Be Ugly  

barbiebunny 37F
6789 posts
11/27/2005 12:29 pm

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Be Ugly

I found this in my email box.. I had a ugly cat once too... so I had to share. -B


Everyone in the apartment complex that
I that lived in knew who Ugly was.

Ugly was the resident tomcat. Ugly loved three things in this world: fighting, eating garbage, and, shall we say, love. The combination
of these things combined with a life spent outside had their effect on Ugly.

To start with, he had only one eye and where the other should have been was a gaping hole. He was also missing his ear on the same side, his left foot appeared to have been badly broken at one time, and had healed at an unnatural angle, making him look like he was always turning the corner. His tail has long ago been lost, leaving only the smallest stub, which he would constantly jerk and twitch.

Ugly would have been a dark gray tabby, striped-type, except for the sores covering his head, neck, even his shoulders with thick, yellowing scabs. Every time someone saw Ugly there was the same reaction. "That's one UGLY cat!"

All of the children were warned not to touch him, the adults threw rocks at him, hosed him down, squirted him when he tried to come in their
homes, or shut his paws in the door when he would not leave. Ugly always had the same reaction.

If you turned the hose on him, he would stand there, getting soaked until you gave up and quit. If you threw things at him, he would curl his lanky body around his feet in forgiveness. Whenever he spied children, he would come running, meowing frantically and bump his head against their hands, begging for their love. If you ever picked him up, he would immediately begin suckling on your shirt, earrings, whatever he could find.

One day Ugly shared his love with the neighbor's huskies. They did not respond kindly, and Ugly was badly mauled. From my apartment I could hear his screams, and I tired to rush to his aid.

By the time I got to where he was laying, it was apparent that Ugly's sad life was almost at an end. Ugly lay in a wet circle, his back and lower back twisted grossly out of shape, a gaping tear in the white strip of fur that ran down his front. As I picked him up and tried to carry him home, I could hear him wheezing and gasping, and could feel him struggling.

It must be hurting him terribly, I thought. Then I felt a familiar tugging, sucking sensation on my ear. Ugly, in so much pain, suffering, and obviously dying, was trying to suckle my ear.

I pulled him closer to me, and he bumped the palm of my hand with his head, then I could hear the distinct sound of purring. Even in the
greatest pain, that ugly battled-scarred cat was asking only for a little affection, perhaps some compassion.

At that moment I thought Ugly was the most beautiful, loving creature I had ever seen. Never once did he try to bite or scratch me, or even try to get away from me, or struggle in any way. Ugly just looked up at me completely trusting in me to relieve his pain.

Ugly died in my arms before I could get inside, but I sat there and held him for a long time afterwards, thinking about how one scarred,
deformed little stray could so alter my opinion about what it means to have true pureness of spirit, to love so totally and truly. Ugly taught me more about giving and compassion than a thousand books, lectures, or talk show specials ever could, and for that I will always be thankful.

Hehad been scarred on the outside, but I was scarred on the inside, and it as time for me to move on and learn to love truly and deeply. To
give my total to those I cared for.

Many people want to be richer, more successful, well liked, beautiful,but for me, I will always try to be Ugly.

Love and compassion, and ease someone elses pain. Be ugly.

Its good to be...ME

wickedwench1960 57F

11/27/2005 1:40 pm

This story brought Ugly, beautiful tears to my eyes! My friend once had an ancient collie dog. At the age of 14, Lassie, as she was named was blind, losing her fur, and struggled mightily to get to her feet. My friend's children campaigned to have her put to sleep...out of her misery so to speak. That was my opinion as well, until one afternoon. I watched her struggle to a standing position and walk to the back door. She barked to be let out. Once at the top of the porch stairs, she paused. I watched as the wind blew in her face, ruffling what little, scraggily fur she had left. It was then, that I noticed the smile on her face. She was still happy to be alive, amid the presence of her loved ones. Now, whenever I feel a warm breeze ripple thru my hair, I look up at the sun and smile, grateful to be alive, and think of old Lassie.

im_your_man77 40M
961 posts
11/27/2005 1:55 pm

LOL nice story. I've always found a hidden beauty in the ugly since my days as an artist.

Another blog on the watch list, thanks for that! Oy Vey, this blog reading addiction is fast eating up my spare time.

rm_Brightstar69 52M

11/27/2005 2:12 pm

Bunny....That is how we all feel at some point in our lives...or we should feel like that alot!! is real!!! ALOHA from Maui

PrincessKarma 44F
6188 posts
11/27/2005 5:25 pm

I have known how Ugly felt... to ask only for love and not receive it. I feel it even now.


The Big Bang was the mother of all orgasms.PrincessKarma

AnEnigma517 60M

11/28/2005 8:04 am

The truly Beautiful people are those who don't know that they are...

onelittlesecret 34M
1579 posts
11/28/2005 9:48 am

This really touched me...

