calls me again. This time when I answered I layed into him and told him to f*cking leave me alone. We got into an arguement and said some things that I shouldn't have, but I was royally pissed off. Before he hung up he told me that I was mean!.......ME?? MEAN??? You have to be kidding me!!!!

Ok so maybe I was mean to him, but it was warrented. If someone tells you more than once that you don't wanna talk...leave the person alone. Don't keep harassing them.

elysianpleasure 48M

9/2/2006 8:29 pm

Somewhere in there he should have gotten the hint. There is a time for a friend to try and cheer you up... even when you don't want to be... and then there is a time for realizing someone just needs some space and to back off. Seems he may have missed the line there someplace.... if it is a one time thing I wouldn't be too hard on him. I have screwed up a few times... trying to "over help". If it is a chronic thing... then I would worry about him.

Reeducer 68M

9/5/2006 12:31 am

I totally agree with you and your actions. You showed a lot of restraint and should be commended. It seems like you gave the dude enough warning to leave you alone, he didn't, so you had every right to get pissed at him. Maybe you went a little overboard. That is up to you to decide. And it is your choice whether you want to talk to the man about this issue or not. Sometimes though if a person cannot get through to a pest then anger is warranted. I don't think you were mean, you were justified to get the jerk off your back and give you space. In a sense it is the same with me. I was born a redhead, now my hair looks between red, blond and white, so being the proverbial redhead I have a temper. I can take a lot of verbal abuse without lashing out, but when the point is reached where I can't take anymore, watch out. I explode. Sometimes I lash out and say things that I regret probably as soon as I say them. My choice then is to make amends when I am in a better frame of mind. Another choice I am able to sometimes make is to take a few deep breaths before speaking. Actually, what I live by today and suggest to my partner is if either one of us gets really angry and is about to say things that they don't mean or would regret later, take a walk, cool down and try again to sort out the issue. I repeat my chant also, but that is another issue entirely.

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