Age is just a number, they say  

bayles101 64F
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12/30/2005 2:53 pm

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10/8/2006 9:35 am

Age is just a number, they say

An amazing number of young men on here want to date older women! They say it's because older women are more self assured, sexually assertive and secure. Maybe it's because we are more likely to be financially secure and not necessarily looking for someone who is "generou$"! I think a lot of younger women are still getting over the trauma of being molested or when they were growing up; that takes years to recover from. Women don't reach their prime until they're in the thirties, they say, and it was that way for me.

Men have told me that age is just a number--yeah, and my number is a lot higher than your number! What does a man in his twenties have in common with a woman in her forties or fifties? Probably not much.

Yes, it is flattering but a young man wanting to have sex with an older woman is not good food for an ongoing relationship. They are in such different stages of life. Can a woman share her fears of getting older, her occasional achy knee or hip? Can she get help with dealing with retirement issues? More likely, a young man wants to try out an older woman, much like he might try a fetish like bondage, and give it up soon after.

frell1975 43M

12/30/2005 9:53 pm

You know, I read this and I start to think about it...After quite a few minutes have gone by, I really can't pinpoint, why the fascination? I too, find myself attracted more to the women above my age, rather than the ones around, or below, my age. Deep down...or maybe not so deep down...could it just be about the sex? Or is it the need to find someone who will love us? Are we seeking others with more experience in life to possibly see, in advance, what our own future could hold?

Ultimately, is it just a self-esteem issue? Are we afraid of looking to our peers in fear of them looking to someone else? Maybe with age, comes security? It may be...but, all in all, I am afraid to say...we are male, therefore, the leading thought is just sex. With more sex after that...we'll worry about the emotional part later.

Thanks for something to think helps to use the brain we fellows have on top once in a while. It doesn't get used as much as the one below the belt.

Happy New Year!

gussax 52M

9/29/2006 12:08 am

Your assumption is that people are looking for a long term relationship. I currently prefer old women because I am not looking for a long term relationship. I know that if I were to currently date someone my own age (I'm 41) or younger I would likely end up married with children, etc. I am not ready for that, so for me dating older women works. I have no plan of a long term relationship with someone 20 years older then me, but a short-term (about 5 years or so) relationship with someone older is perfect for me. Someone whose kids are grown up and out of the house, who has free time without having to find a baby sitter. Also you don't have to worry about spending the night, and you don't have to worry if a kid is going to come in on you while you are doing it on the kitchen table. Someone who you don't have to worry if she is going to become pregnent. The last thing I want is to give half my income to someone else for a mistake that lasts 5 minutes. Someone who basically wants me for me and isn't looking for someone to latch onto.

bayles101 64F

10/7/2006 6:20 pm

Ouch, you prefer to date "old women"? Two simple letters missing (oldER) make SUCH a difference!

nordic672 83M

10/8/2006 8:19 am

Let me throw another angle to the Question that "Age is just a number". At my listed age, it is assumed by many that I can't perform as well as a younger man. The lady I see and is the one in my profile pics is 20 years younger than me and she feels that I more than am able to perform well. Her comment to me once was that she prefers the quality of our love makeing versus the quanity. She has not a problem that I can't perform all nite. She is more than happy with the way things are.

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