The past and present  

attractiveBBW 45F
15 posts
7/24/2006 3:09 am

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10/21/2006 8:51 am

The past and present


just to start, my life was amazing when i was in florida. But on December 12,2005 I lost everything. Around 2am the kitchen caught fire and within 8mins the kitchen was gone.I am very greatful that I was home (work nights) none of the smoke detectors went off, but having a hearing loss my sence of smell is great (sometimes not a good thing) I am a widowed mother of six, so I got my boys out of the house with the help of my older two and called 911 from my cellphone but it was already to far gone for them to be any help in saving my home of the past eight years. It was a rental property and i had no insurance, eight years raising six kids on my own working two jobs to provide for them off any goverment asstance I Was reduced to being homeless. In case your wondering the fire started by an electrical short in one of the stove burners. We had a pot of oil on the back one that help catch the spark and went to the cabinets from there. Red cross put us in a hotel for 3 days and gave me a voucher for clothing since we walked away with no shoes and the kids in p.j's.

I went to my friends house after the 3 days were up she wasnt home much so it seemed ideal for the boys to stay in school and me working as usual. She ended up behind on her bills so helped her since we were staying there long story short we left there and went to another friends house but she was such a nasty house keeper i couldnt take working and cleaning her trailor which had an infestation of rats, the boys thought they were her pets (got to love kids lol) Florida had no help for us to get on our feet so i moved to were my family is in Maryland

We arrived in Maryland January 20,2005. I didn't want to move here, but I had to think about the boys having security in there life. My mom and step dad seemed great, I got on with my step dads job with in a few weeks making good money. Then I learned the cost of living here was amazing compared to were i came from. I worked nights as usual and my mom watched my kids for me but having to pay her rent of 700mo and food cost of 400 mo i couldnt save much for my own place much less my $300 car payment. I took a trip back to Florida with my youngest so he could spend the summer with his dad (different dad of course) and i went to see the house - was very emotional, they had rebuilt and sold it. It wasn't just the loss of my stuff, but my lifestyle and i had the best neighbors. I left Florida once again to only come back to more delima

I opened the door the morning after getting back to Protective Services, my mother was being accused of abusing my twins. I was told they took pictures of bruses and the police were involved. I was so angry, How did I not know this was going on? I mean the twins are 10,I don't bath them, and they never said a word. Later found out they were told not to or things would get worse for them - so again we left and homeless again. We went from hotels to hotels while still working things were rough.

I had to bring the boys to work with me and my job at first was ok with it then there was issues that i couldnt anymore they pulled me off my shift for the night which killed my paycheck. and at this point paying 340wk for a hotel i couldnt afford to lose any money. I got in touch with my aunt and she was able to keep the kids for me so i could fight for my job, which I managed to keep but they took away my evaluation which was already over a month late. When I went back to work 3 days later there was a new girl in training - figured this was going to be my replacement. She had been there for over a month now I dont like her much. Even more so now that I know she is making $3 more per hour than I am and I'm training her. I was refusued my raise again a few days ago. Not much I can do. I'm looking for another job, but have to keep this one and take the crap until i find something else.

So, now I'm at my aunts 1br apartment - trying to make it work with 6kids and 2adults. I thank God everyday for her helping me out and that she is in my life to help me with the kids and save money - and date when i can

bustybettyboop 51F  
59326 posts
7/24/2006 4:28 am

omg! where to begin...i think u r one tough cookie first of all...and u need some great big ole' hugs!!! in blogland u will see we are all one big happy family! and i for one am rooting for u! if u were closer i'd help u out in a heartbeat! my house is huge! hugz,busty

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ShyWhisper2006 54F
15175 posts
7/24/2006 5:22 am

Oh my...I am speechless...*hugs you*
Your strength will keep you strong amid this wave that has your sweet family in its clutches....
I pray as the sun touches you today that your strength be ever renewed and that the varied clouds that try to block your path...blow away with each breath you take...
May your love and goodness that you hold your family in, ...be enough to turn the tides in your favor...
My blessings my dear...and know that others do care and if only to know of you ...their wishes and thoughts and prayers...renew your hope and keep you lifted up ...*smiles*
Be well and Take care


free2chose2 67F

7/24/2006 6:58 am

Hugs here also
Your a widow? What about social security for the children?
Apply for section 8 housing-there is no shame in that-its an avenue to take you back to self sufficiency
Prayers coming your way

Don't worry, be Happy


funkentjay1 57M

7/28/2006 5:37 pm

Just checking to see if i can help with anything. A friend to listen to anything. @};-


attractiveBBW 45F

7/31/2006 5:15 am

Thanks everyone! I'm going to update in a second. I cried reading your replys. And To FREE I did get a section 8 voucher from Florida after the fire and couldnt find a house their, had it transfered here to MD but only washington co would take it,and it had to be in city limits all 127 houses/apartments/duplexes I looked at had issues Failed inspection, landlords wanting more than voucher would go, or there in an area were drug deals were going on and hooker were working. not that i am picky at this point, just i have 2 teenagers (16 & 14) and I dont want that for them much less the other boys. the voucher expires today actually. I do make decent money, just cant afford the high deposits to get in a place ..


funkentjay1 57M

8/9/2006 8:24 pm

I wish i had the money to give you to help out. It can be so hard even if things don't happen to you. Kent


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