SeekingFun337 65M/61F
657 posts
11/28/2005 10:18 am

Beauty, Ugliness, is like good and evil... what is percieved is formed, and shaped by our societal environment, and expectations... what may be considered evil, or noxious in America, is often cosidered good in other parts of the world, and visa versa.... the simplest thing for those who step out of their world for a second to see the beauty, and find compassion for "ugly", is to acknowledge that side by side in the human condition are cruelty, and compassion. It is the inate human ability to be compassionate, and to make intellient decisions where the percieved evil or ugly is recogized for more than the obvious, visual representation.

without pain, would we truly appreciate the lack of it, without sadness, could we tryly appreciate happiness. It seems our world brings new enlightenment, if we are only open, and willing to accept the expand our conscience. Love knows no bounds, but hate has a definite end, for all concerned.

And, if you truly look around, just in your daily travels, you will see people, couples who don't fit your view of a "beautiful person, or couple", but they are so beautiful to each other, and for them, there is no ugliness.

Ugly wasn't ugly, just unique, as we all are, as life is, and life is beautiful in all it's forms... it is the hate, jealous, perception that prevents humanity from seeing this universally...

"Ugly" had the unique and special opportunity to know love, and caring in his greatest time of need. This is the best of the human spirit.

toothysmile 51M
16517 posts
11/28/2005 3:32 pm

Oh Bunz...

I am in tears.
Ugly was beautiful.
One of the best posts I 've read here. So apt for him.

Thank you.

kokpelli_999 62M

11/28/2005 6:05 pm

(sniffle, sniffle, sniffle)

My exwife and I had a boxer named Cleo. My ex was walking her on a leash when another dog attacked her and all hell broke loose. It ended with her being hit by a car in the front left shoulder. She didn't recover and always just carried that leg. The vet advised us amputation may be an option...we just couldn't do it. She looked pathetic when she ran. Then the neighbors across the alley got a golden lab pup. He started coming over to play with Cleo. As he grew and the play became more intense Cleo started regaining use of her leg. Eventually she regained seventy to eighty percent of it.
It was a remarkable recovery, she just needed the right kind of therapy.

Your Ugly Story was good for me, thank you Bunnz

bardicman 51M

11/28/2005 7:47 pm

<---- Is Very Ugly...

I am not dead yet

rm_LilBlondeNZ 41F
1028 posts
11/28/2005 9:26 pm

Beauty may fade, but Ugly is forever


mrgrimshade 45M

11/28/2005 10:00 pm


reminds me of my neighbor's dog...he's be ran over countless times, mangled and mangy, but is this nicest dog I know. Today in the snow, he left his bed on the porch limped up to me when he saw me drive up and waited patiently for me to scratch him and pet him real good...


the reserve cabana boy

Plano69 55M

11/28/2005 10:17 pm

Thanks for that... Sometimes I feel so jaded...
It's nice to be reminded what's important...

rm_goddess1946 107F
13518 posts
11/28/2005 10:46 pm

Thanks for a heartfelt post.. {=}

Just a little food for thought.............
If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you...

tillerbabe 57F

11/29/2005 3:49 am dear "wikked" wonderful sister....kisses {=} to you for showing so much compassion to "Ugly" who was truly beautiful....I see this so many times with the homeless that I deal with....I've come to the conclusion that I want to be "ugly" so I can join with those that so many turn there backs on. Thank you sweetie....for this revelation. God, I love you! {=}

ilsgicemru 73M
2822 posts
11/29/2005 5:17 am

Thanks for the beautiful story, barbie!!....I will love our neighborhood Tom, a little more.

DTand5Speed 42M/51F

11/29/2005 4:08 pm

Oh gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaawd! **sobs**

brightblonde3 59F

11/30/2005 3:49 pm

BB, I just hugged my beloved old tomcats.


nightstalker172 37M
1258 posts
11/30/2005 9:23 pm

wow.....Its take alot...but even I shed a tear for that one ...damn dogs....

popmuse01 36F

11/30/2005 11:07 pm

I feel the same way as PK does...however, I know EXACTLY how you feel first cat wasn't a fact, this tomcat was dumped in my neighborhood (we have a lot of that) because he had a broken back leg that didn't heal correctly...but he was the most beautiful cat to me. Reminded me of Morris the Cat (ya know from the cat food box). Another stray I adopted was not as scarred at Ugly was..No missing parts at least..but pretty scarred from fighting with the dogs the neighbors had (they had 9!), but he was the most protective pet! He and another stray we adopted got their groove on and from that, I got a wonderful cat who is exactly like him in temperment and loyalty. *sheds a few tears* Ugly is beauty in disguise...and goes to show you that if you make the is worth it in the end!

I'm leaving the site end of March. To those who want to keep in touch, see blog for details.

barbiebunny 37F
5597 posts
12/1/2005 11:47 am

higgins..please explain

Its good to be...ME

SilkenKiera 39F  

12/2/2005 9:49 am

Tears are streaming down my face. I'm a huge sucker for stories where animals teach us a lesson on life. I loved it, thank you.


rm_MustangD6644 53M
1031 posts
12/7/2005 2:47 pm

I was sort of adopted by a stray cat like Ugly, and he had his own unique character, not as ugly in looks as ugly, but a stray none the less. He took to me and appreciated my kindness in his own way. I do miss him from time to time now.

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